Positive Changes

nurrieum

Things have been up and down with our BM. Lately I've started to pray for her and work through my offenses with her. She's made a lot of positive changes and has been seeing SS more and has been a positive thing for him.

Recently SS was with bm's mom so Dh and I decided to have a night out with just us and baby. We went to Applebee's and BM works there. Some old friends we hadn't seen in a while saw us  and sat and chatted for a bit. During this time BM came over and wanted to see the baby and laughed and talked with me for a moment or two. Our friends were stunned that this was my husband's ex. Coming from a blended family themselves they couldn't believe we were just civil and pleasant like that for no reason.

I recently ran into BM's mom and sister at the doctor's office while I had the kids. We also had a pleasant conversation and I made sure they had our number in case of an ER. Later BM commented that her mom was impressed that I could be so calm and patient with SS when he was acting out at the doctors office. She asked BM if this was an act and BM told me she replied "Nope, that's just Hannah."

We still have our set backs from time to time and I still get frustrated when I know I'm being manipulated. However I'm just continuing to pray and not let my offense and bitterness get the best of me and I feel that by being faithful with this God has been faithful to me. 

My husband get's a big end of the year bonus and we will be using this to go to court. However I don't feel so vindictive and angry. Instead of my own feelings getting the way and wanting to take SS away- I feel that we can come to a positive 50-50 agreement- where in the past this didn't look possible. I know people are subject to change which is why I don't stop documenting and I'm still ever watchful, however I feel that this is an extremely positive thing for SS.

He has his first therapy appointment soon and we're hoping to do family therapy as well. SS is doing really great and he's seeing a lot of all of his parents. I'm still hesitate to be too trusting because of the danger SS was put in, in the past. However I'm not going to condemn a woman who is trying hard for her son and I love seeing the excitement on SS's face when he knows Mommy K is coming to see him verses how it's been in the past.

Just thought I'd share things are going good for us. Not perfect and there are still issues but it slowly continues to get better. This is huge, I won't air our her dirty laundry but this woman has done some fairly terrible things and has made apparent changes. It can happen.

Holly_1007

glad things are looking up for you guys!

CFjo2010

I'm so glad to hear that you all are doing well!!  Happy updates like this always make me hope that my situation will (eventually) have a similar outcome.

twister22

Glad to hear things are doing well!

nurrieum

Thank you ladies. I know many of you having some very difficult situations that cause you a lot of stress so thank you for your support. That means a lot. I'm praying things continue this way. Again thanks for providing a place to vent and share no matter what's going on.

superkarynfragilistic

I am glad to hear things are going well for you.