Bed Situation

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So my MIL has been planning on flying out for the birth for months. She doesn't work and is able to just drop everything and fly out here to Hawaii. My mom on the other hand DOES work. She has expressed that she wanted to come out but wouldn't know until it got closer if it would be possible. Well she just booked her flight this morning. I am happy that both will be able to be here, but now I'm in a predicament.

We have 1 extra bed, a couch, and an air mattress.  How do you decide who gets the bed? My mom cause she is showing up on friday and the MIL won't be here till monday? My MIL since she was booked to come out first and she's staying a few days after DH and my mom leave? 

 Normally I'd just give up my bed, but I'm going to be full term and then have a newborn. Plus my husband should be here for a week from being deployed so I want him to be able to sleep in an actual bed! 

freeatlast2014

I'm inclined to say that if your mom has a shorter stay, she can have the air mattress. However, if she is there first that would be kind of weird. It's like "Oh hey mom. Thanks for coming. There is an empty comfy bed but you can't use it."

Can you let your mom have the bed and when she leaves your MIL can move to the bed if she wants to?

This is a toughy. 

KellersPrag

I would explain the situation to your mom since she will be there first and let her decide what she thinks is most appropriate.

damabo80

Whichever guest gets there first gets the bed, and then leave it up to them if they want to switch when guest #2 comes. 

Do either one of them have health/back issues?

Anyone you could stagger their visits? Have one come out when the other one is leaving? That would probably be less stress all around and more helpful to you. That way, instead of having two helpers at once, you have one helper for a longer time. 

hunter91011

I'd probably give mom the bed until MIL gets there, and then plan on letting them figure it out for the rest if the visit.  But if mil is that flexible, I'd be inclined to ask her to come after your mom leaves to avoid the bed situation.   If you tell her that maybe she will say don't worry about it and she will take the couch/air mattress. 

melody921

MrsLynnyD:

I'm inclined to say that if your mom has a shorter stay, she can have the air mattress. However, if she is there first that would be kind of weird. It's like "Oh hey mom. Thanks for coming. There is an empty comfy bed but you can't use it."

Can you let your mom have the bed and when she leaves your MIL can move to the bed if she wants to?

This is a toughy. 

This is what I'd do. Your mom gets the bed bc she arrives first. Then either MIL gets it when she leaves, or she and MIL can work it out once they're both there.