anxiety when DH goes out with the boys

lrichmond86

Does anyone else get intense anxiety when DH goes out?  When he's going to work or errands or even out with friends during the day I'm fine.  But when he goes out at night I am overcome with intense anxiety and can't relax until he's back home with me.  It's not that I don't trust him to be responsible, I know he will be.  It's everyone else that I worry about.  All the what-ifs run through my head for hours.  I'm especially worried that he could be in a car accident and I would have lost my son and my husband in the same year.  I know these fears are irrational and anxiety driven, but it seems that no matter what I do I can't keep them under wraps.  Am I the only one this crazy these days?

medblais

My anxiety was off the charts for a long time- about EVERYTHING. MH is out of town A LOT for work, so I didn't have the nighttime anxiety so much as I did when having to drop him at the airport. I would freak out and cry the whole way home, then wait next to my phone for him to text/call saying he made it safely. It took a couple months for that anxiety to lessen.

jlcrhw

I feel the same way. My DH works at a green engery plant and there are hugh piles of wood chips that catch on fire like wet hay. It has been really hot here and they have had several large fires recently. I am scared to death that something is going to happen to him. It didn't help that he text me a picture of a burnt water truck the other night.

 

Williamandshawnna

Nope, not crazy. I often fall asleep on the couch during a movie, and will wake up to my husband being gone, I kinda freak out and get anxious, how long has he been gone, where did he go? I know he took the dog for a walk, but I still call his cell phone to just hear his voice. It is the oddest feeling to have. Heck- our dog has been a little sick lately and the thoughts and scenerios that run through my mind are crazy. I sometimes think, I can not deal with another thing this year.

johnnys june

lrichmond86:

I'm especially worried that he could be in a car accident and I would have lost my son and my husband in the same year.  I know these fears are irrational and anxiety driven, but it seems that no matter what I do I can't keep them under wraps. 

I could have made this post a year ago...heck, months ago, word for word.  Sometimes I still feel that way.  I've even rolled over in the middle of the night to make sure he's still breathing.  Since losing Logan I'm terrified, down right petrified, that I'll lose DH too.  It has lessened quite a bit.  I think it's just part of the grief and sorting it all out.  *hugs*  You are definitely not crazy.  I was never this way prior to Logan's death. 

johnnys june

lrichmond86:

I'm especially worried that he could be in a car accident and I would have lost my son and my husband in the same year.  I know these fears are irrational and anxiety driven, but it seems that no matter what I do I can't keep them under wraps. 

I could have made this post a year ago...heck, months ago, word for word.  Sometimes I still feel that way.  I've even rolled over in the middle of the night to make sure he's still breathing.  Since losing Logan I'm terrified, down right petrified, that I'll lose DH too.  It has lessened quite a bit.  I think it's just part of the grief and sorting it all out.  *hugs*  You are definitely not crazy.  I was never this way prior to Logan's death.