I'm trying to take it easy this cycle.

technigirl

Hi ladies!

Well I'm right in the middle of my fertile period (I will probably O sometime in the next couple of days), and I've decided not to go for the 3 day in a row BDing that we did last month.  I think I'm just going to try and relax and enjoy the ride this month.  BDing every day for 3 days straight was honestly just too hard on me and DH (who, unlike Daniele's hubby, does not have the libido of a 15 year old lol).  We BD'd last night and 2 nights before that, and I think we'll go for it again tomorrow, but not tonight.  So basically, every other day.  I've gotten High on the CBEFM yesterday and today, so Peak will be coming any day now.  Last month I only got 1 High day, and we BD'd that day plus the 2 peak days, but nothing happened.  However, we had not BD'd for like a week before that, and I think that had something to do with it. 

I'm also charting for the first time this cycle, so it will be interesting to see what I learn from that.  It shows my temp is still low as of today.

Am I crazy?  Am I giving it enough of a chance this month?  A small part of me wonders if I could miss a chance to conceive by not BDing every day.

Melissa

 

icogburn

I agree with you.  My husband said he is starting the feel like a robot and we are only in month 4.  I am also using the CBEFM.  I don't chart my temps, but do use the monitor and watch my CM.  (I wake up too much at night to use the restroom.) We did get pregnant on our first month and were NOT BD'ing every day, but had a CP which I hear is pretty normal the first try.  I hear skipping a day in between helps build up sperm count..so I don't see why it would hurt.  I have read and believe that if you are able to BD when you see good CM, that is the best time to do it.

  

ShellBear+

I think eod is fine.  That is what I was doing or even less the times I got pg.  Just make sure you aren't going more than 2 or 3 days without bd during that week leading up to O also. 

dhreczuck

My Re actually recommend every other day, so if that's coming from a fertility Dr. it can't be bad advice!

Last month we only have sex the day before and the day after my +opk and then not until 36 hours after that and I got a bfp so it can work.

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technigirl

dhreczuck:

My Re actually recommend every other day, so if that's coming from a fertility Dr. it can't be bad advice!

Last month we only have sex the day before and the day after my +opk and then not until 36 hours after that and I got a bfp so it can work.

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Yay, that makes me feel better knowing it's what the doc recommends.

Ladies, thank you so much!  This helps me relax even more.   

CobaltBlue2

For what it's worth, besides being 35+, I'm also a DES daughter, which presents huge fertility obstacles.  I had tried, charting, with my ex.  And ultimately, it's good I never got PG.  Because when I got together with my guy at age 39, we went "gloves off" immediately, knowing that we'd love to have a family together, but didn't want to get our hopes up, or put too much stress in our lives.

After years of trying, hard, I became pregnant when I was almost 41, after 2 years of  just"being aware, but taking it easy".  Irene is almost 1 year old, and came out just great, despite all the high risk warnings.  Anyway, "taking it easy" can work. 

We aren't quite "taking it easy" when it comes to trying to make her a sibling, though.  Time--and my crazy cervix--is so not on our side!