dumb, insensitive comments

medblais

I am sick of them! I know this is only the beginning, as these comments are being made without the knowledge that I actually am KU. I went out for my birthday last night with a friend that I have decided not to tell for a while. MH is out of town again, and typically right now comes home for a weekend every other weekend. I know there are worse situations, but this sucks. She is now making jokes about how to get pregnant my husband would need to be home. I guess it sounds like an innocent enough comment, except I have been very upset and stressed about the whole trying to get pregnant topic, and she has seen me get pretty upset. I am just so annoyed, slightly insulted that she went there, and feeling very validated in not telling her.

UberBiz

Oh man, I'd take that as more of a reason to tell her you're pregnant! Like, Oh yeah, well guess what, he is home sometimes and we ARE pregnant, so there!

monica93555

Seems like she's an unsupportive and insensitive friend. I have one of those too : (  I was actually recently thinking of ending our friendship through an email (I know, immature... right? but I hate confrontation) but decided to finally start calling her on the issues I have with her when she makes the comments she does. It's going to be hard since I hate confrontation but if she doesn't like what I have to say then she can go pound sand.

Good luck with your friend. You just have to call her on her shenanigans when she pulls them. ANd she may not even realize that the comments she makes are hurtful to you.

firefly1231

Ugh it sucks having to deal with people like that. Some of us actually like having our husbands around and are sad when they aren't, and not just for sperm donations!

At least in the back your mind you could think to yourself that she will have to eat her words in a few weeks when you finally can make it public that you are pg :-)

cheer up!

mlbohannon1120

Seems like everyone we've told has asked if we were trying or what kind of birth control I was on (assuming whatever we were using failed). Believe it or not, some people PREFER to have babies close together. While this pregnancy was not exactly planned, it is very much a blessing, and we are excited.

What saddens me the most is we've only told a handful of our closest loved ones (my parents, my FIL, and my best friend). I can't imagine what the people we aren't very close with are going to have to say.

Some people have no filter when it comes to conversations with a pregnant woman - regardless of whether this is your first, 12th, you're 18 years old or 42 years old. There will always be those obnoxious, ignorant people that deserve a good throat punch.

RussianMommy

ppl can say some pretty assy things! i was told not to worry about eating healthy since I dont even know if this pregnancy is even viable!!

jcarleo1

UberBiz:

Oh man, I'd take that as more of a reason to tell her you're pregnant! Like, Oh yeah, well guess what, he is home sometimes and we ARE pregnant, so there!

 

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