DD's primary care teacher in prek is a guy

jovencita1224

Ok, here is my takeand I am someone that has worked in schools previously and now has a job where I have interviewed sex offenders.

First, of the offenders I interviewed, only one was female. So yes, males mollest more than women, but that is not to say that all women are safe and no men are. Anyone, even a spouse or family member, could mollest a child. The statement that people touching privates, especially boys except for daddy, really runs me the wrong way, and actually creeps me out. I would say that privates are not for other people to touch unless you asked them to help you after potty. She is old enough to be able to take a washcloth and wash herself, so really, except for potty or doctorNOBODYboy, girl, mommy or daddyreally has a reason to touch her privates.

I wouldn't count on the background check at a daycare to weed out a mollested. All it tells you is that person has never been caught doing something like that. ALL of the mollesters I have talked to have sought out contact with children church nursery, coach, babysitter, etc., but You have to communicate with your Child and be aware of the warning signs that something isn't rightyou can't assume everyone is bad just because you can't assume they are all good. You communicate with the teacher and get a feel for them, pay attention to your child's behavior and any sudden changes in them, and pay attention to any red flags that something isnt right.

There isn't anything that concerns me about the situation as described except for the current guidance of "especially boys exce

jovencita1224

Ok, here is my takeand I am someone that has worked in schools previously and now has a job where I have interviewed sex offenders.

First, of the offenders I interviewed, only one was female. So yes, males mollest more than women, but that is not to say that all women are safe and no men are. Anyone, even a spouse or family member, could mollest a child. The statement that people touching privates, especially boys except for daddy, really runs me the wrong way, and actually creeps me out. I would say that privates are not for other people to touch unless you asked them to help you after potty. She is old enough to be able to take a washcloth and wash herself, so really, except for potty or doctorNOBODYboy, girl, mommy or daddyreally has a reason to touch her privates.

I wouldn't count on the background check at a daycare to weed out a mollested. All it tells you is that person has never been caught doing something like that. ALL of the mollesters I have talked to have sought out contact with children church nursery, coach, babysitter, etc., but You have to communicate with your Child and be aware of the warning signs that something isn't rightyou can't assume everyone is bad just because you can't assume they are all good. You communicate with the teacher and get a feel for them, pay attention to your child's behavior and any sudden changes in them, and pay attention to any red flags that something isnt right.

There isn't anything that concerns me about the situation as described except for the current guidance of "especially boys excePt for daddy. If this guy was going to be a creeper, potty break time wih the other kids around would Not be the time it would happen. I may ask the director about what, if any, 1on1 time kids have with any of the teachers and under what circumstances, but unless the child has indicated they are spending time with a particular person alone and away from other kids or adults, I might not even ask that at this point.

groovygrl

I get what PP is saying above but my children are 3 and cannot adequately clean their bottoms during a bath and I see absolutely nothing wrong with washing them during bath.  I do agree that saying 'especially boys' is really sending a terrible message early in life and discounting the fact that women can do these things & even potential miscommunication if she doesn't associate 'boys' with adults (depending).  Allowing the little girls in her class to touch her privates b/c mommy didn't say that girls were 'bad' is not exactly promoting good behavior either.  I would also think that the potty time is not going to be the time someone would target a LO either so I wouldn't focus on pottying as much as just general all the time statements.

At our house we say look at or touch just to make the whole thing more clear b/c it is not just about touching.