Little bit discouraged....

greenteabee

I met with the couple that I liked from reading their profile book, and I didn't really feel a spark so much with them like I had hoped.. I'm still considering them, but I'm gonna keep looking until either I get the spark I'm hoping for, or I give birth.... Am I wrong that it's not a spark thing, and should I talk with this couple some more, or should I keep looking? I feel discouraged right now.... I'd really like to find my babies' parents right away so I can get to know them really well.....

Courtneyluff

I am so sorry you didn't click with them. Maybe it will happen over time, and maybe they weren't meant to be your childrens' parents. The right couple will come along, just like the right baby(ies) will come along for the couple you met with. If not this time, then maybe soon.

 

I will keep you in my thoughts.

jillianmb

My thinking is that you should be looking for a sense of peace more than a "spark."  Just like with romantic relationships, the sparks are fun but it is the steadfast assurance you feel that makes for a good long-term relationship.  Hope your continued search finds a family that gives you that peaceful assurance that you've made the right decision.

IRR

Aww, I agree with some of the PP that perhaps you don't need the spark, but that sense of peace that these will be the best parents for your child(ren).  You are early in the process and you don't need to commit yet so I would say keep looking.  Also ask yourself if this couple gets matched with another BM before you make your final choice, would you be disappointed?  If the answer is no, keep looking and let this couple know of your decision sooner than later so they are not holding on to the hope they you may choose them.  As far as building a relationship, 3-4 months before birth should be plenty of time which is why many agencies don't even do the matching before then.  As always Best of luck with your decision and keep us posted.

JennyP9

Maybe they are trying not to overwhelm you too fast?  Speaking from experience, the first woman we talked to, we were so enthusiastic that I think we may have scared her off.  She emailed us first, and always had short emails back, and I was sending novels, trying to share all the info I thought she might want.  After awhile, it started to feel like it was actually someone scamming us... but I know next time I will try to be a little less over-the-top excited when someone emails, and try to keep as calm as possible.

 Good luck in your search   I can tell you, it is no easier on the other side!

 Jenny