Whats up

vanessagorc

With the bump from the iPhone. I don't like change! I can't see how I can get to another board from here. Anyway, hi ladies!!!

NMscubagirl

I know! I am having the same issue on droid. It is easier to respond though which is nice. It bounces between formats which is kind of annoying. Anyway, hi!

scooterq

Yeah it's weird for Droid now too. I like the way it looks but not the fact that I can't navigate to other boards.
I guess it's a good thing that I have most boards that I frequent saved lol

reb259

I hate change.  Where are all the pregnant IFVs?  I try lurking on PAIF and it is like lurking on the IF board.  It seems like I don't really know anyone over there.

Glad you checked in...how are you feeling?

vanessagorc

Hey reb
Paif is so weird now. The vets feel very out of place. The definition of infertility is questionable over there. After several ivf's, it's annoying to read posts where people complain about having to wait a few wks to have sex. Come on?!

It is easier to respond, but no aviators...so u really have to be on the ball w user names.

rockpaperlove

Love the ease of replying with the new format...and that's about all I like. Hopefully they will clean up the common dislikes.

Aegis2005

vanessagorc:

Hey reb Paif is so weird now. The vets feel very out of place. The definition of infertility is questionable over there. After several ivf's, it's annoying to read posts where people complain about having to wait a few wks to have sex. Come on?! It is easier to respond, but no aviators...so u really have to be on the ball w user names.

So true.  Heck, I spent a lot of time on the IF board up until 2 months ago, and I feel like I don't "know" 90% of the people posting on the board.  I don't know where all these people with their TI and 1st IUI success stories came from, but it makes me not really want to post over there all that often.

jillychris

vanessagorc:

Hey reb Paif is so weird now. The vets feel very out of place. The definition of infertility is questionable over there. After several ivf's, it's annoying to read posts where people complain about having to wait a few wks to have sex. Come on?! It is easier to respond, but no aviators...so u really have to be on the ball w user names.

 

I'm having the same issue, without pics....better start paying attention to names now!

glueck

Aegis2005:

vanessagorc:

Hey reb Paif is so weird now. The vets feel very out of place. The definition of infertility is questionable over there. After several ivf's, it's annoying to read posts where people complain about having to wait a few wks to have sex. Come on?! It is easier to respond, but no aviators...so u really have to be on the ball w user names.

So true.  Heck, I spent a lot of time on the IF board up until 2 months ago, and I feel like I don't "know" 90% of the people posting on the board.  I don't know where all these people with their TI and 1st IUI success stories came from, but it makes me not really want to post over there all that often.

I am with you. The turnover is really high, which I *suppose* is a good thing, but other than a cycle check-in, I much prefer my time on this board. 

jillychris

Aegis2005:

vanessagorc:

Hey reb Paif is so weird now. The vets feel very out of place. The definition of infertility is questionable over there. After several ivf's, it's annoying to read posts where people complain about having to wait a few wks to have sex. Come on?! It is easier to respond, but no aviators...so u really have to be on the ball w user names.

So true.  Heck, I spent a lot of time on the IF board up until 2 months ago, and I feel like I don't "know" 90% of the people posting on the board.  I don't know where all these people with their TI and 1st IUI success stories came from, but it makes me not really want to post over there all that often.

 

I feel like the practice of starting the "monthly groups" for those cycling, over on IF, is a double edged sword. It makes it great for check-ins for those cycling, etc, but it also makes it really easy for new posters to sneak in, cycle, get KU and then move over to PAIF. Some of them have such low post counts, or had been around so infrequently,  that in the past they would have been flamed for a drive-by, yet it's "okay" know because they are part of the monthly cycling group. 

rockpaperlove

jillychris:

Aegis2005:

vanessagorc:

I feel like the practice of starting the "monthly groups" for those cycling, over on IF, is a double edged sword. It makes it great for check-ins for those cycling, etc, but it also makes it really easy for new posters to sneak in, cycle, get KU and then move over to PAIF. Some of them have such low post counts, or had been around so infrequently,  that in the past they would have been flamed for a drive-by, yet it's "okay" know because they are part of the monthly cycling group. 

I relate with your thoughts on the double edge sword.  At first, I loved the idea of a "monthly group" on IF.  In theory, the "monthly group" was supposed to be a localized support group of familiar and active IF posters on the IF board undergoing IVF, then I saw exactly what you mention above.  

To me, it seemed as though the regular posters would support and check in through the cycle and the drive by BFP's would come out of the woodwork on their beta day.  It added insult to injury.  Had to jump ship on all that!

jillychris

rockpaperlove:

jillychris:

Aegis2005:

vanessagorc:

I feel like the practice of starting the "monthly groups" for those cycling, over on IF, is a double edged sword. It makes it great for check-ins for those cycling, etc, but it also makes it really easy for new posters to sneak in, cycle, get KU and then move over to PAIF. Some of them have such low post counts, or had been around so infrequently,  that in the past they would have been flamed for a drive-by, yet it's "okay" know because they are part of the monthly cycling group. 

I relate with your thoughts on the double edge sword.  At first, I loved the idea of a "monthly group" on IF.  In theory, the "monthly group" was supposed to be a localized support group of familiar and active IF posters on the IF board undergoing IVF, then I saw exactly what you mention above.  

To me, it seemed as though the regular posters would support and check in through the cycle and the drive by BFP's would come out of the woodwork on their beta day.  It added insult to injury.  Had to jump ship on all that!

 

Yep, this is exactly what it originally was when it started last fall.

vanessagorc

As a FYI we did fight to get a mod on paif. We as in the vets. We now have one! Now we are fighting to get a board description. Like, four mos of bein frustrated and thinking about seeing a RE....is not actually paif.

joules12

rockpaperlove:

jillychris:

I feel like the practice of starting the "monthly groups" for those cycling, over on IF, is a double edged sword. It makes it great for check-ins for those cycling, etc, but it also makes it really easy for new posters to sneak in, cycle, get KU and then move over to PAIF. Some of them have such low post counts, or had been around so infrequently,  that in the past they would have been flamed for a drive-by, yet it's "okay" know because they are part of the monthly cycling group. 

I relate with your thoughts on the double edge sword.  At first, I loved the idea of a "monthly group" on IF.  In theory, the "monthly group" was supposed to be a localized support group of familiar and active IF posters on the IF board undergoing IVF, then I saw exactly what you mention above.  

To me, it seemed as though the regular posters would support and check in through the cycle and the drive by BFP's would come out of the woodwork on their beta day.  It added insult to injury.  Had to jump ship on all that!

Agreed completely!  I've now participated in four of the monthly groups since January and have witnessed it getting progressively worse each month.  And, from my lurking and comments from you all, it seems like PAIF gets the trickle-down brunt of it. Definitely a double edge sword.

rockpaperlove

vanessagorc:

As a FYI we did fight to get a mod on paif. We as in the vets. We now have one! Now we are fighting to get a board description. Like, four mos of bein frustrated and thinking about seeing a RE....is not actually paif.

 

If I ever see my lasting BFP, I hope to experience this mod; not the current.

PrettyAccountant

vanessagorc:

Hey reb Paif is so weird now. The vets feel very out of place. The definition of infertility is questionable over there. After several ivf's, it's annoying to read posts where people complain about having to wait a few wks to have sex. Come on?! It is easier to respond, but no aviators...so u really have to be on the ball w user names.

I had to laugh when I read this post because I was lurking and just noticed a woman who had to take metformin for a month to get KU - oh the poor dear .... 

mtlaurel

vanessagorc:

As a FYI we did fight to get a mod on paif. We as in the vets. We now have one! Now we are fighting to get a board description. Like, four mos of bein frustrated and thinking about seeing a RE....is not actually paif.

Thank you, Vets, for doing this - not only because I still have dreams of one day getting to post over there, but also because it makes me sad not to see you and your cohorts posting there much. 

Bethany1026

I found that if you go to the bottom of the page on iPhone and click full site, it brought me back to the old view.... I did not like the new one either. 

rockpaperlove

Bethany1026:

I found that if you go to the bottom of the page on iPhone and click full site, it brought me back to the old view.... I did not like the new one either. 

Good to know!  -thank you! 

GL with your 2ww!  Hugs and well wishes!

PurpleIris30

rockpaperlove:

jillychris:

Aegis2005:

vanessagorc:

I feel like the practice of starting the "monthly groups" for those cycling, over on IF, is a double edged sword. It makes it great for check-ins for those cycling, etc, but it also makes it really easy for new posters to sneak in, cycle, get KU and then move over to PAIF. Some of them have such low post counts, or had been around so infrequently,  that in the past they would have been flamed for a drive-by, yet it's "okay" know because they are part of the monthly cycling group. 

I relate with your thoughts on the double edge sword.  At first, I loved the idea of a "monthly group" on IF.  In theory, the "monthly group" was supposed to be a localized support group of familiar and active IF posters on the IF board undergoing IVF, then I saw exactly what you mention above.  

To me, it seemed as though the regular posters would support and check in through the cycle and the drive by BFP's would come out of the woodwork on their beta day.  It added insult to injury.  Had to jump ship on all that!

 Just wanted to jump in to say that this is frustrating me SOOO much about the IF board too and how much it has changed the posting dynamic, but I haven't had the nerve to say anything since everyone else seems to love being able to add those little badges to their signatures. 

vanessagorc

As vets was being established, i thought the groups were getting silly.  I can see a seasonal group (like spring or fall), but every month....make no sense and i think keeps people from forming a true sense of community.

People jump on, freak out for a month, get preg, freak out on paif about everything, never support anyone else (not in initial group), then disapper once they feel comfortable in their pregnancy.  Of course I'm generalizing, but u see my point.

Also, those badges strike me as uber queer (for lack of a better term and in a non derogatory way

Roxie5739

PrettyAccountant:

vanessagorc:

Hey reb Paif is so weird now. The vets feel very out of place. The definition of infertility is questionable over there. After several ivf's, it's annoying to read posts where people complain about having to wait a few wks to have sex. Come on?! It is easier to respond, but no aviators...so u really have to be on the ball w user names.

I had to laugh when I read this post because I was lurking and just noticed a woman who had to take metformin for a month to get KU - oh the poor dear .... 

Loved this... LOL. If only one simple drug could fix all our issues 

psychmusetls

Aegis2005:

vanessagorc:

Hey reb Paif is so weird now. The vets feel very out of place. The definition of infertility is questionable over there. After several ivf's, it's annoying to read posts where people complain about having to wait a few wks to have sex. Come on?! It is easier to respond, but no aviators...so u really have to be on the ball w user names.

So true.  Heck, I spent a lot of time on the IF board up until 2 months ago, and I feel like I don't "know" 90% of the people posting on the board.  I don't know where all these people with their TI and 1st IUI success stories came from, but it makes me not really want to post over there all that often.

i stopped reading people's siggys because i found myself discriminating (for lack of a better word).  But still, doesn't feel like home  

DeputiesWife

Im here too!!! I dont come on here as often as I should, though!

How is everyone??