eeek!:)

HisBelovedPrincess

So, this past March my best friend who has been TTC for 2+ years did her first IVF. It was unsuccessful, and I was really bummed for her.  They recently started round #2 and 7 days ago was her ET with 2 embies-1= 8 cell with 10% frag and 1=6 cell embryo.  Yesterday she did a HPT and it was negative....today she took one and it was positive!:) I know it is still very very soon..but....I think I am going to be more excited for her pregnancy (maybe it will even be twins! lol)  than I was when I found out we were expecting twins.  It's been a hard road for our freindship since we conceived right away, and her PCOS has made it difficult for them.....ah! Any of my fellow MoM's have any pointers for how to celebrate with a friend in this position?

 

Going_from_Miss_to_Mrs

You are such a sweet friend!

Everyone deals with infertility differently but for me, I appreciated NOT being asked "how are things going?, how are you feeling".... all the time.   I liked it when my friends let me bring it up and when I did they were always happy to talk about it.   When I did get the positive test, I was still so scared and nervous since it was so early that again, I didn't want to talk about it all the time because I was so guarded.  Your friend however may be the complete opposite and just want to shout it from the rooftops!  And you can tell her what you shared with us, "I am so very happy for you and I want to be here for you in anyway I can but also know it is a personal experience so however you want me to be here for you, just let me know." 

My girlfriends took me out to lunch and for a spa pedicure to celebrate.. it was great! 

HisBelovedPrincess

ooh thanks, I'll have to keep that in mind about a lunch outing She called me this morning to tell me and before we ended the conversation I said "thank you so much for entrusting me with this part of your heart. I feel honored.  Whatever this path leads to, know that I am here to celebrate with you"   I know she is worried that the baby(ies) won't stick...so I'm just praying that God's peace will comfort her ina  way her husband, family nor I can.  I have been trying to be mindful of not asking whenver I see her, but waiting for her to bring it up...even though while she's on the 2WW, it's probably on her mind 24/7 I know I'm thinking about it for her! lol

Going_from_Miss_to_Mrs

HisBelovedPrincess:

I said "thank you so much for entrusting me with this part of your heart. I feel honored.  Whatever this path leads to, know that I am here to celebrate with you"  

I have been trying to be mindful of not asking whenver I see her, but waiting for her to bring it up...even though while she's on the 2WW, it's probably on her mind 24/7 I know I'm thinking about it for her! lol

 

That is perfect!  And I am sure she knows you are rooting for her and always keeping her in your thoughts.  I knew family and friends wanted to ask and were thinking of me, but I was so appreciative when they didn't bring it up.  I just felt that it was putting more pressure on me (and I already put SO much on myself).  Your friend is lucky to have you and I hope she makes it onto this board!

HisBelovedPrincess

My friend is currently 5w1day today!:) and her first beta at 12dp3dt was 146!   at 14dp3dt it was 349!:) and at 17dp3dt it was 2113!:) she gets to go in for her first ultrasound on 9/6 Thank you Lord for HEALTHY baby(ies) in her womb!:)