Vent: SD

FriskyPanda

Tonight is one of those nights where everything is annoying me. I didn't get to take my medicine at the regular time so I'm extra irritable.

So, SD made a smart remark about DD getting a nicer lunchbox/kit. Really?  Really? You have a problem with me spending $4 more on a lunch thing? If you really want to count pennies then lets talk about the $400 we've paid in dance classes in the past month, or the $200 in school supplies, or the surgery we paid for tat BM put off for the past year that you needed.

When she gets in these moods it takes alot to not unload.  Shes been really pleasant up until today, but today she's just being a brat.

 Vent over. Thanks for "listening" 

Littlejen22

I cannot se siggies on my phone so I don't know her age. Obviously you cannot say that to her but I see no problem if she talks money, like you spent more on hers, you can totally say, and you do dance. Did she pick out her lunch box? Those are things I think kids should get to pick with obvious guidelines.

Ilumine

How old is she?  

There is absolutely nothing wrong with telling her that.   

blush64

I have found that kids usually do compare what their sibling has and whether it's worth more or less. It's kind of over reacting to want to shove the cost of a needed surgery in her face to make up for the difference in cost. To me this comes accross as resenting the money you are spending on your SD.

Did she pick out her lunch box? I would just ignore it.

EDIT I usually would have my kids with me when shopping for their supplies so they could pick the one they wanted. It wouldn't matter if one was more or less because they got the one they wanted and it gave them some control.

EDIT I also want to mention it's normal to get frustrated with kids so I can understand at the end of a busy stressful day just being fed up.

twister22

This is typical kid behavior. She doesn't realize she is being ungrateful, she just sees that in the lunch box situation, she thinks she was slighted.

Bring up that she does a very expensive dance, and DD does not. If she is older, I would bring up the other things you listed too. 

CFjo2010

I don't know how old your kiddos are, but I had a similar situation a couple weeks ago with my daughter (9) and K (6 1/2).  They were complaining that I told them "no" about wanting to go to the Zoo and get a bunch of new clothes and shoes they don't need right this very second.  Maybe it was the pregnancy hormones/lack of sleep/stress, but I snapped and reprimanded both girls for being greedy and ungrateful.

I actually did put an invoive together for both girls, showing what we pay out for their "extras".  My daughter's list had tumbling, cheer registration, cheer uniform, all the clothes I've purchased this summer, our trip to Universal Studios, the Carly Rae Jepsen concert tickets, etc.  K's list had karate, her belt testing, the Universal Studios trip, clothes I bought her just a month ago, the Nintendo DS she wanted, etc.  Then I told them if they really want to go to the Zoo and get a whole bunch more new clothes and stuff then we will gladly pull them from karate and cheer and stop the fun family trips in order to open up some room in our budget.  Both girls got real quiet, real quick.

FutureMrsWittig

My SDs baby-sitter tells the kids she watches "You get what you get and you don't throw a fit."  I love this phrase.

Tell SD that she gets to do things that her sister does not.  If she continues to whine tell her you can return the lunch box and she can use paper bags.