Ooh, ouch.

kllrbnny

BD never refers to his wife by her name. I have a funny feeling it's b/c he's trying to rub it in that he's married or something like that. I find it odd. Especially since when I told him that my relationship w/my now husband was serious he decided to take me back to court.

It's also funny.

HisChamaoleGirl

What does he refer to her as?

cole2144

BM refuses to call me by my name. I am "your wife" when she talks to DH and she never speaks to me directly.

HisChamaoleGirl

cole2144:

BM refuses to call me by my name. I am "your wife" when she talks to DH and she never speaks to me directly.

BM used to do that when she talked to DH. Now she refers to me by my first name. When she introduces me (SS birthday and sporting events) to her friends I was her "ex husbands NEW wife" but now I am her "son's father's wife." I guess it depends on her mood and who she is talking too.

kllrbnny

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What does he refer to her as?

"My wife"

Which she is. But I don't refer to DH as "My husband" to people I know. That is why it seems odd.

kllrbnny

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cole2144:

BM refuses to call me by my name. I am "your wife" when she talks to DH and she never speaks to me directly.

BM used to do that when she talked to DH. Now she refers to me by my first name. When she introduces me (SS birthday and sporting events) to her friends I was her "ex husbands NEW wife" but now I am her "son's father's wife." I guess it depends on her mood and who she is talking too.

Oh good grief. Now to me that just reeks of bitter and immature.

twister22

Oh geez. 

It makes me think of how BD and his XGF always told DS they were married but just hadn't had the wedding yet. All fine and dandy, except they weren't married. BD wore a wedding band though. *eye roll*

CFjo2010

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cole2144:

BM refuses to call me by my name. I am "your wife" when she talks to DH and she never speaks to me directly.

BM used to do that when she talked to DH. Now she refers to me by my first name. When she introduces me (SS birthday and sporting events) to her friends I was her "ex husbands NEW wife" but now I am her "son's father's wife." I guess it depends on her mood and who she is talking too.

Ha!  BM does this too.  She used to have no problem calling me by my nickname (no one uses my full name, not even my parents) but then after the fall-out she started referring to me only as "your wife" when talking with my husband.  Occasionally she'll use my full name, but mostly it's just "your wife" or to other people "K's father's wife".  What a mouthful!!  Especially since everyone she talks to knows exactly who I am and has met me.  In the time it takes for her to say all that, she could have said "Jo" 10 times.  As K's teacher said, it's a control thing.  By only referring to me as "K's father's wife", BM is attempting to lower the level of importance that my husband and I have in K's life.  It's petty and childish, but that's just how she chooses to operate.

HisChamaoleGirl

kllrbnny:

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cole2144:

BM refuses to call me by my name. I am "your wife" when she talks to DH and she never speaks to me directly.

BM used to do that when she talked to DH. Now she refers to me by my first name. When she introduces me (SS birthday and sporting events) to her friends I was her "ex husbands NEW wife" but now I am her "son's father's wife." I guess it depends on her mood and who she is talking too.

Oh good grief. Now to me that just reeks of bitter and immature.

You nailed BMs personality down to a tee.

HisChamaoleGirl

jobalchak:

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cole2144:

BM refuses to call me by my name. I am "your wife" when she talks to DH and she never speaks to me directly.

BM used to do that when she talked to DH. Now she refers to me by my first name. When she introduces me (SS birthday and sporting events) to her friends I was her "ex husbands NEW wife" but now I am her "son's father's wife." I guess it depends on her mood and who she is talking too.

Ha!  BM does this too.  She used to have no problem calling me by my nickname (no one uses my full name, not even my parents) but then after the fall-out she started referring to me only as "your wife" when talking with my husband.  Occasionally she'll use my full name, but mostly it's just "your wife" or to other people "K's father's wife".  What a mouthful!!  Especially since everyone she talks to knows exactly who I am and has met me.  In the time it takes for her to say all that, she could have said "Jo" 10 times.  As K's teacher said, it's a control thing.  By only referring to me as "K's father's wife", BM is attempting to lower the level of importance that my husband and I have in K's life.  It's petty and childish, but that's just how she chooses to operate.

I have wondered why BM chooses to refer to me this way, but your explanation seems to fit her as well as your BM.

HisChamaoleGirl

wendilea:

Dink calls Amazon by her full name whenever he is talking to me about her (for argument's sake, let's say everyone calls her Kate, when he talks to me it's Katherine)

And the BM's tend to refer to me as "That red headed b!tch your father married"  Wendi is so much easier to say... 

I've been wanting to ask you a question for as long as I can remember. Is there a specific reason that you call Dink's wife "amazon?" I don't think its her name and I've always wondered.

bebe11

wendilea:

Dink calls Amazon by her full name whenever he is talking to me about her (for argument's sake, let's say everyone calls her Kate, when he talks to me it's Katherine)

And the BM's tend to refer to me as "That red headed b!tch your father married"  Wendi is so much easier to say... 

LOL I am sorry, but that made me laugh

HisChamaoleGirl

wendilea:

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wendilea:

Dink calls Amazon by her full name whenever he is talking to me about her (for argument's sake, let's say everyone calls her Kate, when he talks to me it's Katherine)

And the BM's tend to refer to me as "That red headed b!tch your father married"  Wendi is so much easier to say... 

I've been wanting to ask you a question for as long as I can remember. Is there a specific reason that you call Dink's wife "amazon?" I don't think its her name and I've always wondered.

My son came up with that name for her, LOL  (no, really, the red headed b!tch did NOT come up with this)  She is over 6'1" and admits to being 275.  My ex is 5'10".  All of the pictures of them together, someone is sitting. 

haha ok. I had a feeling it had to do with appearances.

cole2144

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kllrbnny:

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cole2144:

BM refuses to call me by my name. I am "your wife" when she talks to DH and she never speaks to me directly.

BM used to do that when she talked to DH. Now she refers to me by my first name. When she introduces me (SS birthday and sporting events) to her friends I was her "ex husbands NEW wife" but now I am her "son's father's wife." I guess it depends on her mood and who she is talking too.

Oh good grief. Now to me that just reeks of bitter and immature.

You nailed BMs personality down to a tee.

Yup story of my life when dealing with this woman.

kllrbnny

cole2144:

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kllrbnny:

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cole2144:

BM refuses to call me by my name. I am "your wife" when she talks to DH and she never speaks to me directly.

BM used to do that when she talked to DH. Now she refers to me by my first name. When she introduces me (SS birthday and sporting events) to her friends I was her "ex husbands NEW wife" but now I am her "son's father's wife." I guess it depends on her mood and who she is talking too.

Oh good grief. Now to me that just reeks of bitter and immature.

You nailed BMs personality down to a tee.

Yup story of my life when dealing with this woman.

It's so frustrating when you just want to be a grown up but the other fully grown people in your life refuse.

BD also refuses to believe that at 31 I've changed one iota from when we split when I was 21. And I think even then he refused to believe I'd changed at all from when we met when I was 18. It is SO ridiculous.

He even tried to use the fears I had as a newly pregnant 21 year old as reasons why he should have custody 10 years later.

HisChamaoleGirl

kllrbnny:

cole2144:

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kllrbnny:

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cole2144:

BM refuses to call me by my name. I am "your wife" when she talks to DH and she never speaks to me directly.

BM used to do that when she talked to DH. Now she refers to me by my first name. When she introduces me (SS birthday and sporting events) to her friends I was her "ex husbands NEW wife" but now I am her "son's father's wife." I guess it depends on her mood and who she is talking too.

Perhaps HE cant believe YOU'VE changed since then bc he hasnt? lol

Oh good grief. Now to me that just reeks of bitter and immature.

You nailed BMs personality down to a tee.

Yup story of my life when dealing with this woman.

It's so frustrating when you just want to be a grown up but the other fully grown people in your life refuse.

BD also refuses to believe that at 31 I've changed one iota from when we split when I was 21. And I think even then he refused to believe I'd changed at all from when we met when I was 18. It is SO ridiculous.

He even tried to use the fears I had as a newly pregnant 21 year old as reasons why he should have custody 10 years later.

cole2144

kllrbnny:

cole2144:

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kllrbnny:

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cole2144:

BM refuses to call me by my name. I am "your wife" when she talks to DH and she never speaks to me directly.

BM used to do that when she talked to DH. Now she refers to me by my first name. When she introduces me (SS birthday and sporting events) to her friends I was her "ex husbands NEW wife" but now I am her "son's father's wife." I guess it depends on her mood and who she is talking too.

Oh good grief. Now to me that just reeks of bitter and immature.

You nailed BMs personality down to a tee.

Yup story of my life when dealing with this woman.

It's so frustrating when you just want to be a grown up but the other fully grown people in your life refuse.

BD also refuses to believe that at 31 I've changed one iota from when we split when I was 21. And I think even then he refused to believe I'd changed at all from when we met when I was 18. It is SO ridiculous.

He even tried to use the fears I had as a newly pregnant 21 year old as reasons why he should have custody 10 years later.

I can`t tell you how many times I have said I just wish BM would grow up and do what`s best for SD rather than fight DH at every turn.

xmaryrickx

wendilea:

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wendilea:

Dink calls Amazon by her full name whenever he is talking to me about her (for argument's sake, let's say everyone calls her Kate, when he talks to me it's Katherine)

And the BM's tend to refer to me as "That red headed b!tch your father married"  Wendi is so much easier to say... 

I've been wanting to ask you a question for as long as I can remember. Is there a specific reason that you call Dink's wife "amazon?" I don't think its her name and I've always wondered.

My son came up with that name for her, LOL  (no, really, the red headed b!tch did NOT come up with this)  She is over 6'1" and admits to being 275.  My ex is 5'10".  All of the pictures of them together, someone is sitting. 

can I say this surprises me? Is she 275 of pure muscle? I know you say she raves bicycles right? and skis a lot. 275 is a BIG woman.

kllrbnny

xmaryrickx:

wendilea:

My son came up with that name for her, LOL  (no, really, the red headed b!tch did NOT come up with this)  She is over 6'1" and admits to being 275.  My ex is 5'10".  All of the pictures of them together, someone is sitting. 

can I say this surprises me? Is she 275 of pure muscle? I know you say she raves bicycles right? and skis a lot. 275 is a BIG woman.

That would be a big man. Muscle does weigh more than fat though.

ldmessing

my husband refers to me as "my wife"  to most people, he calls me by my first name to only close friends and family

I pretty much do the same when referring to him.

 I call his ex wife "your ex wife" or "janet"

he calls her "satan"  not in front of the kids of course.

we refer to her as "your mother" sometimes, but mostly "janet"

she refers to me as "that _____ b1tch"  fill in the blank with what ever clever adjective she comes up with fat, ugly, evil, mean...

 

HisChamaoleGirl

wendilea:

kllrbnny:

xmaryrickx:

wendilea:

My son came up with that name for her, LOL  (no, really, the red headed b!tch did NOT come up with this)  She is over 6'1" and admits to being 275.  My ex is 5'10".  All of the pictures of them together, someone is sitting. 

can I say this surprises me? Is she 275 of pure muscle? I know you say she raves bicycles right? and skis a lot. 275 is a BIG woman.

That would be a big man. Muscle does weigh more than fat though.

She is BIG.  She competes in these triathalons, but I don't know if she eats donuts through the whole race or what.  My ex has lost 50 pounds since marrying her, and they just look odd together. 

I wish I could see just how odd we are talking here lol

Littlejen22

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wendilea:

kllrbnny:

xmaryrickx:

wendilea:

My son came up with that name for her, LOL  (no, really, the red headed b!tch did NOT come up with this)  She is over 6'1" and admits to being 275.  My ex is 5'10".  All of the pictures of them together, someone is sitting. 

can I say this surprises me? Is she 275 of pure muscle? I know you say she raves bicycles right? and skis a lot. 275 is a BIG woman.

That would be a big man. Muscle does weigh more than fat though.

She is BIG.  She competes in these triathalons, but I don't know if she eats donuts through the whole race or what.  My ex has lost 50 pounds since marrying her, and they just look odd together. 

I wish I could see just how odd we are talking here lol

Lol, me too. And I too was shocked, I knew she was crazy tall but always imagined thin, like some Nordic woman and now I picture a lumberjack.

hopanka

I must say I'm just as confused as Mary. I pictured someone like Linda Hamilton in Terminator 2. Ya know, wife beater And sweats, so what you see first is biceps and big shoulders. But, this much weight? I'm sorry, but even at her height, she has at least 30 lbs on my H who is also over 6 foot and he's in no way triathlon ready. You gotta be fit for that stuff. You cannot be fit at that weight as a woman, there is way....how the he'll does she ski without her knees giving out on her??

+j+k+

wendilea:

Dink calls Amazon by her full name whenever he is talking to me about her (for argument's sake, let's say everyone calls her Kate, when he talks to me it's Katherine)

And the BM's tend to refer to me as "That red headed b!tch your father married"  Wendi is so much easier to say... 

 

LMAO!  Seriously. This made me laugh out loud.  From now on I'm calling you TRHB.  Lovingly of course. You Red Headed *** you....

kllrbnny

wendilea:

I should change my screen name to TRHB!

Lol! I mentioned your lovely 'nickname' to my mom and she was utterly appalled. It's good that you can laugh about it.