Anyone else feel this way?

crene84

I know that we're very lucky to have had two possible hits in just a few days but I really want this situation with the nearby BM to work out.  As I posted before, we had a great phone call Wednesday night but I haven't heard anything since.  She had mentioned she would probably talk to me the next day and the next day with a little laugh but again, not even a reply to an e-mail.  I know it hasn't been that long, but I just feel like the day after is so important because after you sleep on it, you normally know how you really feel.. you wake up feeling really good about it or not so good about it.  Maybe I'm just being paranoid, or maybe this isn't my match...but I really hope to hear from her soon.  It is so hard to not bombard her with calls and e-mails, but I know if I did that I could definitely jeopardize this. The fact that she could go into labor any day also doesn't help.

Thanks for listening!

lindsayandleviadopt

My advice is to go somewhere and take your mind off things! Enjoy your spouse before your life gets a little busier. We have just started this process and have not had the chance to have a potential match but this whole process is an emotional roller coaster for everyone involved. I know how much this means to you, and we both know that this is not an easy choice for any BM to make. If you feel good about the phone convo go with that feeling! Good things happen to those that have good optimistic thoughts! Don't stress and worry! Can't wait to hear how this will work itself out! Good luck!

crene84

lindsayandleviadopt:

My advice is to go somewhere and take your mind off things! Enjoy your spouse before your life gets a little busier. We have just started this process and have not had the chance to have a potential match but this whole process is an emotional roller coaster for everyone involved. I know how much this means to you, and we both know that this is not an easy choice for any BM to make. If you feel good about the phone convo go with that feeling! Good things happen to those that have good optimistic thoughts! Don't stress and worry! Can't wait to hear how this will work itself out! Good luck!

Thanks!  I'm actually in Georgia this weekend visiting my new nephew!  He's only 4 weeks old and so cute...but I still can't keep my mind off this possible match..maybe it's even worse since my nephew is the cutest thing and I think "OMG, I could have one of these in a few weeks!" 

DaisyZH

The waiting has to be so hard, and I know you have a really good feeling about this expectant mom.  I would try to relax (I know, totally unrealistic) and just realize that you've done all that you can do and it is out of your hands.  If this is the match for you (which I truly hope it is!) then it will happen, and if not I think your profile must be really good to get so much action in such a short amount of time.  (( Hugs )) Good luck, this will all be worth it in the end!

silliestbunny

I experienced two different types of adoption waiting... our first adoption org was a big place that gave monthly updates of how many times you were presented... while this was defeating, it was all after the fact so you didn't idealize situations.  This was much easier IMO.

Second, we started branching out and looking for all sorts of situations and I knew every time we were being considered.  It is so agonizing and I'd do what you are doing... think about every moment, everything said, I'd rationalize why we would be chosen, etc.  It's tough.  You can tell yourself to keep busy and not think about it.. but I found the journey all encompassing at times.

Hang in there

PS-  In reading your previous post, I am not surprised she hasn't called you.  She's someone that is very choosy and is taking all the time she has to make a decision.  It would almost be uncharacteristic of everything she said if she would have called you right away.  If I were a BM, I think this would be me.  I am not a quick decision maker even with the decisions I know are right.