CS Contempt hearing

CFjo2010

Last week TN Child Support Agency couldn't locate BD.  Today I receive a call from them saying that they were able to sub-serve him and a Contempt hearing has been scheduled for end of October!

Not sure what transpired over the last few days or how they managed to locate him, but I'm glad something is finally being accomplished after 8 months of this Interstate mess.  I know that a Contempt hearing doesn't equal a payment, but at least he'll finally start facing some consequences for being a complete deadbeat.

kllrbnny

Oh good! I am so relieved for you! Now that they've found him something can be done!

It will probably still be awhile but now you have that light at the end of the tunnel.

emikat

Oh, I'm so happy for you that they were able to find him.  It enrages me to hear about people that go out of their way like this to avoid their responsibilities.  I really hope that this is the beginning of a wake up call for him.  Or at least some consequences!  Good luck on everything. 

Holly_1007

glad you finally have some good news!

fellesferie

YAY!

Hope you have some mocktails tonight to celebrate. 

twister22

fellesferie:

YAY!

Hope you have some mocktails tonight to celebrate. 

Agreed! Toasting you tonight with my sparkling grape juice. 

CFjo2010

twister22:

fellesferie:

YAY!

Hope you have some mocktails tonight to celebrate. 

Agreed! Toasting you tonight with my sparkling grape juice. 

Mocktails are no fun!  My husband got me a virgin margarita the other night at dinner and I was like, "Um, thanks for the slushy..."  

While this is very good news and something is finally being done, I keep reminding myself that it doesn't mean anything yet.  Until he goes in front of a Judge, he's not "in contempt".  I'm just curious how many excuses he can come up with in an effort to show that he "can't afford" his monthly obligation.  I don't know how lenient TN is, but in CA if you have more than one working vehicle and 2 good legs/arms then you don't have a claim of being unable to pay.  I guess we'll see.  I'm waiting for the irate texts and emails from him, his wife and his mother.

hopanka

I would actually love to read a sample of his irate texts because I can't even come up with a possible argument that would make sense that in fact you are out of line requesting him to finically support his kids after years of not doing so? I would love to know how he justifies it in his head that what he is doing is right and what you are doing is wrong. How does one (or one's relatives) conclude that is perfectly ok not to support your OWN biological kids. I think that would be an amazing read.

socloudy99

So glad something finally happened!

Sad to say I would not be suprised if he didn't relocate to anther state before Oct. so you have to start agian. I really hope that doesn't happen but I wouldn't put much past this jerkface.

FutureMrsWittig

hopanka:

I would actually love to read a sample of his irate texts because I can't even come up with a possible argument that would make sense that in fact you are out of line requesting him to finically support his kids after years of not doing so? I would love to know how he justifies it in his head that what he is doing is right and what you are doing is wrong. How does one (or one's relatives) conclude that is perfectly ok not to support your OWN biological kids. I think that would be an amazing read.

^^Agree.  It fascinates me the things these people come up with for why they should not be responsible for supporting their own flesh and blood.

CFjo2010

hopanka:

I would actually love to read a sample of his irate texts because I can't even come up with a possible argument that would make sense that in fact you are out of line requesting him to finically support his kids after years of not doing so? I would love to know how he justifies it in his head that what he is doing is right and what you are doing is wrong. How does one (or one's relatives) conclude that is perfectly ok not to support your OWN biological kids. I think that would be an amazing read.

**Ahem**

"You're working, why should I pay you support?"

"You're married now, I don't have to pay support."

"I have another child to support now."

"Why should E and R have 3 people paying for them while L only has 2?"

"You only want support so that I can't do more with my wife and son."

"Give me the kids and then you won't need support from me."

Those are actual arguments he has made over the last several years.  As far as he's concerned, I only want CS in order to hurt him. 

CFjo2010

socloudy99:

So glad something finally happened!

Sad to say I would not be suprised if he didn't relocate to anther state before Oct. so you have to start agian. I really hope that doesn't happen but I wouldn't put much past this jerkface.

I really don't think he'll relocate.  He genuinely has nowhere to go.  Now that his mother lives in TN, he's stuck.  He relies on her enabling far too much for him to leave.  Plus, now that he's married and has another child, I'm sure his wife is not going to be willing to move just so he can keep ducking this.  She actually has a job, family and friends there.