Not interested in others...

Ridgebackmom

Hi...long story short we signed her up for fairy/princess dance camp(1.5 hrs x4days) and we leave her for that time but I have arrived early to watch her and she doesn't listen, won't follow rules, and doesn't sit down and play with others. They get to sit down with a snack and watch 20 minutes of a disney movie and here's my LO walking aorund. If we were to stay there the whole time she would continue to talk to us or get us to dance.

She starts pre-k (3yr) in 2 weeks and I am petrified she won't listen. My dd is so outgoing and usually play with everyone but she doesn't listen to others feelings. She goes to DC FT and plays with anotehr 3 1/2 yr old. From what I've heard they ahve a love-hate relationship...

 Now, I know she is only 3.4. Should I involve her in another activity this fall (dance, gymnastics, painting) to get her used to listening/playing with others?

TIA...sorry so long.

LoCarb

Is she interested in dance? If she's not interested then I could imagine she's acting out of boredom.

Her FT DC is that at a center w/ a teacher & bunch of kids her age or is it an in-home w/ only one other 3.5 yo?

From what I understand among my teacher friends, her behavior is common of someone who has not been in a school environment before. Once she's in PS, she will learn to sit still during circle time, single file lines, taking turns, focus on directions,etc... The learned behavior will not happen overnight but over time and you should see an improvement by mid-yr. I bet her outgoing-ness is a huge positive when introduced to a new environment. If she currently is in a center w/ other children then I still think she will adapt quickly in PS. There is so much to learn at this age and children are like sponges wanting to absorb the information.  PS offers a lot more routine, stations and team work. She has to pay attention some of the time,right?

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Ridgebackmom

**Hahaha I love your siggy, always make me laugh!

Right now she is at an in home with 3 younger boys and girls, except the older 3yr old. Thanks for letting me know that PS will straighten her out. That makes me feel much better.

She also adores singing and dancing at home...all day long. This class, however, has a lot of kids ranging in ages from 3-7.

KathrynMD

I wouldn't worry about this - the point of pre-k is to teach your LO how to be in a community, part of a classroom, how to follow rules, etc.  I wouldn't worry about this at all.

jlw2505

Sounds to me that this class might just not be her thing or might just not have enough going on to keep her interested.  My girls (one with ADHD) have a hard time paying attention to things they just have no interest in.  They both loved soccer so had them in a class last winter - the coach was not good and the rest of the rest of the kids were boys - after a few classes of them just not paying attention, we dropped the class.  A good teacher will be able to get almost all kids involved in a large portion of the class. 

LoCarb

Thanks for the siggy comment!  Did you remove your siggy?  I remember seeing a cute, smiling girl?  

I agree w/ KathrynMD about the PS community comment and nothing to worry about at all. I have the upmost respect for teachers with their skills and patience handling so many children at once.  My 3 yo is enough for me. Today, when I p/u DD from PS the teacher told me she was well behaved today and was the teacher's helper passing out wipes.  Seriously, the moment we walked out of the classroom DD began running, didn't want to leave the school, didn't want to hold my hand in the parking lot or sit in car seat....you get the drift.  It's the end of the day and she's tired of listening...how unfortunate for me.

Ridgebackmom

jlw2505:

Sounds to me that this class might just not be her thing or might just not have enough going on to keep her interested.  My girls (one with ADHD) have a hard time paying attention to things they just have no interest in.  They both loved soccer so had them in a class last winter - the coach was not good and the rest of the rest of the kids were boys - after a few classes of them just not paying attention, we dropped the class.  A good teacher will be able to get almost all kids involved in a large portion of the class. 

Thanks, I totally agree with you that a good teacher makes the difference. We also tried a gymnastics class almost 10 mo ago and the teachers were teens, some teens are fantastic with my LO but these girls didn't have a clue.

Ridgebackmom

LoCarb:

Thanks for the siggy comment!  Did you remove your siggy?  I remember seeing a cute, smiling girl?  

I agree w/ KathrynMD about the PS community comment and nothing to worry about at all. I have the upmost respect for teachers with their skills and patience handling so many children at once.  My 3 yo is enough for me. Today, when I p/u DD from PS the teacher told me she was well behaved today and was the teacher's helper passing out wipes.  Seriously, the moment we walked out of the classroom DD began running, didn't want to leave the school, didn't want to hold my hand in the parking lot or sit in car seat....you get the drift.  It's the end of the day and she's tired of listening...how unfortunate for me. (lol)

Thanks! I was thinking of changing it, that never happened.. 

Yes, I heard the same thing from DC today. My dc lady hurt her ankle and had a brace on it but supposedly my dd was very helpful with the other kids...