Feel like I'm not doing anything right

babesbabs

So I am feeling super low lately. I feel like parenthood is like swimming in pudding and I am drowning lol (still trying to keep a sense of humor). DS is amazing but he kind of has a whiney disposition and its really starting to get to me. Things have been really up and down with him. He is just now starting to sleep better and I know that will help. I just feel like Im doing everything wrong. Ok thanks for letting me put that out there.

namara5532

I had an evening last week where I felt like asking DH to stay home from work because I felt overwhelmed and like I didn't know what I was doing.  I have depression, so I definately know the feeling.

Try to get a day (or even a few hours) away from DS where you don't have to be a mother.  Get together with a friend or go see a movie.  Even taking a few 'mommy' hours at home where you just pamper yourself is helpful.  It will help you feel like your whole life doesn't have to revolve around this LO.  You're still the person you were before the baby, and it's good to take care of you for a while.

When you feel like you're doing everything wrong, take a minute to breathe.  Then really look at your baby.  Is he healthy?  Happy?  Loved?  Then you're doing a great job.  The dirty little secret is that every other mom is winging it too and doing the best they can.  You can do this!

babesbabs

Thanks so much for the encouragement. He is super healthy and happy. I am very blessed, it just gets overwhelming sometimes. Good to know I am not the only one winging it! LOL

aboynamedbarry

I used to care for a baby who had a more whiny disposition. he was healthy and all, but generally til he was 8 or so months he was just so needy. I was only with him part time and it felt like the weight of the world. You're not a bad mom, you are doing things right, and things will get better. Like namara said it's good to get out some. and your little guy is going to get better with time!