Late Term and Child Loss

Yet another one coming to the board...

One of my friends suggested I come to this board for support, so I've been lurking for a few days. I've found comfort in the words of wisdom I've already found on this board.

I lost my son, Devon Alexander, to placental abruption a week ago today; I was 34w4d pregnant. We found out on August 17 that he was no longer with us, and he was stillborn on August 19. I've made it through the first week of all of this, which has been easier and harder than I thought it would be, but I am still full of ups and downs. It's been a very stressful year - my husband's been deployed, my dad's been deployed, we've had issues with my oldest son - so I absolutely have the guilt that I didn't do enough to lower the stress and protect Devon. 

I hope the days get easier, but I know I have to give myself time to grieve. I hope to turn to this board to find a place to go where others [unfortunately] understand what I'm going through, and I'm so sorry for all of those who have experienced losses. I never thought I would go through this, but I'm determined to come out stronger. 


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  • I'm so sorry about the loss of little Devon. I hate to welcome you here under the circumstances but hope you will be able to find some comfort and support from these wonderful ladies.

    I experienced a placental abruption with my daughter at 21w so I understand the guilt you are feeling. Please be gentle with yourself. Guilt is an awful thing and really does no good. You would've done anything to save and protect your son. If it helps, my dr. said that stress has nothing to do with a placental abruption.

    Grief is like a roller coaster. You will have better days, worse days, and many days at a plateau. Things will become easier but your life will never return to normal. You will reach a new normal but it takes time. Do what you need to get through the day and know that whatever you think and feel is normal and ok. You are not alone and we are here for you however you need us to be.



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  • Hi OSU, I am so sorry for your loss and for the pain you are going through. I also lost my daughter to a very sudden placental abruption. She was 34 weeks. Please feel free to PM me. I know how difficult this is.
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  • I am so sorry for the loss of your son Devon Alexander. I wish you comfort and peace during this time.



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  • I am very sorry for your loss.  Sending you healing thoughts.
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss.
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    I am so sorry for the loss of your Devon Alexander. You are right in that you do have to give yourself time (and permission) to grieve. Some days may be easier, some may be more difficult. I hope you can find some support here among these ladies.

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  • I am so sorry for the loss of your son Devon Alexander. I am glad that you found us we are all here for you when and if you need us.


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  • Thanks for the support ladies. I'm so glad I found this board; you all have been a big help already.

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  • I am so very sorry for your loss!!  I do not post much but it helps me to know that I am not alone!!  Thinking of you!  (((hugs)))
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    I am so sorry for your loss of your son, Devon. The ladies here are amazing. I hope you can find some comfort here with us. Big Hugs! 

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