BYOB?

OceanLover26

Is this normal for kid parties?  I'm planning a 2-3 hour birthday party for my 1 and 5 year old. My FIL apparently called my husband last night asking if he can bring his own alcohol.  After seeing him wasted at our nephews First Communion party I'm feeling pretty upset that he wants to bring alcohol.  And I'm even more pissed that DH said it was okay!  DH said to me all nonchalantly "that's pretty par".  Is it?  I feel like telling DH that I would have rather him not tell people its okay.  It could be the pregnancy talking, IDK.  I do like to drink but I would NEVER overdo it at a kid party.  How should I bring this up?  Or should I?  Thoughts?

Edited:  Okay, I talked to my mom and pretty much figured this one out. I am easily over-reacting lately.  I'm probably thinking of the extreme worst situations possible. 

freeatlast2014

I think it depends where your party is. If it's at home or a BYOB restaurant, I wouldn't have a problem with it. If it's at a kid-type place, then definitely NOT.

I had the 1st birthday party at a BYOB restaurant but did not put out alcohol. If people wanted to go and get some I would not have minded though. Fortunately, no one did and I was happy with that.

Does he bring like just a 6-pack or is it way more? Do you think he'll bring a ton of booze for everyone? 

skyejo

So this is a party you're throwing for your kids? If so, it's totally your call.  If you want it to be alcohol free I would tell your DH to let his dad know to keep the booze at home. 

DD's 1st b-day party was at our house and I definitely had an assortment of alcohol to serve to the guests.  All of the b-day parties at a house that I've been to had drinks so it's normal to me.  For her 2nd birthday we'll be at a farm so I'm not bringing alcohol there since it's a public place.  We are having everyone over to our place after though for drinks.

hmp1

Depends on the host. I have been to kid parties that had adult beverages. My nephew's second birthday was at a winery, it was fun for both adults and kids. DS's first birthday was a party place, so no way. We will probably do his second birthday at a kids art studio, so another no.

If you don't want alcohol, just say so. I would never be ballsy enough to ask someone if I could bring booze to their kids party.  

HRP22

I don't throw parties without alcohol.  I also don't have any family/friends that would do anything inappropriate at a kids party, even with alcohol involved.  Many in my family don't drink, but I'd still have alcohol available, and I typically drink at any of my parties. 

Unem

How well do you know the families of the people you are inviting?  If they are close friends and wouldn't mind, then no big deal. 

I'm not sure how I'd feel about dropping my kid off at a birthday party where all of the adults were drinking.  I'm sure most adults would handle it well, but if I didn't know the family and I saw them all with beers in hand, I'd be concerned for my child's safety.

OceanLover26

MrsLynnyD:

I think it depends where your party is. If it's at home or a BYOB restaurant, I wouldn't have a problem with it. If it's at a kid-type place, then definitely NOT.

I had the 1st birthday party at a BYOB restaurant but did not put out alcohol. If people wanted to go and get some I would not have minded though. Fortunately, no one did and I was happy with that.

Does he bring like just a 6-pack or is it way more? Do you think he'll bring a ton of booze for everyone? 

No, he wont bring it for everyone, probably just himself.  But I just got super ill to my stomach after seeing him at our nephew communion really drunk.  Perhaps it left a bad memory in my head of him.  I hope he doesn't go that far with this party.  I wouldn't want to begrudge someone having a drink and enjoying themselves. We really didn't talk too much about how we would go about drinks until today.  I guess for some reason I got really nervous that someone might overdo it, as I have see a few people do at some parties lately. 

OceanLover26

teeta_81:

I understand where you are coming from, but since DH already said it was ok I would let it go this time.  I would definately have a conversation with Dh about it though and decide how this will be handled in the future.  On a side note I would inform DH if FIL drinking causes a problem DH will have to ask him to stop drinking or leave.  IMO.

Thank you for the advice!  I will definitely let him be the one to handle it

OceanLover26

skyejo:

So this is a party you're throwing for your kids? If so, it's totally your call.  If you want it to be alcohol free I would tell your DH to let his dad know to keep the booze at home. 

DD's 1st b-day party was at our house and I definitely had an assortment of alcohol to serve to the guests.  All of the b-day parties at a house that I've been to had drinks so it's normal to me.  For her 2nd birthday we'll be at a farm so I'm not bringing alcohol there since it's a public place.  We are having everyone over to our place after though for drinks.

See, now I feel really silly and like I was being uptight before I posted my OP.  Maybe I way over-thought this whole thing.  I honestly don't mind people drinking, I think I'm just nervous.  I shouldn't be.  I know I shouldn't.  And DH will handle it for sure if something were to get out of control.  Thanks for the advice!  I really appreciate it. 

OceanLover26

Thanks for the responses everyone!  I really appreciate it.  I think I over-thought this one and had a bad vision in my head from the last event I went to.  I believe everything will be okay though, and DH understands too.  It's mostly family and I think its going to be a good time for everyone.  So we're good to go!  I hope everyone has a great weekend!