I have been lurking for a few weeks but I wanted to jump in and introduce myself. I am 41 and a newlywed and we are TTC. I am really nervous for so many reasons. My age, for one. I just keep hearing horror stories about TTC after 40 and they scare me. I also had a miscarriage at 14 weeks about 15 years ago and then ended up getting divorced so I have not been trying any in the last 15 years. I just assumed kids were not in the picture for me. Then I met my DH and everything changed in an instant. So now we are trying and this is just the first month but it all looks so complicated.
I have been grateful for the advice I have been reading. I never realized you should take prenatals before getting pregnant so I got started on those. If my AF shows up in the next week or so then I will try the charting of temps and see about trying to figure out when I ovulate. I do know if 3 months go by and still no BFP then I will be making an appointment to check things out.
I can't believe I am so nervous and excited at the same time. I'm sure I will have tons of questions, especially about all these acronyms.


- 10 cycles no meds, July 2012 -March 2013: BFN
- Cycle 11 - Chlomid and IUI April 6, 2013 BFN
- Cycle 12 Chlomid but canceled IUI so only TI BFN
- Cycle 13 - On break from meds - suprise BFP - ended in CP June 11, 2013
- Cycle 14 - TTA BFN
- Cycle 15 - 17 - Break from meds and doctor, trying on own BFN
- Cycle 18 Chlomid and TI BFN
- Cycle 19 BFN ... onto Cycle 20
- .........
- Cycle I have no fricken clue anymore but still BFN
Re: Introducing myself
Welcome! A of ladies over 40 (including members of my own family) have no trouble at all.
I would recommend getting some basic testing sooner rather than later- including Day 3 bloodwork (FSH, etc). and the AMH which can be done anytime in the cycle. When I started TTC (which was at age 41), my GYN was doing basic health things (pap, mammogram, TSH, prolactin) and telling me everything was good to go. Those tests don't give you an accurate picture of ovarian reserve.
The following link was helpful to me: https://www.advancedfertility.com/fertility-after-age-40-ivf.htm. Hopefully you won't need IVF, but this does have good stats. The entire website has great information.
GL!
DOR and AMA
2/12-5/12: 4 IUI cycles = all BFN;
7/12: DE IVF # 1 (with ICSI)- 20R, 16M, 14F, 5DT of 2 blasts; 6 frosties = BFN;
Lupus anticoagulant initially high, then found to be normal on hematology consult;
Follow up testing in September all clear;
Started synthroid for "high normal" TSH;
FET # 1- late October 2012- BFP on FRER; beta # 1- 21(low), beta # 2- 48 (still low), beta # 3- 132, beta # 4- 1,293; beta # 5- 5,606; last beta- over 100,000. First u/s 11/21- heard heartbeat
12/12- Officially an OB patient!
Level 2 ultrasound at 20 weeks shows vasa previa and VCI
Referral to MFM and mandatory c section for delivery
Beautiful baby girl born at 34 weeks
Finally home after 15 day NICU stay!
Trying for sibling: FET # 2- May 2014; beta 5/31, BFN
FET #3, early July 2014; beta 7/14, BFN
DE IVF # 2- August 2014; 14R, 13M, 11F, 5dt of 2 blasts (3 AA), 5 frosties = BFN
FET #4- December 2014, yet another BFN
Dr. KK work up shows borderline uterine blood flow, elevated NK cells, and MTHFR mutation (homozygous for c677t)
Added baby aspirin, prednisone, supplements, Metanx, and intralipids
Switched to large clinic for final attempt; had endometrial receptivity testing in January; FET March 2015 = yet another BFN
Likely OAD- NBC
My Ovulation Chart
**All AL Welcome**
TTC since July 2012 Me(42): normal HSG low progesterone 2.5 and TSH 13.9 DH(41): normal SA