***PAL Check-In***

Mrs Nice

Hello Ladies.Welcome to Thursday PAL Check-in! I hope everyone is having a good week. If anyone has any suggestions for questions, please don't be shy!Where are you in your PAL journey? What are some PAL challenges you have faced recently? QOTW: Do you find that PAL becomes easier over time? Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? GTKY: What is your favourite flower? 

weddedwife

Where are you in your PAL journey? Currently parenting a 3 yo. She was 2 when Nathaniel died. Also currently pregnant with our rainbow. What are some PAL challenges you have faced recently? Since being put on bed rest, DD suddenly does not want to go to sleep by herself any more. We were a co-sleeping family up until about 6 months ago. DH successfully got her to sleep in her own big girl bed but our new routine has screwed everything up. However, we have recently come to have peace with her not wanting to sleep by herself for now, and we're not going to force it. QOTW: Do you find that PAL becomes easier over time? This is a tough one. Yes and no. No, because I am WAY more paranoid about everything DD does. I worry something may happen to her constantly. I don't like her being out w/o me. I know how quickly everything can change and it scares me. Yes, because all the little parenting challenges are suddenly meaningless. All the little struggles are unimportant, they are transient, and what's important is my love for my daughter. I can really enjoy the precious moments. I can be fully present. Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? (See the PgAL check-in. I have a one-track mind this week.) GTKY: What is your favourite flower?  Lately, the really pretty multi-colored roses we have in our yard. They smell amazing.

julesverne

Where are you in your PAL journey? DD will be 3 in October and I am pregnant with #3..I like to refer to it as "the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow"

 

What are some PAL challenges you have faced recently? As a straight up parenting struggle-DD has regressed when it comes to potty training. As far as PAL, we have been telling DD that she will be a big sister, and she seems to kind of get it, but I have tried to explain that she is a little sister too-that Jack was her big brother, but of course she doesn't grasp that concept and it kind of hurts to know she will never know her big brother.

 

QOTW: Do you find that PAL becomes easier over time? It has gotten a bit easier. When DD was a newborn, I was constantly checking to make sure she was still breathing, etc but as time as gone on, I've noticed I am less overbearing and protective--but not by much

 

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? The bean in my belly. I have trying to do everything right as far as staying away from "bad" things, taking my PNV, etc...but in the back of my mind, I realize that I did everything right with Jack, and he still died. That at this point in my pregnancy with Jack, his days were already numbered (I know that sounds bad). His heart didn't form correctly..and I had no control over that. So long story short..I am worried something will go wrong. I am already noticing that I am not enjoying this pregnancy because I am thinking of everything that could go wrong instead of focusing on what could go right.

 

GTKY: What is your favourite flower? I'm a sucker for roses

pottermommy

Yeeeeek don't throw anything at me I know I have been a bad bumpie and it has been a REALLY long time... 

 

Where are you in your PAL journey?  Gabriel is 6.5 months old..Gah I can't believe he is this big...

 

What are some PAL challenges you have faced recently?  The leaving for work was really really getting me.  DH and I have since decided that it is not worth it and I am going to be a SAHM as of the 29th!! Happy Dance!

 

QOTW: Do you find that PAL becomes easier over time? I don't know, I think I need more time b/c right now I am in the midst of the terror..

 

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? Less than a month until Kam's anelversary and just a few days from the angelversary of the miscarriage.  i feel guilty that, that baby doesn't have a name.

 

GTKY: What is your favourite flower? Orchids, LOVE them.

Mrs Nice

 

Where are you in your PAL journey?

 Zachary will be 6 months old on Saturday! He is getting so big so fast already. Also next month will be a year and a half since I lost Ian.   What are some PAL challenges you have faced recently?

 I am really paranoid about SIDS. I am having trouble sleeping because I am obsessed with listening to him breathing. He is still sleeping in our room and I am running out of excuses to keep him there. My DH has been really patient so far but I know he really wants to have our room back to ourselves. 

 

QOTW: Do you find that PAL becomes easier over time?

 

I don't know yet but I hope so! 

 

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

 

I need to get DS to sleep in his crib in his own room but I don't know how I am going to do it. I don't really want to but I know it has to happen.  

 

GTKY: What is your favourite flower? 

 

Lilies! So beautiful. 

 

 

johnnys june

Where are you in your PAL journey? DD is 2 months old this past weekend.  Two months...where is the time going?

 

What are some PAL challenges you have faced recently?  DD has her first ear infection/cold.  I feel so lost and unprepared.  I was a nervous Sunday night when she woke up with a cough and stuffy nose.  I stayed awake all night just making sure she was still able to breathe and not choking on any mucous.  We also attempted to transition her to her nursery (before the ear infection came up).  The first night I only made it to the first feeding (3 hours), then she was in bed with us.  The second night I made it to the 2nd feeding before bringing her bed.  Then she got the cold.  I CANNOT let her sleep in there while she's sick.  I posted a blog...while typing it up I finally admitted my deepest fear...that she won't be alive when I go to her, that somehow, me not being by her side will result in me missing something that could save her life.  *sigh*  That fear grips me even now as she sleeps on my chest.

 

QOTW: Do you find that PAL becomes easier over time?  I'm only 2 months in, so I don't feel qualified to answer this.  I feel that parenting doesn't get easier in general, but is always evolving -- a growing experience alongside your child.  I feel like now that I'm past the exhausting newborn stage and moving to the normal infant stage I'm able to feel and reflect more which = more secret meltdowns in the shower, questioning everything I do, and missing Logan something fierce.

 

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?  Work.  I have to return to work next Friday.  I do NOT want to be away from DD that long.  

 

GTKY: What is your favourite flower? Roses, specifically rose bushes.  DH planted some just for me right outside our front door.  I also love daisies.  They just look like happy flowers to me.