ours is about 42k before our 4k grant and 2k military benefit. that includes everything
Married 11/27/09 and TTC right away Dx: Complete septate uterus with cervical duplication, endometrial polyps, PCOS, endometriosis, hypo thyroid, luteal phase defect 4 uterus surgeries to correct my complete septum and to remove polyps and 2 years of seeing the RE, medicated cycles and IUIs Baby 1 and 2: BFP 3/3/11 with 2 babies EDD 11/1/11, M/C 4/6/11 Baby #3: 8/11 pregnant EDD 4/27/11 and m/c:( Baby #4: 10/12/11 BFP! EDD 6/16/12m/c 10/26/11 Baby #5: 3/13/12 BFP! EDD 11/25/12 ANOTHER m/c
Baby #6: 2/14/13- BFP! EDD 10/24/13, CP 2/19/13 Baby #7: 3/15/13- BFP! EDD 11/27/13, another CP Baby #8. BFP 5/19/13 EDD 1/22/14. 8 was not our lucky number
4th septum resection on 5/31/13. Baby #9: 6/29/13 BFP. C section scheduled for March 5th!
My miracle baby was born March 5 at 9:33am. He was 8 lbs 12.5 oz and 21.25 inches long!
Since I am going with an attorney, I won't know the final fees until it's done but he estimated approximately $3,000-6,000 attorney fees (as long as it is a clean situation), the home study was $1,300, and advertising is going to be between $100-300/month depending on if we do the extreme exposure option. Based on my attorney's experience, he said to count on $10,000-$15,000.
Married Since 09/2006, TTC Since 09/2010
DX: Unexplained infertility, DH normal
3 Femara cycles - Oct, Nov, Dec 2011, all BFNs
IVF #1, ER 2/15 (5R, 4M, 4F), ET 2/18, Beta 2/29 = BFN
Follistim + IUI on 6/25 = BFN
Home Study Finalized 8/14/12! Profile Active - 8/17/12!
Officially Matched 8/29/12, Our perfect angel born 9/25/12!
Our agency has a sliding scale, we are on the lowest fee schedule and will pay about $22,000 + legal fees (usually less than $1000) in order to finalize our adoption.
Based on our state we needed to use an agency, but also we decided to start with an attorney. All in it should end up between $25-$30K. Will depend on where we stay for the two weeks once baby is born before the court date and cost of plane tickets. Agencies in our state were a minimum of $30k. YES every agency has different costs. Since we identified a BM first and then brought in a agency, our placement agency fee will only be about $4K. HS also have different costs based on agency etc. and can run anywhere from $1,500-$3,000.
Failed Matches - December 2012, May 2013, December 2013
Moved on to gestational surrogacy with a family friend who is our angel and due 7/23/15
I have been very open about our expenses within what I think is an industry that doesn't do the best at making the real "total" known...
DD1- About $7000. This was a private/independent adoption w/no maternal expenses.
DD2- About $29,000. This was a facilitar/private independent adoption w/high maternal expenses.
However, note that we waited 22 months. In that initial wait, we made some costly decisions and had some failed matches.
Adoption Org#1- we waited 22 months and never matched. We paid them $11,500 for advertising which never resulted in anything.
Failed Match 1- We lost $2500 in initial match fee plus approximately $1200 in plane fare totalling $3700 lost.
Failed Match 2- We lost $5000.
Failed Match 3- Agency required 1/2 upfront so we have $17,500 sitting in an agency which could be rolled into another adoption.
So--- for two adoptions, the adoptions cost $36,000 which is LOW but in the process it we lost (or abandoned/saved for another day) $38,900.
Adoptions can range greatly. Also, the decisions you make can leave you w/big losses. Understanding how money is collected, what's rolled over, etc is really important if you network and try to have more exposure to more agencies and lawyers.
Best friends and sisters... 24 months and 16 months
Our international adoption (Uganda) will probably end up being ~$23000. That's including being in-country for 4 weeks for DH, myself, and DS.
Application approved Dec '11 Mar '12: Homestudy interrupted by change in Uganda requirements - where do we go from here? After searching and searching, back with Uganda but with our homestudy agency's program. Homestudy complete July 19 USCIS I-600A submitted July 20. Biometrics appointments arrived Aug 17; fingerprinted Aug 21; 171H received Sept 25th. On the wait list Oct 1st: #18. By Jan 25th, we're #13! Come home, baby A!
We're adopting from Korea. It will probably end up costing a little over $30,000. The fees were like $22,000... plus the cost of a week there when we go to pick him up, plus some other costs (fingerprinting, filing immigration paperwork, etc). we're hoping the tax credit gets extended at the end of this year!!!
We are budgeting on about $38-40K for our Colombian adoption. Our agency fee's will likely be around $28-30K, plus finalization fee's in our home state, and then budgeting a 9 week (hopefully it's closer to 4 week) in country stay. Really the 9 week stay is the kicker for me, DH, and DD.
Our domestic NB adoption (private adoption) was in total about $20K, however between the tax credit, and employee reimbursement we got all but $2K back.
$34K when all was said and done. We looked at an agency that said they were more like $17K, but in retrospect I think there would have been some "hidden" fees.
We recouped 2/3 of it between the tax refund and DH's company adoption reimbursement program.
Our fee with our agency was right around $17,000. But, we moved before we matched so we had to update our home study in our new state with added and extra $4,000 for the update and post placement visits. Our attorney cost $2,000 so right around 22-23 when it was all said and done. If we hadn't moved, it would have only been the $17,000 since that would have included post placement and legal fees.
Ours is probably a little on the high side, but we loved our agency. The activation fee was $10,000, home study $2,000 (separate agency in our state), profile and video fees $1,500, lawyer (for her and us),mom expenses and other agency fees $31,550 (we set our budget, since you can do that we our agency), travel (includes airfare, car rental and hotel for 3 weeks $4,000 and finally our post placement visits $900-1,200. I think I lost count, but thankfully everything has been paid cash (no loans).
Re: How much $$$
We are doing international and ours is $35,000 which includes 3 round trip flights plus one 1-way flight from Russia.
When we were looking into domestic most of the programs we considered were around $20,000.
TTC September 2010 thru October 2011
SA February 2011: Normal
RE App. October 2011 - Recc. Clomid and IUI
Taking a break from TTC to pursue adoption
Met our 2 year old son in Russia July 2012!
Court trip October 2012
Home November 24 2012!
Back to RE Summer 2013. TTC journey continues:
Dx DOR, endometriosis, low sperm count
Clomid + IUI#1, #2 = BFN / IUI #3 = ???
Laparoscopy scheduled December 2013
Married 11/27/09 and TTC right away
Dx: Complete septate uterus with cervical duplication, endometrial polyps, PCOS, endometriosis, hypo thyroid, luteal phase defect
4 uterus surgeries to correct my complete septum and to remove polyps and 2 years of seeing the RE, medicated cycles and IUIs
Baby 1 and 2: BFP 3/3/11 with 2 babies EDD 11/1/11, M/C 4/6/11
Baby #3: 8/11 pregnant EDD 4/27/11 and m/c:(
Baby #4: 10/12/11 BFP! EDD 6/16/12m/c 10/26/11
Baby #5: 3/13/12 BFP! EDD 11/25/12 ANOTHER m/c
Baby #6: 2/14/13- BFP! EDD 10/24/13, CP 2/19/13
Baby #7: 3/15/13- BFP! EDD 11/27/13, another CP
Baby #8. BFP 5/19/13 EDD 1/22/14. 8 was not our lucky number
4th septum resection on 5/31/13.
Baby #9: 6/29/13 BFP. C section scheduled for March 5th!
My miracle baby was born March 5 at 9:33am. He was 8 lbs 12.5 oz and 21.25 inches long!
I have been very open about our expenses within what I think is an industry that doesn't do the best at making the real "total" known...
DD1- About $7000. This was a private/independent adoption w/no maternal expenses.
DD2- About $29,000. This was a facilitar/private independent adoption w/high maternal expenses.
However, note that we waited 22 months. In that initial wait, we made some costly decisions and had some failed matches.
Adoption Org#1- we waited 22 months and never matched. We paid them $11,500 for advertising which never resulted in anything.
Failed Match 1- We lost $2500 in initial match fee plus approximately $1200 in plane fare totalling $3700 lost.
Failed Match 2- We lost $5000.
Failed Match 3- Agency required 1/2 upfront so we have $17,500 sitting in an agency which could be rolled into another adoption.
So--- for two adoptions, the adoptions cost $36,000 which is LOW but in the process it we lost (or abandoned/saved for another day) $38,900.
Adoptions can range greatly. Also, the decisions you make can leave you w/big losses. Understanding how money is collected, what's rolled over, etc is really important if you network and try to have more exposure to more agencies and lawyers.
Application approved Dec '11
Mar '12: Homestudy interrupted by change in Uganda requirements - where do we go from here?
After searching and searching, back with Uganda but with our homestudy agency's program.
Homestudy complete July 19
USCIS I-600A submitted July 20. Biometrics appointments arrived Aug 17; fingerprinted Aug 21; 171H received Sept 25th. On the wait list Oct 1st: #18. By Jan 25th, we're #13!
Come home, baby A!
We are budgeting on about $38-40K for our Colombian adoption. Our agency fee's will likely be around $28-30K, plus finalization fee's in our home state, and then budgeting a 9 week (hopefully it's closer to 4 week) in country stay. Really the 9 week stay is the kicker for me, DH, and DD.
Our domestic NB adoption (private adoption) was in total about $20K, however between the tax credit, and employee reimbursement we got all but $2K back.
$34K when all was said and done. We looked at an agency that said they were more like $17K, but in retrospect I think there would have been some "hidden" fees.
We recouped 2/3 of it between the tax refund and DH's company adoption reimbursement program.
:::Our Adoption Journey:::
Evan James was born 1/24/13 and matched with us 2/20/13. The LOVE OF MY LIFE!!!
She's Forever Ours! Finaliaztion-12.26.12