Scared

Kadyra

I was hospitalized for my second placenta previa bleed yesterday. In the middle of my third right now and it's a doozy. Not the worst I've seen in practice. But when the nurses ate impressed by your clots... I just signed c/s consents and of course, I'm terrified. I'm scared of having a 27 weeker. I was praying for 36 or even 32. But 27. Not in my wildest dreams. And I've only had one shot of steroids so that is freaking me out. How do you deal with this anxiety? I can deal with what's happening to me, but my son? Any words of wisdom if we have to deliver today?

PhillyGal34

I'd say try and relax but I know that's nearly impossible. Just know that they would not deliver if they didn't have to and if it wasn't best or both of you.  Knowing there was no other option that was safe helped me. I'm glad you were able to get a steroid shot. Will you get the second? Even if not, one Is a big benefit to your son so you are a step ahead.  

 

Please keep us updated. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.  

adrielegorburu

I dont know that there is anything that you can do not to be afraid and anxious right now. But I agree with PP that you can focus on the fact that the doctors and nurses are going to make decisions based on what is best for your son.  I can tell you from personal experience (my daugher was born at 22 weeks 5 days) that these babies are strong and they fight... so be strong for him (or let him be strong for you) but you both are in good hands. Good luck and keep us updated

urbanflowerpot

Just take deep breaths...that's all I could do when it was happening to me. I didn't have any warning that he was coming - I'm not sure which is more ideal because they both stink. Good luck...keep us posted. I'm sorry.

jennbent

Think POSITIVE!  The doctors will always, always tell you the worst case scenario because they have to, but it doesn't mean that's what's going to happen with YOUR baby.  As a pp said, your baby is a fighter.  Your little one will surprise and amaze you with his/her strength. 

I had a 28 weeker who's still in the NICU almost 12 weeks later, but he's doing remarkably well and about to go home.  I know it seems impossible right now, but you WILL get through this.  T&P headed your way.  Good luck! 

thishappyhouse

deep breaths.  Do everything in your power to make it to the next shift change and then the next day.  It is so so so hard to feel like delivery is imminent, but as you know you never know what is going to happen.  I was rushed from antepartum to L&D 3 different times before my eventual c-section.... I know the fear and anxiety.  

If you deliver today, just know you have done the best you can for your son and that a whole new fight starts now.  These babies are incredibly strong!

 

thinking about you! 

jennifer1w

T&P and keep us posted.

Kadyra

Thanks ladies. Your thoughts help. Still bleeding but not as much. So we're waiting a bit. My second steroid shot comes at 418pm do aways to go. The only comforting thing right now is the sound of his heartbeat and DH by my side. I'll keep you posted. As always, thanks.

jcsntms06

Oh honey I'm so sorry to hear this. You and your little one is in my thoughts and prayers. Praying that you can get the second shot.

Just not to stress out and think positive thoughts. Please keep us posted. 

vsalt31

I'm also sorry that your going through this. I'll be praying for you & keeping my fingers Xed that you get that 2nd shot.

lawilbur

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Like PPs have said, what made it easier was knowing the Drs. were doing what was best for both of us. These little ones really are amazingly strong. You and your son will be in my thoughts and prayers!

Mrs. Alice

Kadyra:

Thanks ladies. Your thoughts help. Still bleeding but not as much. So we're waiting a bit. My second steroid shot comes at 418pm do aways to go. The only comforting thing right now is the sound of his heartbeat and DH by my side. I'll keep you posted. As always, thanks.

Praying for a little more time for you!  My boys came at 28 weeks and we barely got the 2nd shot in (I had them the first time at 24 weeks so they were not still effective by then).  I know many 27 weeker success stories.  Wishing you the best!

SquishyMine

Prayers for the next milestone...that's what I did...just prayed for the next milestone.  We ruptured at 24 weeks.  Made it almost 48 hours and got both shots.  First I hoped for that, then 25 weeks...almost made it...and the girls are now doing great at 34 weeks.  There were bumps in the road, but you will get through it...all of it.  It all feels overwhelming, especially if you think of all the possibilities and worse cases, as others said, so concentrate on the baby steps!  Thoughts and Prayers to you and your family!

Kadyra

Again. I thank you all. It means so much to have other mamas who have gone through this support me. I'm doing better they let me eat soup. I did see the neo and he was very reassuring. I feel tons better. I know if we deliver this week it'll be a struggle, but a doable one.

Bluebird2318

As PP have said, you would be surprised what little fighters they are. I had my 29-weeker after only one shot (and I only made it a few hours after the shot before my c-section, not the 24-48 hours that is ideal). Regardless, she has been breathing on her own since birth (meaning no ventilator; she did use CPAP for a few days, and cannula for a few weeks). I also have a friend who just had a 25-weeker... Also breathing on his very own, just the CPAP. Even as a 25-weeker he does not need the ventilator, a true little fighter at 1 pound 10 ounces. (My friend didn't make it past one shot either.) Just take it one day at a time. Even if you have the baby at 27 weeks, he has such a great chance to impress you with his strength.