How would you handle this?

Disney102399

I will try to make this short...  Last night I talked to my brother and after we hung up I was really upset.  My family never comes to see the girls.  My dad hasn't seen them since March. The brother I talked to hasn't seen them since...  You know I don't even remember...  My older brother did make an effort to come and see them around their birthday but they came when it worked for them.  They showed up 20 mins before nap time...  My brother last night told me the reason they don't see us is because we live to far away...  40 mins.  So far huh?  My brother doesn't have a so called "real" job.  He does little odds and ends stuff.  Cleans churches, plays in a band...  He always asks when I am going to come down and see them.  He wants me to go over sometime during the week and spend the day.  That would be kinda hard for me.  Where are they going to nap?  I would have to pack up all their gear...  It would just be easier for him to come to me...  He always has an excuse though...  It shouldn't be this hard.  After we lost our first set of twins I just thought people would want to come and get to know our girls...  I am just sad and disappointed...  Anyone else have this problem??

jennmarie924

I have the same problem with my family.  Almost all my siblings and even my mom live no more than 20 minutes away and thay haven't come to our house to see our girls since our first week home from the hospital.  They always want us to go out somewhere and they don't even consider how difficult it is to do things with twins.  The thing that bothers me more than anything though is my mom.  She goes over to my brother & SIL's house to see my nephew every week and has seen my girls 4 times total since they were born 3 months ago.  She drives past my house on her way home and still never stops by.  And when she does see the girls, she never holds them or even tries to interact with them.  My MIL lives over 530 miles away and she has seen my DDs more than my family who lives in the same city.  I'm sorry it sounds like your family and my family is one in the same.  I hope it gets better for you.  Just know you are not alone.

kimby3679

My  brother hasn't seen our twins.Him and my sil were very involved in the shower and came to visit at least 4 times while I was hospitalized. Sil visited the babies once for like 10 min in the NICU and my  bro never came. Fast forward almost 3 months later...nothing..and they only live 20 min away tops. DH is really pissed about this, and my mom has tried to hint to him to come, but he is "super busy" he does constuction, there has been a lot of rain, but whatever. I've decided to ignore the issue. Trying to pressure him into coming won' t make the situation any better and he'll be less likely to come. I am very upset about the situation, but I shouldn't have to beg him to see his niece and nephew.....Good luck, I know its tough.