What if?

dandywarhol

I hate the what ifs. I know they don't really help anything and try to keep myself from doing it but I just had a new one. At our last appointment during this recent pregnancy when they scheduled our next appointment they scheduled it for 4 weeks out. Every other appointment had been scheduled for 3 weeks out because of the previous losses. Part of me wanted to say something about preferring to have it in 3 weeks rather than 4 but I kept my mouth shut, figuring that the dr. knew what he was doing. Now I can't help but think, what if we had the appointment at 3 weeks, would they have noticed that my cervix was opening? Could they have done something to keep my baby alive?  

 

Bayberry12

I know the "what if's" all too well.  I literally have to force myself to not think about the the what if's, all the days leading up when we found out my daughter was dead, every little pain I felt, or movement I didn't feel, what if I had gone to get checked out earlier?  

It really is a like a trap and we can't let ourselves get caught in it.   

fluttergirlmoonchild79

I hate the what-ifs and can't seem to shut them off.  I know it's easier said than done (I swear people can tell me till they're blue in the face and it doesn't do anything to change my mind) but be gentle on yourself.  Both of your babies know you did everything you could for them.  And remember, hindsight is always 20/20.  I know we've all replayed the moments, minutes, days weeks, months leading up to the time and try to dissect them all but (and not trying to sound harsh) - figuring it out does nothing to change the outcome that is now.  I wish nothing for you but peace and comfort and love {{HUGS}}