I'm ready for another but husband says no

nortonmegan

I am a 26 and a mother of a beautiful 18 month old named Aiden. My husband is older than me and in his 40s. He has previously had children who are all grown with thier own families. We have been married for 2 years but together for 3 plus. I always thought we would have more than one child. We always talked about another and even planned to start trying. I was diagnosed with Celiac about 6 months ago and was told to wait 6 months before trying to have another. I just recently got my blood results back saying that everything is under control. I told my husband and asked when we could start trying for another. Out of the blue he says no. he told me he was planning on getting the cut, and solidifying the fact we wont have another. after a weeks worth of tears and begging he is reconsidering, but im not sure he is going to budge. I am so lost on what to do. I love him a ton, but i dont know what to do. i feel like something is missing from my life and i feel like i need to have another. I want my son to have a sibling and have some one to grow up with. Anyone have any advice. Ive even thought of leaving him to see if my future would hold something different, but i dont really want this! 

StarfishStamp

What a tough situation!  I'm sorry you're going through this.  I don't have any real advice to give.  Do you know why he changed his mind?  Does he understand how upset you are, and that you'd even consider leaving him if he does this?  Good luck!

joanithegreat

Have you asked him why he doesn't want another child? 
You also need to (calmly) explain to him why having another child is so important to you.

BTW, when you are explaining it to him don't say you want your son to have a sibling.  Say you want him to have a sibling closer to his own age.  If your husband has adult children then your son does have siblings.  Granted they are fully grown, but they are still his siblings.  Your husband may take offense if you act like his kids don't count. 

Erinm278

joanithegreat:

Have you asked him why he doesn't want another child? 
You also need to (calmly) explain to him why having another child is so important to you.

This for sure!

MrsRustyGriswold

joanithegreat:

Have you asked him why he doesn't want another child? 
You also need to (calmly) explain to him why having another child is so important to you.

BTW, when you are explaining it to him don't say you want your son to have a sibling.  Say you want him to have a sibling closer to his own age.  If your husband has adult children then your son does have siblings.  Granted they are fully grown, but they are still his siblings.  Your husband may take offense if you act like his kids don't count. 

This.

megoroar21

joanithegreat:

Have you asked him why he doesn't want another child? 
You also need to (calmly) explain to him why having another child is so important to you.

BTW, when you are explaining it to him don't say you want your son to have a sibling.  Say you want him to have a sibling closer to his own age.  If your husband has adult children then your son does have siblings.  Granted they are fully grown, but they are still his siblings.  Your husband may take offense if you act like his kids don't count. 

Yes this, exactly. 

MsCraftsy

megoroar21:

joanithegreat:

Have you asked him why he doesn't want another child? 
You also need to (calmly) explain to him why having another child is so important to you.

BTW, when you are explaining it to him don't say you want your son to have a sibling.  Say you want him to have a sibling closer to his own age.  If your husband has adult children then your son does have siblings.  Granted they are fully grown, but they are still his siblings.  Your husband may take offense if you act like his kids don't count. 

Yes this, exactly. 

Tritto.

NerdyMama2

joanithegreat:

Have you asked him why he doesn't want another child? 
You also need to (calmly) explain to him why having another child is so important to you.

BTW, when you are explaining it to him don't say you want your son to have a sibling.  Say you want him to have a sibling closer to his own age.  If your husband has adult children then your son does have siblings.  Granted they are fully grown, but they are still his siblings.  Your husband may take offense if you act like his kids don't count. 

This!