Late Term and Child Loss

We named our daughter.

Our second daughter died in utero at 16w. We found out she had died the day before our anatomy scan and didn't find out that she was a girl until a few weeks later. I knew that I wanted to name my baby but DH was reluctant. I won out and we named our second daughter Evie. 

I love my daughter and I love her name but it feels so weird when other's speak it. It is actually a bit jarring to hear it. We only named her after death and I hadn't had a chance to really associate that name with the LO in my belly.  :(  

BFP #1 - Missed M/C, D&C 3.21.11

BFP #2 - Sylvie V. Q. born and died on 10.28.11 at 21w. Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers

BFP #3 - Evie V. Q. Fetal demise @ 16w. DC 7.8.12
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BFP  #4 - Beatrix V. Q. Born 6.2.13 at 23w6d.
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  • Evie is such a beautiful and cute name! I am so sorry!
    Tim 12/30/00 Brad 4/30/02 Alex 9/29/03 Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
  • imagedandywarhol:
     

    I love my daughter and I love her name but it feels so weird when other's speak it. It is actually a bit jarring to hear it. We only named her after death and I hadn't had a chance to really associate that name with the LO in my belly.  :(  

    I think its wonderful that you named your daughter.  I feel the exact same way you do.  We only named our daughter after I delivered, and I have told several people that I feel disconnected from the name, because we always called her baby when she was in my belly.  I love the name Stella, and it was one that we were considering, but it is hard to connect with it.  It's so complicated to be in this place.  Sometimes, I think that if I ever get pregnant again I will name the baby as soon as I know the gender so I will be able to connect with name.

    I hope you can eventually feel that connection with the name Evie, it's beautiful!  

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    BFP #1 Jan. 2011 - mmc Mar. 2011 
    BFP #2 Aug. 2011 - My sleeping angel Stella, born April 21, 2012 
    BFP #3 Nov. 2012 - mmc Dec. 2012
    BFP #4 April 2013 - mc May 2013
    BFP #5 Sept. 2013 - EDD 5.24.14
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  • Evie is a beautiful name! I can relate to your feelings. We were team green and did not know our Patricia was a girl until she was born. We had a couple of girl names in our head, but we went with a different one to honor her great-grandmothers. It was strange at first to hear and speak her name. Now, I can't imagine her having any other name. She was and will always be our Patricia.


      Our Angel Patricia born sleeping 3/30/12 at 31 weeks
    Our Fighter Anna born early 1/8/13 at 26 weeks
    Hoping to bring home #3 due 9/9/15
  • Evie is a beautiful name. I think about you all the time and I hope you are doing okay. I am still so sorry you have to be hurting like this.

    Heather

    DS- Brenden born 11/13/93 Missed miscarriage on March 6, 2007 @ 9 weeks D&C on March 8th 2007. Riley Annalise born 2/25/08 ( 3 weeks early weighing 8 lbs 12.8 oz.) Chemical pregnancy 3/2010. Sydney Adriana born sleeping on 9/30/11 weighing 10lbs 3 oz at 38wks 4 days. Trinity Alivia born via c section at 36 wks 4 days weighing 9 lbs. 5.7 oz. She is our amazing rainbow baby!!! Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers Lilypie First Birthday tickers PGAL buddy drvst8
  • Evie is such a beautiful name! I am so sorry that you had this experience. Stay strong and dont loose your hope never ever. 
  • *hugs* Evie is a beautiful name.
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  • Thanks, ladies. DH was reluctant to use this name because he thought we might want to use it in the future but I didn't think I would be able to use Evie on a future child when we were considering it for this baby. Sigh. The things we have to deal with.


    BFP #1 - Missed M/C, D&C 3.21.11

    BFP #2 - Sylvie V. Q. born and died on 10.28.11 at 21w. Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers

    BFP #3 - Evie V. Q. Fetal demise @ 16w. DC 7.8.12
    Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers

    BFP  #4 - Beatrix V. Q. Born 6.2.13 at 23w6d.
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  • Beautiful name.
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  • Evie is a beautiful name!! I am so sorry for your loss!! 
  • Evie is a beautiful name!  So sorry for your loss:-(
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  • It's a beautiful name and it's good that you named her. When we lost Nathaniel we weren't certain on a name yet, and we were team green. We got used to the name in time, and I hope you will too.

    Big hugs; you have been on my mind.

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  • Evie is such a perfect name! I love it.

    We had originally picked the name Ethan for our boy name when I was pregnant, but when he was stillborn and i saw him, knew his name was Ian. It was very strange because we had been saying Ethan for so long. Every time I said or heard the name Ian was like a small surprise. But I know that I wasn't wrong. His name IS Ian.

    Sometimes, we just have to go with our gut feelings. If yours told you to name your baby girl, Evie, then that is who she was meant to be. Even if you didn't know it at the time when you were pregnant.

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  • I'm so sorry. Evie is a beautiful name.
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  • What a beautiful name! 

    Like you, we hadn't decided on a name and we were Team Green at the time of our loss.  We chose Gabriel, which was a name we were considering.  It felt weird hearing other refer to him as "Gabriel" but in time, we have connected with it and we are happy with our choice.

    Hugs. 

    DD#1 11/7/04 DS#1 6/24/06 Chemical Pregnancy 6/08 DD#2 1/28/10 after secondary infertility, Clomid, & acupuncture missed m/c 6/2010 at 8 weeks (baby stopped growing @ 5.5) DS born sleeping 1/13/2011 due to cord accident at 22 weeks. DD#3 3/10/2012
  • That's a beautiful name
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