DS Does Not Prefer Me...At All

walter7878

It's DAD, DAD, DAD at my house. He went over and put his head down in DH's lap this morning, then screamed while I got him dressed and put him in the car seat. He also screamed when I put him in and took him out of the Pack and Play, and did the straight up "get away" motion to me when I tried to kiss him good morning when DH brought him down after getting him up.

I am really not interested in "Nope, my kid loves me best" responses to this post, with all due respect. I know this isn't everyone's problem. I'm sure it's a phase, I'm sure I shouldn't take it personally, blah, blah, but that doesn't mean it doesn't suck right now. Anyone else going through this?

julbeejulz

Yes, you are not alone. My DS only wants his dad unless grandpa is around. When I try to hold him or take him from his dad, he will cry like I am hurting him. He will try to push me away and as soon as his dad takes him, he stops and is all smiles. It does suck right now but I am sure it is just a phase. I know it doesn't make me feel very good at all. Hang in there!

Andrea52408

Yup!!  It doesn't happen all the time but most of the time.  If DH is in the room, he wants nothing to do with me.

But the worst is my FIL.  If Grampie is in the room, nobody else matters.  I feel bad because I know that it hurts MIL's feelings.

Hang in there!  

walter7878

This is really interesting because Grandpa  trumps Dad, if he's around...sounds like you guys have the same situation. (The order at my house goes: Grandpa, Dad, Grammie, neighbor lady, stranger in the parking lot, me.)

I know it will change, but it helps to know I'm not alone! Thanks, ladies.

gymnst1013

Not currently but we have gone through this several times so far.  It does suck and makes me so sad.  But it does also pass.  Hang in there mama.  Your kiddo loves you!

walter7878

gymnst1013:

Not currently but we have gone through this several times so far.  It does suck and makes me so sad.  But it does also pass.  Hang in there mama.  Your kiddo loves you!

Thanks. That made me slightly teary. I know it will pass, but man, it sucks. Perhaps if I didn't have raging pregnancy hormones, I could cope better. Ha! 

IdigDirt

LO doesn't see DH that but he screams non stop at me and is all smiles for DH. We both get the "get away" when we go for a hug or kiss but he won't stop kissing the dogs!

kayjay10

I'm in the same boat.  DH works 2nd shift so he watches DD during the day, then she goes to my mom for a couple of hours overlap till I get off work and then I have her in the evenings (her fussiest time of the day).  DD definitely prefers DH first, then my mom.  Whenever I try to hold her, she whines and leans back to DH or my mom, wanting them to hold her instead.  I just keep telling myself it's a phase and it's because they get more time with her and it's always during her good moods.

BRUGGS10

Yep. We just got back from a trip and she wouldn't even come by me after not seeing me for 6 days. Grampa is favorite, then grandma, daddy then any other random person that smiles at her....then me. it's sad but i hear it from mom's of older kids too and they say "hang in there, they'll like you again when they have a child." EEK!!

LaceFace14

YEp! DS prefers DH so much more! 

thomas2013

Not with DD but DS was and is like this. Since he was about 1 1/2 he has preferred H. It always made me feel bad. I didn't understand why I was the one to get up with hi take care of him and he could take me or leave me. Everyone says he will be a mama's boy one day. I don't get why EVERYONE thinks just because he is a boy he is going/does prefer me. It's not true in my situation. On the other hand DD prefers me. But I know how you are feeling and just know it's not you or something you are doing. Like PP's have said they are in the same boat. My DS just thinks H is the best thing in the world.