Finding a counselor

Missa_g

I think today I am finally ready to admit I need help processing everything that has happened. For those of you seeing a counselor, how did you find them? I want someone who has experience dealing with preemie Mom's, and preferably moms of multiples, and pregnancy loss. I feel like I'm asking a bit too much so I'm not sure how to broaden the criteria to find someone.

urbanflowerpot

I used to see a therapist who specialized in pg women - she was through the same network that my OB was and leads the PPD open forums at the hospital. Otherwise, that's a very, very narrowed focus and I think you'll have to broaden a bit You could call and see who leads your hospital's group and chase them down from there. It was just sheer luck that I found mine - and was already seeing her when I went into PTL. She has experience with that now!

I'm really glad to hear that you're reaching out and looking into going to someone, though. That's a huge, huge step.

Sometimes the right one isn't your first try - use your first session to interview them and tell them what you're looking for. Do you like reflective listening or do you want brutal truth comments and stuff like that... 

urbanflowerpot

Oh! just struck me - why don't you call your SW from former NICU for recommendations?

MoFree

I would also suggest calling the SW from the NICU.  

My DH and I saw a counselor for IF- related issues and I am planning to see her because we already have an established relationship.

Having a preemie is so stressful and brings up all kinds of unresolved issues. GL finding someone you are comfortable with. 

Missa_g

Thank you for your suggestions! I'll be contacting the NICU SW in the morning.

I will not be seeing my OB ever again as she told me I was overreacting when I was worried after going into labor at 28w.

appylovee

I met my counselor, through the NICU. She started seeing me while my son was still there. She would come to his room and have sessions there. I haven't seen her since he was discharged, but I need to make another appointment, as my anxiety is getting to a ridiculous stage again.

sjones10

I found mine through my insurance. I ended up going closer to my preemies 1st birthday. That was a very hard time for me as I was reliving everything in my head. I also found a good group of preemie moms that I talked to. That helped A LOT!