Going back to work :

Samiantha101

I go back to work tomorrow afternoon. Coincidentally, my baby gets her shots tomorrow too in the morning. I don't want to leave her yet, especially tomorrow. I was talking to my mom, and she said something that's really going to break my heart. Perhaps it's ridiculous, but I'm very emotional right now. She stated when babies get their first round of shots, it's their first time feeling betrayal. Damn her for saying this to me.

ToastieSimons

a 2 month old is not capable of feeling betrayal, that is way more complicated than their brains are neurologically capable of. your mom should be supporting you, not beating you down

khill86

I wanted to cry when DS got his shots on Monday. Our doctor had me hold each leg down for him. I felt tears coming as soon as DS started to cry. Especially because he was smiling and cooing until then. DH came with us and he saw the horrified look on my face when the doctor said, "Okay Mom, you're going to help me out. Hold his legs down like this" and tried to convince me that DS will thank me when he doesn't get sick. Yeah right. After they were both done our doctor said, "Okay one last thing. Pick him up and give him a big hug and a kiss!" Those were much nicer instructions.

On the way out to the car I told DH that I could understand why he had me holding his legs down, but I felt so bad for holding him down and letting someone else hurt him. BUT! Such is life. He needs his vaccinations and won't remember any of it. We took him for a nice walk after and I let him nurse in bed that afternoon, something I save for bad days, and all is forgotten.

drbethc

khill86:

I wanted to cry when DS got his shots on Monday. Our doctor had me hold each leg down for him. I felt tears coming as soon as DS started to cry. Especially because he was smiling and cooing until then. DH came with us and he saw the horrified look on my face when the doctor said, "Okay Mom, you're going to help me out. Hold his legs down like this" and tried to convince me that DS will thank me when he doesn't get sick. Yeah right. After they were both done our doctor said, "Okay one last thing. Pick him up and give him a big hug and a kiss!" Those were much nicer instructions. On the way out to the car I told DH that I could understand why he had me holding his legs down, but I felt so bad for holding him down and letting someone else hurt him. BUT! Such is life. He needs his vaccinations and won't remember any of it. We took him for a nice walk after and I let him nurse in bed that afternoon, something I save for bad days, and all is forgotten.

I had a really hard time with this too...and am dreading doing it again in a month.

mmamga08

I had to leave DH for a few hrs after he got his two month shots. I was stressing it big time. He just slept afterwards, so I worried for nothing about that. As for the shots, by the time we got to the car he was fine. A friend of mines LO was all smiles after her 2 month shots. You never know- and like pp said it's way too early for them to feel betrayed. Hang in there!  

snicksnack

Both my kids were always fine after their shots.  When DS had his we all went out to lunch after.  I never had to give pain meds etc... With that being said, I always took off on shot day just in case.  Is there any chance you can go back a day later?  I know my boss would not care, but he is very understanding.

JessieCupcake

I'm sorry your mom said that to you. It's a really terrible thing to say and I don't think it's true at all.

If you're really worried about the shots, I agree with PP about maybe asking to go back a day later. Is this an option for you?

notfrancie

Samaintha, your mom sounds like such a piece of work (between this and other posts you have written about her)!  

In addition to the fact that betrayl/memory don't really apply to babies this little, think about this:  life is painful.  There are going to be a lot of instances where you can't (and shouldn't) prevent your child from experiencing pain, disappointment, failure, etc.  As a parent, it is your job to be there to support your kid through it.  

(Maybe your mom should read that rant!)

Good luck at work tomorrow! 

daisy080187

first I think the feeling betrayal is a little over dramatic, I wouldn't worry about that, you just have to keep in mind that at the end of the day your doing the best thing for your LO one by keeping her safe from all these terrible illinesses that, if caught could really harm her or worse! Thats what I had to keep telling myself that it was the best thing for my son. I also had this horrible image in my head of how I was going to be & how he was going to be & how awful he's going to feel that night & the next day...& it wasn't nearly as bad as I imagined, but unlike the pp I didn't have to help hold my son down (I think if I did I would be a complete wreck luckily they wouldn't let me touch him while they were doing it so I wasn't the bad guy the nurse was! And he was hurting that night you can tell his legs were sore cause he'd cry when he moved his legs but some tyelnol fixed that & the next day he was fine. So hopefully the nurse or dr won't ask you to help hold her down or contribute to the experience & you can be the nice guy & "save" her & love on her!

 Now when it comes to returning to work I definitely feel you. I am actually returning to work tomorrow also...I know I should be grateful cause due to a baby sitter who wouldn't be available til a later date & galbladder surgery I was able to stay out of work a whole month longer than I had orginally expected before I had him, but I know tomorrow is not going to be easy by any stretch of the imagination, luckily my work is really willing to work with me & told me that if I can't make it thru the day being seperated from him they'll let me go for a little bit to see him mid day but I'm going to try to make it without doing it cause i know saying goodbye mid day is going to be 100x harder the second time! Good luck tomorrow...

Samiantha101

Well, the shots went ok. She wailed for awhile, but she seems to be back to normal. We cuddled for a couple of hours before I had to go to work. Unfortunately, my work isn't what I would call flexible. There wasn't a chance of delaying my start date. Fortunately, I'm going back pt, so I only worked for 5.5 hours. Daddy watched her while I worked. She seems to still love me. I made sure I was the one to comfort her after the shots. :

blightsr

wow, that's tough. We have a 2 month old...it's always hard thinking about leaving them for work again. You get so attached, then boom, you gotta switch it up. The shots most def make it a lot harder...hang in there...You Can Do It! Babies {and little ones in general} are so resilient...they'll be fine! We actually just created this site... it deals with "real issues" just like these... it might help you or any pregnant friends you have. The world's leading doctors, doulas, midwives, lactation consultants, nutritionists & experienced moms teach their most important lessons learned. As an expectant parent, we learn easier & faster by not reinventing the wheel. Maybe it'll help you: https://yourbabybooty.com/category/interviews/   (we feature a mom talking details about going back to work- what worked for her)