Anyone else pursuing only adoption?

House of Lovelock

My husband had a vasectomy last year because we only want to pursue adoption to add to our family. We already have bio & adopted kids and it doesn't matter to us how we grow to our family, so decided on adoption. (We are Christian and want to do something other than just say we are "pro-life".)

We never had infertility struggles or even gave it a second thought, it just felt right and we are just adopting. Anyone else?! I only know one person IRL who is adopting w/o infertility. Or maybe does anyone know of any blogs of mixed bio/adopted families?

mommytoconnor

I did adoption.  I didn't have fertility issues.  A little different situation though.  I am a single woman.  I haven't met the man of my dreams and wanted to be a mom, so I adopted my son.  best decision I ever made.

Mush-Tastic

We have not tried infertility treatments and I've never officially been diagnosed with anything. I have some medical issues that could be very concerning if I were to get pregnant, thus we are choosing adoption.

jwpbride

I have one bio son and we will adopt the rest. After Noah's (relatively normal) pregnancy (and actually, after already applying to the adoption agency! haha), the doctors found out that I have a gene mutation that will keep me from carrying another pregnancy full-term. Adoption has always been my plan for at least 1 of my children, but God just timed it where it was obvious this was the way to go now. 

ellekae

Yes! We had no struggle with IF when we were trying for DD, but, once I was about 20 weeks into the pregnancy, I knew that I wasn't interested in doing it again (at least not on purpose). I have always felt called to adoption, specifically transracial adoption, so this process feels like the culmination of something the Lord has been preparing me for and calling me to since I was a little girl.

I do feel that it is hard for my MIL to handle because she doesn't understand what I mean when I say this is our calling. It took DH 5 years and my miserable pregnancy to even allow himself to pray about adoption. It would probably be easier for people to understand this calling if we weren't able to make bio babies...

I feel a little scared every month in the lead up to AF... I don't want to be pregnant. I feel bad saying that, but it is how I feel. Sometimes I wish that is what I wanted, that being more "normal" in terms of growing our family was my call. But it's not, and there isn't anything I can do to change that. If the Lord wants us to have another bio baby, I will get pregnant despite our best efforts to avoid it. And I will be esctatic either way.

ellekae

Also, my blog is in my siggy.

reenie83

I've been interested in and explored adoption options since I was in high school. I'm not sure why, but it has always been the way that I envisioned having a family. Throughout the time that DH and I started dating (and with others that I dated in the past) I always asked about whether they'd be option to adoption.

DH and I have been TTA, but at the same time are exploring adoption. We may choose to have biological children as well, but adoption has always been on the radar. Since we haven't been trying to conceive, I can't say whether I'd have IF issues or not. 

srmmm09

Yes, DH and I have no infertility issues, and we're adopting from Uganda. We may have another bio child, but we'll certainly adopt again. DH is one of 7, so we want a bigger family than average.

msditz00

I have always known I wanted to adopt.  My husband and I discussed it when we first started dating, and he had no issues with it (one of the many ways I knew he was the one!).  Before we got married, he asked if we could have a bio child and adopt a child. 

We were fortunate to not have any issues getting pregnant, although our first son was a preemie.  Our second son was full term, but during the pregnancy we were told he had multiple heart defects and possibly other issues and were offered to terminate (turns out they were wrong, and our son is perfectly healthy).  So after going through those issues, I am thrilled we already were planning to adopt the rest of our family!

After our son was born, we decided that we wanted a big family.  So we decided to have another bio child, and start the process to adopt a sibling group.  The process has taken a LOT longer than they initially told us (we have been trying to get licensed since April 2011), but they tell us now we should be licensed by Thanksgiving!

So we have a 2 year old and a 2 month old, and within the next 2-3 years are hoping to be matched with at least 2 more!  (They told us that due to the age of our youngest, we will probably have a longer wait for matches)

penguincrazy

We have three biological daughters and are adopting a son.  We, too, are Christians, and wanted to open our home to a child without one.  We never experienced IF.  I don't know of any groups, but I'd love to find out about them too.