FFFC

katielynn01

mrstoussaint:

Lovely Lauren:

I'm done quoting people because this is just getting out of hand....

Like I have said, I took part in a thread today that originally had nothing to do with last week. I talked about my child's name, where I got the idea from and so forth...it is very unfortunate that others felt the need to insult what I said TODAY because of what was said LAST WEEK. I don't feel like I continued to "dig a hole". If anything, I thought I had stopped stirring the pot from last week. Even after today's initial comment was made, I said nothing insulting or argumentative, I simply stated that if you are going to continue to find reasons to insult me for everything I say, then please, feel free to block me. I took people's "advice" last week and took a Bumpcation and have barely posted anything all week, and have stayed away from all of the controversial threads all together. I'm not 100% sure what else is expected at this point. (that is SOOO rhetorical) However, I'm going to continue on like I did last week because believe it or not, I enjoy this board and reading what other woman in the same stage of pregnancy are dealing with. I sincerely hope that anyone who wants or "needs" me to go away can either keep their comments to themselves on any future threads or block me. That seems like a very simple solution to all of this. 

 

I hear you, it is a week later. You offered a different opinion and any other time I don't think it would have been a big deal. But:

1) You posted in FFFC: the prime location for solicited snark a week after being flamed.

2) You are forcing yourself back into a group. You should ask yourself why you need to express your opinions here, in this group, which has expressed a desire not to hear from you. Especially when it's a contrarian opinion. I don't think this is really about what you named your daughter and more about the kind of person you portray yourself to be. It's like getting into a yet unresolved cat fight and then inviting yourself back to the lunch table like nothing happened and it's all good. People do not have to like you. That ended in grade school. This is not peer mediation, you don't get to make the rules as to when people should be over it. The fact that you enjoy the group doesn't mean the "group" enjoys you...stop pushing it. If everyone here has to block you, what's the point? At what point is it YOU?

I could not give you enough praise right now.

rachael_c26

mrstoussaint:

Lovely Lauren:

I'm done quoting people because this is just getting out of hand....

Like I have said, I took part in a thread today that originally had nothing to do with last week. I talked about my child's name, where I got the idea from and so forth...it is very unfortunate that others felt the need to insult what I said TODAY because of what was said LAST WEEK. I don't feel like I continued to "dig a hole". If anything, I thought I had stopped stirring the pot from last week. Even after today's initial comment was made, I said nothing insulting or argumentative, I simply stated that if you are going to continue to find reasons to insult me for everything I say, then please, feel free to block me. I took people's "advice" last week and took a Bumpcation and have barely posted anything all week, and have stayed away from all of the controversial threads all together. I'm not 100% sure what else is expected at this point. (that is SOOO rhetorical) However, I'm going to continue on like I did last week because believe it or not, I enjoy this board and reading what other woman in the same stage of pregnancy are dealing with. I sincerely hope that anyone who wants or "needs" me to go away can either keep their comments to themselves on any future threads or block me. That seems like a very simple solution to all of this. 

 

I hear you, it is a week later. You offered a different opinion and any other time I don't think it would have been a big deal. But:

1) You posted in FFFC: the prime location for solicited snark a week after being flamed.

2) You are forcing yourself back into a group. You should ask yourself why you need to express your opinions here, in this group, which has expressed a desire not to hear from you. Especially when it's a contrarian opinion. I don't think this is really about what you named your daughter and more about the kind of person you portray yourself to be. It's like getting into a yet unresolved cat fight and then inviting yourself back to the lunch table like nothing happened and it's all good. People do not have to like you. That ended in grade school. This is not peer mediation, you don't get to make the rules as to when people should be over it. The fact that you enjoy the group doesn't mean the "group" enjoys you...stop pushing it. If everyone here has to block you, what's the point? At what point is it YOU?

joliebebe

I don't feel like going back a page to quote, because the bump is being slow. Kudos to MrsToussaint though!

rachael_c26

mrstoussaint:

Lovely Lauren:

I'm done quoting people because this is just getting out of hand....

Like I have said, I took part in a thread today that originally had nothing to do with last week. I talked about my child's name, where I got the idea from and so forth...it is very unfortunate that others felt the need to insult what I said TODAY because of what was said LAST WEEK. I don't feel like I continued to "dig a hole". If anything, I thought I had stopped stirring the pot from last week. Even after today's initial comment was made, I said nothing insulting or argumentative, I simply stated that if you are going to continue to find reasons to insult me for everything I say, then please, feel free to block me. I took people's "advice" last week and took a Bumpcation and have barely posted anything all week, and have stayed away from all of the controversial threads all together. I'm not 100% sure what else is expected at this point. (that is SOOO rhetorical) However, I'm going to continue on like I did last week because believe it or not, I enjoy this board and reading what other woman in the same stage of pregnancy are dealing with. I sincerely hope that anyone who wants or "needs" me to go away can either keep their comments to themselves on any future threads or block me. That seems like a very simple solution to all of this. 

 

I hear you, it is a week later. You offered a different opinion and any other time I don't think it would have been a big deal. But:

1) You posted in FFFC: the prime location for solicited snark a week after being flamed.

2) You are forcing yourself back into a group. You should ask yourself why you need to express your opinions here, in this group, which has expressed a desire not to hear from you. Especially when it's a contrarian opinion. I don't think this is really about what you named your daughter and more about the kind of person you portray yourself to be. It's like getting into a yet unresolved cat fight and then inviting yourself back to the lunch table like nothing happened and it's all good. People do not have to like you. That ended in grade school. This is not peer mediation, you don't get to make the rules as to when people should be over it. The fact that you enjoy the group doesn't mean the "group" enjoys you...stop pushing it. If everyone here has to block you, what's the point? At what point is it YOU?

MommyLuvsMe1210

mrstoussaint:

I hear you, it is a week later. You offered a different opinion and any other time I don't think it would have been a big deal. But:

1) You posted in FFFC: the prime location for solicited snark a week after being flamed.

2) You are forcing yourself back into a group. You should ask yourself why you need to express your opinions here, in this group, which has expressed a desire not to hear from you. Especially when it's a contrarian opinion. I don't think this is really about what you named your daughter and more about the kind of person you portray yourself to be. It's like getting into a yet unresolved cat fight and then inviting yourself back to the lunch table like nothing happened and it's all good. People do not have to like you. That ended in grade school. This is not peer mediation, you don't get to make the rules as to when people should be over it. The fact that you enjoy the group doesn't mean the "group" enjoys you...stop pushing it. If everyone here has to block you, what's the point? At what point is it YOU?

THIS IS EXACTLY THE POINT.

 

StaceySMC13

joliebebe:

I feel like this is more an UO than an FFC, but everyone else is doing it and I feel like being a lemming..

It bothers me when women identify themselves "single by choice", especially on the Single Parents forum. You're proud you're single and raising your child alone.. but aren't we all? Does it make you better than the mother who was abused, cheated on, or abandoned, that you got to select your sperm donor and plan ahead? To me it sounds like an unnecessary classification. I don't get up in arms about it, it just rubs me the wrong way, as if they NEED to remind people, "hey, I'm not like them, I wanted my life to me this way lulz".

Okay, I have a problem with this.  I am SINGLE BY CHOICE.  I used donor sperm and got pregnant because I never found someone I wanted to have a child with.  I went on the single parents forum a long time ago and asked if anyone else had the same situation because I can't relate to the single parents forum.  Since then, I haven't gone on once.  I have never once thought I was better than any other single mom because I chose to do it myself.  I think single mothers are strong and amazing.  But to educate you - there is a whole real term "Single Mothers by Choice."  It's an organization that was started a long time ago - with a website that we pay to join and connect with other women.  We use the term to define what our situation is because people can really hurt when they ask us "is your DH happy about the pregnancy?" or whatever.  I don't want to be reminded daily that I'm not married, I don't have a partner to share this with, or that I go to sleep at night alone...  

joliebebe

StaceySMC13:

joliebebe:

I feel like this is more an UO than an FFC, but everyone else is doing it and I feel like being a lemming..

It bothers me when women identify themselves "single by choice", especially on the Single Parents forum. You're proud you're single and raising your child alone.. but aren't we all? Does it make you better than the mother who was abused, cheated on, or abandoned, that you got to select your sperm donor and plan ahead? To me it sounds like an unnecessary classification. I don't get up in arms about it, it just rubs me the wrong way, as if they NEED to remind people, "hey, I'm not like them, I wanted my life to me this way lulz".

Okay, I have a problem with this.  I am SINGLE BY CHOICE.  I used donor sperm and got pregnant because I never found someone I wanted to have a child with.  I went on the single parents forum a long time ago and asked if anyone else had the same situation because I can't relate to the single parents forum.  Since then, I haven't gone on once.  I have never once thought I was better than any other single mom because I chose to do it myself.  I think single mothers are strong and amazing.  But to educate you - there is a whole real term "Single Mothers by Choice."  It's an organization that was started a long time ago - with a website that we pay to join and connect with other women.  We use the term to define what our situation is because people can really hurt when they ask us "is your DH happy about the pregnancy?" or whatever.  I don't want to be reminded daily that I'm not married, I don't have a partner to share this with, or that I go to sleep at night alone...  

Edited: Ok. You're right.

AKA I'm too tired to argue with your ignorant statements. FFS.

StaceySMC13

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