I feel like an idiot...

jfoster04

Ok, so I moved out June 30th. STBXH already had a girlfriend. When I spilled my guts to a girlfriend of mine she suggested I meet a friend of her booty call's. I resisted but after 2 weeks I gave in so she would STFU. He and I talked on the phone a few times and agreed to meet for coffee to make her happy and let that be that. We met on 7/13 at Starbucks. Here's the problem. We like eachother. A lot. I feel super guilty and kinda like a whore. He and I have seen eachother for coffee or dinner 3 times sense then. Turns out he is loaded. (I didn't know that little piece of information until he drove up to Starbucks in his custom Bently... eye roll ) It should be noted that I am not a gold digger. The money thing almost turns me off to him. I almost think he is too good to be true. He is in amazing shape, is smart, funny, drop dead hot, and compliments me non stop. In a round about way he mentioned in conversation that "if we were to have kids" he could see himself calling my LO his, too. (note- STBXH is a good father, just a terrible husband)

Tell me its wrong, that I am supposed to be focusing on me and LO, and that he IS too good to be true. SOMEONE BRING ME BACK TO REALITY!!!  I know how bad and immature I am being, but then I get a text from him and I feel like a freegin 14 year old with a crush on Justin Beiber. Oh deer freekin Lord someone talk some sense into me.

septmom11

I dont see what the problem is??  Do you feel guilty for dating so soon?  If dating is not getting in the way of caring for your LO and you have met a nice, successful man that you are attracted to then go for it!  I would suggest taking it slow because of your hesitation though

supermansmommy

Enjoy yourself. Money is only an issue if you make it an issue.

jnjmommy0609

supermansmommy:

Enjoy yourself. Money is only an issue if you make it an issue.

This. You will never know how he truly is unless you give him a chance. Think of a situation where you were judged for something so stupid. Now maybe you don't care how people view you but I am sure there was at least a couple of situations where you felt it was unfair to be judged in a certain situation.

EDIY: Though I do agree that maybe it's a bit too quick. But that is 100 percent up to you to decide. Who are we to say stop seeing him. 

KTdidit

I don't see a problem with this, but do please take it slow. My XH moved out the beginning of July last year and in October I started dating a great guy, and yes it seemed a little fast for me. But if he truly is great and you are being cautious with your DS then enjoy yourself. There are people that get married again less than a month after signing the divorce papers, there are people that don't date at all for YEARS after separating. No one can tell you what's right for you except YOU.

jfoster04

Thanks gals.... He knows that I want to take it slow, and we are. I have given him a "No thanks" for a few date requests because it's my day with my LO, and he never questions it. I just dont want there to be the perception that I cheated because I didn't.