When did you know?

LuClo · August 2012

I usually post over on infertility, but have been grappling with my demons and it was suggested you ladies might be the ones to help. This month marks the 2 year anniversary of DH and I ttc. We have MFI and, short of divine intervention, are going to need a lot of medical intervention to make anything happen. We're in the waiting period between surgery, testing, and deciding if we're going to do ivf. But I honestly just don't know if I've got it in me. We're back and forth every day. There are a million factors in the decision, but partly I just want to get off this ride on my terms instead of waiting to fail another cycle.

So my question is- how did you know when enough was enough? How long did it take to come to terms with the decision? and does it get any easier?

freeman2121 · August 2012

To quote another gal's siggy "Everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end."

It is purely you & DH's decision. Personally, I am not okay with the thought of not having a family - that's me though.

Best wishes

baze2 · August 2012

Freeman2121:

To quote another gal's siggy "Everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end."

It is purely you & DH's decision. Personally, I am not okay with the thought of not having a family - that's me though.

Best wishes

Why would you post this here..this is ridiculous response!

While I agree with your quote, the OP asked how how we knew it was time to stop trying..your second portion is useless and doesn't belong on this board.

To answer the OP: I still question the why's and what if's. However, DH and I have exhausted every option.. IUI, IVF, and even DE IVF. Aside from DE and DS IVF..it is physically impossible for us to conceive...took DH being in ICY for 5.5 weeks to learn the actual dx. We are pulling our adoption profile in the next few weeks because we can't handle the kick in the gut any more. I literally almost lost DH in February. (would have been the second time I was widowed) Luckily, he is alive. We are truly blessed. We have decided to enjoy the life we have left. Living to the fullest, traveling, and being care free. I am so tired of the disappointment and the tears and the "why not us". We are going to spoil our neices and nephews and live life again. We have been ttc for 4 years..trying to adopt for 15 months..it is time to move on.

We are going to take our lives back and enjoy the blessing that we have. EACH OTHER..not that we didn't enjoy each other. We just have gotten completely obsessed with TTC..that we forgot to live!

HTH

baze2 · August 2012

Freeman2121:

To quote another gal's siggy "Everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end."

It is purely you & DH's decision. Personally, I am not okay with the thought of not having a family - that's me though.

Best wishes

Why would you post this here..this is ridiculous response!

While I agree with your quote, the OP asked how how we knew it was time to stop trying..your second portion is useless and doesn't belong on this board.

To answer the OP: I still question the why's and what if's. However, DH and I have exhausted every option.. IUI, IVF, and even DE IVF. Aside from DE and DS IVF..it is physically impossible for us to conceive...took DH being in ICY for 5.5 weeks to learn the actual dx. We are pulling our adoption profile in the next few weeks because we can't handle the kick in the gut any more. I literally almost lost DH in February. (would have been the second time I was widowed) Luckily, he is alive. We are truly blessed. We have decided to enjoy the life we have left. Living to the fullest, traveling, and being care free. I am so tired of the disappointment and the tears and the "why not us". We are going to spoil our neices and nephews and live life again. We have been ttc for 4 years..trying to adopt for 15 months..it is time to move on.

We are going to take our lives back and enjoy the blessing that we have. EACH OTHER..not that we didn't enjoy each other. We just have gotten completely obsessed with TTC..that we forgot to live!

HTH

Eizza · August 2012

Wow...talk about a conversation killer there...

baze2 · August 2012

I certainly hope you are not saying that I was the conversation killer? I was answering the OP questions. If you were talking to me.I don't understand. Please explain.

I was trying to point out to Freeman that saying she was finished unitl she has a baby doesn't really belong on the CFNBC board.

galque · August 2012

You guys are debbie downers.

brookelynpaisley · August 2012

And this is why we pretty much took our board offline. You people who don't understand and can't find it within yourselves to have any kind of human compassion can seriously go eff yourselves.