My due date is here....

PhillyGal34

I'm so conflicted. I'm still a bit sad about everything but glad my "pregnancy" is over. Everything turned out great, I have an amazing, beautiful son but that doesn't change the struggle we've had over the past 2 months. 

 

Howd you handle your due date? I've cried more today over dumb stuff than I have in weeks.  

pathfindermon

My due date was yesterday.  My husband and I decided to have a family day.  We took our DS out for the day- driving around, went to lunch and bought him a Vermont Teddy Bear to mark the day.  It was weird but decided to make it a happy day and celebrate how good he's doing.  That being said- I've had some tough moments.  I hope that you were able to find some peace and special moments in the day.

brwneyedbuni

You are totally normal. Anniversaries will also be hard. I know on my due date I brought my car seat to the nicu just to be funny. ( my DD was septic and intubated). I knew she couldn't come home yet, but I just wanted to be like "you said she could come home on my due date!" The nicu staff didn't get my off color humor. They just felt sorry for me which made it worse. The best you can do is never "could have, should have" yourself. You did the best you could. 

 My kids will be one year on Tuesday, and it's definitely brought up tons of a tough feelings. 

thishappyhouse

Big Hugs...  sounds like you have a great outlook about this milestone.  

I found it to be a difficult day as well.  We were still in the NICU with really no end in sight so I did my best to put one foot in front of the other and get through the day with some extra snuggles with my daughter. 

I am now going through all the first year anniversaries of pregnancy and find some of them to be difficult as well... 

PhillyGal34

Thans guys. No one else really understands. They all keep saying "you have a healthy son. Just be happy about that " wel duh, of course I am but it's still hard!!! Making it to this date doesn't erase the weeks of struggles and pain and fear that we went through and the confusion and fear we still have. On the outside he looks perfect and medically he seems great but we never know what is lurking around the corner and in horrified of the winter! 

 

Thank you all for being here for me and always being so understanding. As much as I wish none of us had to be on this board I'm so glad I have you!  

urbanflowerpot

I'm sorry - usually I play my unbirthday song for this day but you're having a rough one. But maybe it will cheer you up! Maybe...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RdsZT7WKjW8

It's hard...and those comments make it harder. ...and then it gets easier, but then harder again before the first birthday/anniv.

Hang in there ::hugs:: 

urbanflowerpot

Oh, and as for how I handled mine, I was sad, but happy - it was a big mix. It was surreal. By sheer coincidence my photographer from Pictures of Hope dropped by with a framed print from out NICU photoshoot. That really touched my heart...she had no idea. We had a special dinner and a little unbirthday party, just like cookies or something.

Denesdia

My 25 weeker is approaching her 4th birthday.  She arrived January 29th, she came home on May 5 (Cinco de Mayo!), and her due date was May 12.  So, we had my due date with her home with us.  I have come a long way in these first three birthdays with my anticipatory anxiety, grief, and old resentments.  I am good at imagining how "awful" everything is "going to be".  I remember the first birthday being surreal, because we had been parents in "NICU time" for so long.  Birthdays are better now because I can celebrate Zoey's arrival outside of my issues with the trauma of it all.  I still have issues with other stuff.  Hang in there, mama!

pugznploons

I can't wait to stop thinking "I should still be pregnant" after her due date this week!  I had to leave the August moms board, it was too much.  

I am hoping the due date will bring somewhat of a fresh start for us.  BFing is still not going well and I told myself I'd go until her due date and then re-evaluate.  

I think feeling conflicted is so normal! 

ling_ling83

My situation sounds a lot similar, we've had a lot of luck since the birth but my due date is just over a week away and I'm wondering how I'll react. Part of me really wants to get past it. I bet I cry that day. 

 I hope days like that get easier for all of us.

Ironically I have a Doctors appointment with my OB for postpartum on my c-section that day. She was out of town at my six week marker.  

drunkindonuts

PhillyGal34:

Thans guys. No one else really understands. They all keep saying "you have a healthy son. Just be happy about that " wel duh, of course I am but it's still hard!!! Making it to this date doesn't erase the weeks of struggles and pain and fear that we went through and the confusion and fear we still have. On the outside he looks perfect and medically he seems great but we never know what is lurking around the corner and in horrified of the winter! 

 

Thank you all for being here for me and always being so understanding. As much as I wish none of us had to be on this board I'm so glad I have you!  

Facing my due date tomorrow, I can relate that I'm feeling some very similar feelings and emotions.  I'm sorry you're going through this, but I'm glad you posted because I think other people such as myself will benefit from the responses you've received.  Enjoy a cupcake today, you deserve it mama.. It's been a long road for you and your LO!