Hi I'm new here...and we're secretly trying to conceive.

Dulcez1023

Hello! My DH and I just recently decided to go off  the pill.  And we agreed that it would be better not to tell people we're "trying" (for some reason I greatly dislike that phrase) just in case our efforts are not fruitful etc.  Anyhoo...it is really hard not to talk about it!  I broke down and told my mom because I had so many questions, and a couple of other folks kind of found out (the Dr. when I went in for a cold, and someone who I knew could recommend better condoms).  But I'm a talker...and not telling anyone else is really really really hard!  So I'm really looking forward to strolling through these message boards and hopefully finding answers to all of my many many questions and worries. Thanks in advance!

BrigitteJoe

Great to have you here! I recently came off the pill as well! We just started TTC this month! Best of luck!

junie216

Same here!  But my mom and sister know but that is it.  Really we need to keep it from his side cause they are the intense ones   good luck!

Dulcez1023

Thank you both, and good luck to you two as well! 

Dulcez1023

Question...when you came off the pill did your period come on schedule?  My husband and I were not great with the alternative contraception towards the second half of that month you're supposed to wait before TTC.  Now my period is a week late, but I tested last week and I'm not prego and I'm wondering if this is normal. Any similar experiences?

bewilderingstar

Dulcez1023:

Question...when you came off the pill did your period come on schedule?  My husband and I were not great with the alternative contraception towards the second half of that month you're supposed to wait before TTC.  Now my period is a week late, but I tested last week and I'm not prego and I'm wondering if this is normal. Any similar experiences?

 

I went off the pill almost 4yrs ago and it was terrible. My periods were all over the place at first.  Maybe you going off the BCP made your period "restart" the clock. So maybe after 4wks of being off it, you'll get it again. I've been off the pill twice. Once I got it that week for like 9 days (YUCK!) then the second time I didn't get it for 5 1/2wks. 

Good Luck! 

Dulcez1023

Thanks for the info.  I've been off the pill for 5 weeks tomorrow.  So hopefully AF will show up soon...or a positive.  I'd be happy with either.

EmLaw84

Gah! Getting off the pill was torture. I would compare the 3 months after you stop taking it to the first 3 months when you started taking it. Your hormones go all crazy and it's just an altogether un-lovely experience. I got my following period on time, but it lasted for 11 days. (6 days longer than my norm) I got back on track after the 3 months and conceived at the end of that trial. Yay! New hormonal trials!! 

Agradley

I am going through exactly the same thing!!! We have recently decided to start TTC and my DH doesn't want to tell anyone but I let it slip to my mom and my sisters. (We're really close)  Anyway same thing for me...nice to be able to tell someone.

tjbowie

Im new here as well .. and we are going to actively "try" beginning first of next year. although we are not "preventing" either.  Good Luck  

angelchild24

Welcome, and good luck!

I went off BCP last July, my first cycle was about the same as while on the pill, but since then I have had cycles that range from 32 days to 58 days! It sucks, but I did check out Fertility Friend (FF) as suggested by the ladies on the TTC board, and it has been very helpful. I started temping this cycle, and I am still trying to get my timing worked out, but I'm hoping it will help us time sex better.

I know what you mean about wanting to talk about it, but not wanting to at the same time. I am a talker as well, and it helps to talk about it, but at the same time I'm worried about potential problems too. My DD was from a previous relationship, and I developed pre-e near the end of my pregnancy, and she was breech so I had to have a c-section. When we get pregnant it will be DH first, so he is nervous about it too. Our immediate family knows, and some close friends of mine, but that's about it. 

Pinkie_Price

We're doing the exact same thing! We've been "Not preventing" since the first of the yr and actively ttc for the couple of months. I just don't want my family all up in this already stressful process and most of our friends- although many are married or in long- term relationships- don't have kids yet, so I'm not sure they'd understand. I'd rather just have it happen and drop the bomb on everyone once it's all said and done!

Welcome!