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Waiting to Adopt Check-in - 08/06
Waiting to Adopt Check In
This
is a place for anyone in the waiting-to-adopt phase to check in.
Lurkers welcome! Whether you're still checking out different agencies
and programs or you're bringing your child home tomorrow, this is for
you!
1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? And what age(s)?
2) Where in the process are you?
3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate?
4) Most encouraging moment last week?
5) Biggest challenge of this week?
6) Anything else you want to share?
7) QOTW: What is one family tradition you can't wait to pass on to your little one?TTC September 2010 thru October 2011
SA February 2011: Normal
RE App. October 2011 - Recc. Clomid and IUI
Taking a break from TTC to pursue adoption
Met our 2 year old son in Russia July 2012!
Court trip October 2012
Home November 24 2012!
Back to RE Summer 2013. TTC journey continues:
Dx DOR, endometriosis, low sperm count
Clomid + IUI#1, #2 = BFN / IUI #3 = ???
Laparoscopy scheduled December 2013
This discussion has been closed.
Re: Waiting to Adopt Check-in - 08/06
1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? And what age(s)? Domestic Infant
2) Where in the process are you? Working on our home study
3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate? We got through our 2nd of 5 visits today.
4) Most encouraging moment last week? I got our profile in the mail! And we got my SD's physical form back from her mom (I was really worried about her mom cooperating).
5) Biggest challenge of this week? More paperwork
6) Anything else you want to share? Now that we got our profile in, we can start being shown to birth moms! Very exciting!
7) QOTW: What is one family tradition you can't wait to pass on to your little one? Our Christmas traditions for sure.1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? And what age(s)? International adoption / Russia / 2 yo boy
2) Where in the process are you? We recently came back from our first of three trips; we are now assembling our court dossier and waiting for a court date!
3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate? We've only been back from Russia one week and we almost have our whole dosser together! Feels so good.
4) Most encouraging moment last week? Just that the week went fast. I'm praying the time just flies by until we get to bring our little man home.
5) Biggest challenge of this week? Between finishing our court dossier and leaving for my brother's out of state wedding, which I am MC-ing, I am feeling very overwhelmed. Struggling to stay on top of the anxiety.
6) Anything else you want to share? Just love you ladies and your great advice/comments/encouragement on this board!
7) QOTW: What is one family tradition you can't wait to pass on to your little one? I'll be cliche and say CHRISTMAS! But this is what I'm really excited about: we celebrate Christmas as a religious holiday and I am not big on Santa. We do gifts and a tree etc., but the focus is always spiritual in our home. I want to raise our children to have fun with Santa, but always knowing he is pretend and not real. Well when we were in Russia we learned about how the Russians celebrate New Years (instead of Christmas) with "Father Frost" - similar to Santa Clause. We decided that the best way to enjoy the Santa part of Christmas without being downers ("Santa isn't real"), is to have fun with Santa Clause, Father Frost (Russian), and Sinterklaas (Dutch- my heritage). That way we can celebrate the rich stories and the fact that they are stories and not "real" will sort of just be a natural part of the celebration ("in different countries people tell this story in different ways!"). Sorry so long, but that was a source of tension between DH and I, and we are happy to have found a creative solution to the issue!TTC September 2010 thru October 2011
SA February 2011: Normal
RE App. October 2011 - Recc. Clomid and IUI
Taking a break from TTC to pursue adoption
Met our 2 year old son in Russia July 2012!
Court trip October 2012
Home November 24 2012!
Back to RE Summer 2013. TTC journey continues:
Dx DOR, endometriosis, low sperm count
Clomid + IUI#1, #2 = BFN / IUI #3 = ???
Laparoscopy scheduled December 2013
2) Where in the process are you? On the match waiting list
3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate? Nothing new to report.
7) QOTW: What is one family tradition you can't wait to pass on to your little one?1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? And what age(s)? Right now, I don't know... We're still going through the steps of Foster-to-Adopt, but I don't know if that's where we'll end up. 0 - 6yrs
2) Where in the process are you? We're just waiting for the PRIDE classes to complete (6 of 9 tonight) and our walkthrough homestudy.
3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate? Application is complete! Handing it in tonight.
4) Most encouraging moment last week? See above
5) Biggest challenge of this week? Not knowing what direction to go... And our houseguest doesnt seem to be actively looking for an opportunity to move.
6) Anything else you want to share? Nope
7) QOTW: What is one family tradition you can't wait to pass on to your little one? My family doesn't really have traditions... We spend every holiday and birthday together.. But, beyond getting together and eating, no actual tradition that we always stick to. I look forward to creating new traditions with our child. Now... if you are referring to things we do that aren't necessarily traditions... I have a TON of those. I can't wait to share sooo many things of our life with a child.
July - Nov 2011: Testing with OB... OB said everything looks good
March - Sept 2012: Moved to RE.. 4 treatment cycles - responses of one or no follicles
09.03.12: Diagnosed Poor Ovarian Response.. DE IVF only option
Feb - Nov 2012: Pursued Adoption. That door slammed shut.
12.23.12: Surprise BFP (first ever)... 12.25 - 12.31: Natural M/C
1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? And what age(s)? Domestic Infant
2) Where in the process are you? We just got our acceptance letter on Friday with our agency! We have to sign our contract this week and we'll be set up with our social worker to start our home study!
3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate? See above. That was HUGE!!
4) Most encouraging moment last week? Knowing that we're finally making some progress in this has actually given me some sort of peace I can't really describe. I was a wreck trying to get that application done and then the waiting was driving me nuts.
5) Biggest challenge of this week? Constantly getting questions regarding when I can have a baby shower. Do I know what sex the baby is going to be? When will they be coming home? People who have never gone through this, the majority, don't know what in the world actually goes on and they think I just get a baby in like 5 days. Going to be a looooong potential couple of years...
6) Anything else you want to share? I've been watching that "I'm Having Their Baby" show and it's taught me a lot. I'm also reading "Dear Birthmother, thank you for our baby." Seeing things more from the BM side has been a real eye-opener for me, but one that I am thankful for being exposed to. I never want to downplay what a huge role she will always play in our lives. I'm so thankful and so full of love for a woman I haven't even met yet.
7) QOTW: What is one family tradition you can't wait to pass on to your little one? Honestly I'm really just looking forward to starting our own with our son or daughter!:::Our Adoption Journey:::
Evan James was born 1/24/13 and matched with us 2/20/13. The LOVE OF MY LIFE!!!
1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? And what age(s)? Foster/Foster to Adopt. 0-5/6ish
2) Where in the process are you? Waiting on DCF to approve HS
3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate?
4) Most encouraging moment last week?
5) Biggest challenge of this week? Locating a few acceptable daycare centers.
6) Anything else you want to share?
7) QOTW: What is one family tradition you can't wait to pass on to your little one? Family game nights, Christmas, College football season.1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? And what age(s)? Domestic Infant Adoption
2) Where in the process are you? Finished our home visits, waiting for them to finalize so we can activate our profile on parentprofiles.com!
3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate? Just moving through the process quickly and smoothly
4) Most encouraging moment last week? Nothing significant
5) Biggest challenge of this week? An e-mail I got from my SW asking follow-up questions...so invasive and so many questions that I thought were covered in our visits!
6) Anything else you want to share? Nope
7) QOTW: What is one family tradition you can't wait to pass on to your little one? I am not sure..probably just our love for travel.1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? And what age(s)?
IA from Uganda, under 2 (really, 6 mos younger than DS).
2) Where in the process are you?
Waiting for USCIS approval. Then we'll go on the wait list!
3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate?
We got our last donation we need for our next fee (at USCIS approval.) Then we won't have another fee due until we accept the referral of our child!!!!!!!
4) Most encouraging moment last week?
See above. Also, having a friend buy some jewelry, and being able to make a custom order for another friend, benefitting our adoption. It's so nice to be able to find things to do while waiting that still feel productive!
5) Biggest challenge of this week?
Whale (that's well in Texan), it turns out I forgot to have us sign our I-600A, so it was sent back to us. Hoping we didn't set ourselves back 2 weeks (or more).
6) Anything else you want to share?
Nah. Just HURRY UP USCIS! Anyone recently received their I-171H?
Application approved Dec '11
Mar '12: Homestudy interrupted by change in Uganda requirements - where do we go from here?
After searching and searching, back with Uganda but with our homestudy agency's program.
Homestudy complete July 19
USCIS I-600A submitted July 20. Biometrics appointments arrived Aug 17; fingerprinted Aug 21; 171H received Sept 25th. On the wait list Oct 1st: #18. By Jan 25th, we're #13!
Come home, baby A!
1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? And what age(s)?
Domestic newborn
2) Where in the process are you?
After spending the last 2 months writing our autobiographies, we passed in our application a few days ago!!
3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate?
Decided to trade in our condo in the city for the white picket fence in the suburbs. Started house hunting yesterday!
4) Most encouraging moment last week?
Finally passing in our application! It's finally happening!
5) Biggest challenge of this week?
Buying a new car on my own! Exhausting and frustrating process but I did it without my husband! Pretty proud of myself!
6) Anything else you want to share?
7) QOTW: What is one family tradition you can't wait to pass on to your little one?
Weekly family dinners with my parents, brothers, spouses, nieces and nephews.
1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? And what age(s)?
Domestic infant open adoption
2) Where in the process are you?
waiting...waiting...waiting.
3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate?
Nada.
4) Most encouraging moment last week?
Getting close to done on the baby quilt I've been working on.
5) Biggest challenge of this week?
Waiting. Feeling like my career is in a total rut because I don't want to make a change, and then get matched. Finding out one of my fellow IF friends is pregnant, and we're still...waiting.
6) Anything else you want to share?
We submitted our profile on #4 two weeks ago, and still hearing nothing but dead air. Feeling pretty discouraged.
7) QOTW: What is one family tradition you can't wait to pass on to your little one?
Little things like reading before bed each night.
1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? And what age(s)? Domestic infant adoption
2) Where in the process are you? Baby due in December
3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate? Starting working on names - Middle name is set. Went to Buy Buy Baby and got completely overwhelmed, but went with DH to Babies R US and now we have a plan. Still not buying anything yet.
4) Most encouraging moment last week? Hearing back from our doctor that all looks fine with the 20 week U/S and also doing the math to realize it was just 19w3d
5) Biggest challenge of this week? Staying patient for the 24wk U/S
6) Anything else you want to share? Our niece was in from CA this weekend and it was great to have both nieces and SIL's in house for a sleepover.
1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? And what age(s)? Adoption from foster care, hoping for 2 sibs under 5.
2) Where in the process are you? Home study approved, waiting for final signature.
3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate? We got a used swingset this weekend!
4) Most encouraging moment last week? Basically people just being excited for us.
5) Biggest challenge of this week? Just waiting.
6) Anything else you want to share? N/A
7) QOTW: What is one family tradition you can't wait to pass on to your little one?
Don't have one..but can't wait to make up our own!
7) QOTW: What is one family tradition you can't wait to pass on to your little one?
That's a tough one. I never really feel like anything is a "tradition" per se, until I catch myself feeling sentimental while doing it. I guess making ginger bread houses for christmas. We always have a contest (we are a very nerdy and competitive family so it gets interesting LOL) to see who can make the most structurally sound, and aesthetically pleasing ginger bread house...and not out of those little kits either. With real home made frosting and candy...yum! I'm 30 and its still the highlight of my holiday season, so I am sure it is something I will pass on.
Domestic Infant (transracial)
Documentation
Nope.
None.
I'm trying not to push DH into doing the paperwork, but last Monday, I did tell him that I wanted him to go through things on his own during the week. He didn't. I don't want to be a nag, because I want him to WANT to get the process moving forward.
QOTW: What is one family tradition you can't wait to pass on to your little one?
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Heading to China in November 2014 to bring our son home!
1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? And what age(s)? Not sure yet, but heavily leaning towards international adoption; 0-4/5 yrs.
2) Where in the process are you? We're really at the beginning stages. It's something we've talked about since we've been dating and just in the past couple of weeks have begun to look into taking the first steps. We've been looking into agencies in our area and the costs associated.
3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate? Just found out that DH's job has an adoption assistance benefit, so he's looking into more information on that.
4) Most encouraging moment last week? Reading through some adoption process blogs and hearing the stories, both the ups and the struggles.
5) Biggest challenge of this week? Worry over the finances and sharing with our family. We don't have any known fertility issues and feel blessed by that, however others have made comments about why we'd adopt when we could have our own children. If we do adopt those will be "our own children."
6) Anything else you want to share?
7) QOTW: What is one family tradition you can't wait to pass on to your little one? All of the little traditions; like the Advent Calendar counting down for Christmas, going pumpkin picking for Halloween with the entire family, etc.