Family HATES all of my names..HELP!

dreamsweetlee

Our baby girl is due in 6 weeks and every name I've liked so far my family seems to HATE! Such as more unique names ( Brinley, Kendall, Kennedy, & Emerson)

I love sweet, short, and simple names more, but most are very common. I would like her name to be a little unique but not weird sounding. HELP!

POPULAR NAMES I LOVE: Ava, Ella, Emma, Alaina, Aubrey, Lyla, Paige, Harper

 Should I not care and go with a name I love even tho every little girl has it ?            -OR-                                                                                                            Can anyone help me think of any names that are similar to these, but not so popular that everyone has it ???

First and middle name would be helpful! 

magsugar13

who's baby is this?

dreamsweetlee

I know its my baby I should name her what I want (but at this point I'm not even sure of what I want now) and it seems ridiculous to listen to every negative comment that my family has, but my family is VERY opinionated and not shy about letting you know exactly what they think..Especially my mother - she gives the "I smell something bad face"  then says "That's hideous, but I guess I'll live with it..I'll just call her something else"...I  just want her name to be loved as much as she's loved I guess.. At this point, I just dont want her coming early because she'll be nameless..

klw1985

It's unfortunate that your family feels such a need to criticize the names you're considering to you.  It's really not their place.  It's absolutely impossible to find a name that EVERYONE will like, bc everyone's tastes are so different... so go with what you and your husband like and forget the haters. 

ta78

Choose a name and stop telling your family. My mom hates all of my name choices also, so I just don't share anymore. Once the baby is here it will be her name and they won't say anything about it.. and they will end up calling her by it despite what she may have said. Although my mom calls DS a million different things.

I personally like Kennedy a lot. 

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dreamsweetlee:

I know its my baby I should name her what I want (but at this point I'm not even sure of what I want now) and it seems ridiculous to listen to every negative comment that my family has, but my family is VERY opinionated and not shy about letting you know exactly what they think..Especially my mother - she gives the "I smell something bad face"  then says "That's hideous, but I guess I'll live with it..I'll just call her something else"...I  just want her name to be loved as much as she's loved I guess.. At this point, I just dont want her coming early because she'll be nameless..

Don't let this phase you, it will never happen.

sabriel1

This is the exact reason that we didn't tell anyone the name that we chose before DD was born. I didn't want any opinions on it, especially because it is very different. My advice to you is to not tell people the name if they are so opinionated like you say. Once that beautiful baby is born people will call her whatever you name her and it will suit her, just wait. Some people didn't like the name we chose (we heard this in conversation, we never told anyone the name) but once she was born everyone acted like they loved the name and said that they couldn't picture her to be named something else. Dont let anyone be involved in this decision that doesn't deserve to be. For what its wort, I love most of the names that you mentioned, especially Kennedy

strawberrytree

dreamsweetlee:

I know its my baby I should name her what I want but at this point I'm not even sure of what I want now and it seems ridiculous to listen to every negative comment that my family has, but my family is VERY opinionated and not shy about letting you know exactly what they think..Especially my mother she gives the "I smell something bad face"nbsp; then says "That's hideous, but I guess I'll live with it..I'll just call her something else"...Inbsp; just want her name to be loved as much as she's loved I guess.. At this point, I just dont want her coming early because she'll be nameless..

They're being incredibly rude. Your mom had her chance to name babies, and now it's your turn. If it were me, I'd tell her straight up that if she can't respect my parenting decisions, like choosing my child's name, she won't be spending a lot of time with the baby.

But at the very least you need to stop sharing names with family. Tell them you've decided on Hortense or McKarty or something that just about any name would sound good in comparison to.

ChelseaUT

DaisyBlinks:

Only the people involved in making the baby get to name it

 

100% agree.

freelancemommy

I don't think of Lila and Paige being as commonly used as Ava or Emma. My daughter is named Lilah and I don't hear it all the time.

If its not a top 10/20 name you won't have a big issue...

MCRM22011

tell them to go scratch, lol. it's your child. 

 

of your list, i like: aubrey and ava.

 

LoveIsOwlYouNeed

dreamsweetlee:

I know its my baby I should name her what I want (but at this point I'm not even sure of what I want now) and it seems ridiculous to listen to every negative comment that my family has, but my family is VERY opinionated and not shy about letting you know exactly what they think..Especially my mother - she gives the "I smell something bad face"  then says "That's hideous, but I guess I'll live with it..I'll just call her something else"...I  just want her name to be loved as much as she's loved I guess.. At this point, I just dont want her coming early because she'll be nameless..

Don't share your names with your family any more.  Seriously. We aren't sharing names b/c we don't want to hear everyone's opinion. If they want to name a baby they can have one (or in the case of your mother, she had her kids and named them, it is your turn now).  It is much easier for them to accept a name when it's attached to a cute little baby they are meeting for the first time.  Just share the name when the baby is born and the name is attached to an actual little person they can see and hold and snuggle.

MelissaOrlando

This is exactly why I don't tell family. Make a decision based on what you like and then tell family you're not telling the name until the baby is born. Once she's born, it's done. They can say what they want, but they will be more likely to bite their tongues at that point. They will have to suck it up and love it.

lovebug33

I know it's hard when it's family, but tell them to shove it or ignore them. We have named our child Kinsley Frances and MIL keeps "forgetting" that is her name and referring to her as Kingsley Ruth, which is what she deems acceptable. To heck with her. I figure once she meets her, she won't call her a different name. And, if she won't call her by her name, I'm kicking her out of my house. DH isn't sure I'm serious, but I am! Stick to your guns and name the baby what you like!

CTA7

I'd echo all the prior comments about keeping names to yourself from here on out.  If they don't know what it is, they can't criticize it. 

I'd also add that I like your more "popular" name choices a lot more than your "unique" ones (especially Lyla and Paige).  For what its worth, the social security website lists the popularity of your names as follows: Brinley, Kendall(123), Kennedy(90), Emerson(276), Ava (5), Ella (12), Emma(3), Alaina, Aubrey(20), Lyla(127), Paige(107), Harper (54).  (I stopped looking after 500).

dreamsweetlee

Thank you everyone for your advice & encouraging words, they really helped and made me feel a lot better. I really apprectiate it. I think my husband and I have been over thinking her name, stressing out about what people will think, and listening way too much to our parents comments. It's hard to say anything to family, but they obviously don't find it too hard to say things to me.

I have LOVED the name Alaina from the start, it was on my first list of baby names. My grandmother, who I am very close to & I love dearly, name is Lillian Margaret. My cousin just had a baby and named her Lillian, so that has been taken. So to honor my grandmother in some way...My husband and I have decided on :

" Alaina Margaret "

Whether our parents like it or not! and  were just going to wait until she's here to tell them.

Notwifezilla7

dreamsweetlee:

I know its my baby I should name her what I want (but at this point I'm not even sure of what I want now) and it seems ridiculous to listen to every negative comment that my family has, but my family is VERY opinionated and not shy about letting you know exactly what they think..Especially my mother - she gives the "I smell something bad face"  then says "That's hideous, but I guess I'll live with it..I'll just call her something else"...I  just want her name to be loved as much as she's loved I guess.. At this point, I just dont want her coming early because she'll be nameless..

Screw them! Instead, keep your selections to yourself and when the baby is here introduce her with her name. If your mother makes a face, then she'll the one looking like an a$$.  

victoria+james

What about
Parker
Eva
Maeva
Exler
Riley
Eyeler

thetheisens

dreamsweetlee:

Thank you everyone for your advice & encouraging words, they really helped and made me feel a lot better. I really apprectiate it. I think my husband and I have been over thinking her name, stressing out about what people will think, and listening way too much to our parents comments. It's hard to say anything to family, but they obviously don't find it too hard to say things to me.

I have LOVED the name Alaina from the start, it was on my first list of baby names. My grandmother, who I am very close to & I love dearly, name is Lillian Margaret. My cousin just had a baby and named her Lillian, so that has been taken. So to honor my grandmother in some way...My husband and I have decided on :

" Alaina Margaret "

Whether our parents like it or not! and  were just going to wait until she's here to tell them.

That is beautiful name and I 100% agree with your choice to wait until she's born to tell your family. 

tartaruga

I don't know. My brother and his wife named their baby something that the family hates (and didn't tell us the name until the baby was born for this very reason) and everybody just makes fun of the name behind their back. The awful name being attached to an adorable baby doesn't make anyone like the name more - it just makes us all feel sorry for the kid.

 

I don't think you need to have a referendum on your baby names, but is there really not a single name you like that your family doesn't hate? They don't have to love it but one that at least they're neutral on? If everyone in your family hates your names, there might be a good reason for it. 

ilenegrace

dreamsweetlee:

Thank you everyone for your advice & encouraging words, they really helped and made me feel a lot better. I really apprectiate it. I think my husband and I have been over thinking her name, stressing out about what people will think, and listening way too much to our parents comments. It's hard to say anything to family, but they obviously don't find it too hard to say things to me.

I have LOVED the name Alaina from the start, it was on my first list of baby names. My grandmother, who I am very close to & I love dearly, name is Lillian Margaret. My cousin just had a baby and named her Lillian, so that has been taken. So to honor my grandmother in some way...My husband and I have decided on :

" Alaina Margaret "

Whether our parents like it or not! and  were just going to wait until she's here to tell them.

Beautiful name and great idea!

Jessica Swanlake

justAphase:

Go with the name you love... As long as it's not Brinley. 

 This exactly!

Brinley reminds me of Wilfred Brimley, which reminds me of oatmeal, and now I am hungry.

Back on topic: I have had the same problem- either ignore your family or put them in their place. They have no input in the decision.

orleyl

I don't think Lyla or Paige are very common. I let my family influence my choice bc I cared if they liked it. You can always not share the name with them. Lydia, Nora, Ariel, Cora, Molly

orleyl

Oh, I also love Aviva lately which is like Ava.but not as popular or Eve out Eden.

Cranang

victoria+james:

What about Parker Eva Maeva Exler Riley Eyeler

What the...

Those are AWFUL.

Schnebs

dreamsweetlee:

Thank you everyone for your advice & encouraging words, they really helped and made me feel a lot better. I really apprectiate it. I think my husband and I have been over thinking her name, stressing out about what people will think, and listening way too much to our parents comments. It's hard to say anything to family, but they obviously don't find it too hard to say things to me.

I have LOVED the name Alaina from the start, it was on my first list of baby names. My grandmother, who I am very close to & I love dearly, name is Lillian Margaret. My cousin just had a baby and named her Lillian, so that has been taken. So to honor my grandmother in some way...My husband and I have decided on :

" Alaina Margaret "

Whether our parents like it or not! and  were just going to wait until she's here to tell them.

I love the name you have chosen.  It is classic, feminine, legitimate, and honors someone you love.  Just keep the name to yourself until LO is born, and then if they say anything, just tell them that if you had wanted their final approval you would have asked for it.

BlueRidge8

victoria+james:

What about Parker Eva Maeva Exler Riley Eyeler

What the what are these? 

KarmB

tell them to have babies and they can name them

Pokedot

This is exactly why DH and I have not told any family members or friends our names we have picked out. My family is very supportive but opinionated especially my Mom. She's tried to pry the names out of us for a while now and I won't budge. Name the your child what you like, not anyone else. You'll know when it feels right!

RedInLove

dreamsweetlee:

Thank you everyone for your advice amp; encouraging words, they really helped and made me feel a lotnbsp;better. I really apprectiate it. I think my husband and I have been over thinking her name, stressing out about what people will think, and listening way too much to our parents comments. It's hard to say anything to family, but they obviously don't find it too hard to say things to me.
I have LOVED the name Alaina from the start, it was on my first list of baby names. My grandmother, who I am very close to amp;nbsp;I love dearly, name is Lillian Margaret. My cousin just had a baby and named her Lillian, so that has been taken. So to honor my grandmother in some way...My husband and I have decided on :
" Alaina Margaret "
Whether our parents like it or not! and nbsp;were just going to wait until she's here to tell them.

That is a beautiful name, congratulations!!!

tinktink20

Choose a name that you love.  You and your partner get naming rights.  

Zaphina

I think " Alaina Margaret " is very nice!

contreras04

ChelseaUT:

DaisyBlinks:

Only the people involved in making the baby get to name it

 

100% agree.

 

KarissaYT

Definitely go with what you love!

 

As far as suggestions though, I loved Brynn and Finley as well as Linae and Sloan.

 

Good Luck!