Is there ever a "perfect" situation?

MRInurse

So, my husband (who's been the one who "wasn't ready" until now) is now trying to make everything "perfect" when it comes to conceiving. And I can't really tell if this is his way of putting it off longer or if he truly wants it all to be "perfect". First, he had his blood drawn and he's going to the doctors this week to make sure he is healthy enough to conceive. Which I don't quite understand because if he did have a deficiency in some area, it would only mean that he may have a low sperm count right? So, we're supposed to start trying next week but now he says he wants to wait until he takes me away next month for our Anniversary so our first time (trying) will be in a special place and it'll be (what he calls) "perfect". Is there ever really a perfect situation or a perfect experience? I'm getting so tired of all these rules or excuses... Is it normal for a man to put this much thought into all of his? And is there really ever a "perfect" moment?

MrsRustyGriswold

It'll never be perfect.  I'd say if he's only asking to wait one month, no biggie, he's probably excited and romanticizing it.  Which is fine. 

If one month turns into one more and one more, then I'd say he's making excuses.

biomaj5

I've been waiting 3 years and counting for my DH to get a SA, so I know about excuses. Ditto PP, if it's just for a month, then his concern and attention to the process is nice and romantic. If he holds out longer than that, then I'd have a talk with him about it.

ASmallWonder

I'd maybe give him the month but also make sure he understands that your anniversary isn't necessarily going to fall within your fertile window.  If he's not in the know about fertility he might be under the impression that you can get pregnant whenever you feel like it.

DebateThis

Ditto PP's. Also, a blood test cannot tell if you have sperm issues. There are far more issues than just quality, but that's not something to worry about now.

victoria+james

If he wants a month I'd give it to him... My DH wants perfection and we're looking at another 2 years minimum... Ugh!

salt78

The "perfect experience" that resulted in my DD was a Monday afternoon quickie. I think he's putting entirely too much thought into it or maybe his nerves are getting the best of him.

amandarins

I think you should let him have his moment, then take over after your trip

chels0120

HAHAHA we don't live in a perfect world and very few people I know have ever had a perfect conception. While the sentiment is sweet, the chances of everything just being perfect are pretty unrealistic. Even the conceiving while at the perfect place on your anniversary. So few people get it on the first time! Have you asked him??