Overreacting?

KarlieeAnne

Am I?? Seems like DC is getting making DD a little out of control. I LOVE my day care provider don't get me wrong but it seems a little like things have taken a turn for the worse with DD, she's throwing temper tantrums like I have never seen before, she won't hold still for a changing. She's kicking, screaming, crying, rolling it's unmanageable at points! SO picks her up and she is rarely clean,(I get that kids get dirty, but another baby who goes always is spic and span) They claim that the pair are always getting dirty and into trouble!! The point that I know may factor your opinion in one direction that the other baby is the daycare provider's granddaughter. (She and her daughter both work at the location) Is this just what happens at DC? I don't know, this is new to me. Help me out, what should I or shouldn't I tolerate?

Zimger

Your baby shouldn't be dirty when you pick her up. She may not be immaculate but she absolutely should not be dirty.

If you pick her up in the middle of playing outside where it may be dusty or if you pick her up in the middle of a preoject (say painting) I could understand, but anything else is odd too me.

I worked in Daycare for 10 years and I often worked with the babies and toddlers. If they became dirty I made sure they were cleaned up.

SoldiersGreenBean

You know she's almost 1, right?  Temper tantrums and not holding still for diaper changes are par for the course.

Why do you jump to day care being the reason, as opposed to child development?

KarlieeAnne

I went right to day care for one reason, the mom of 'BFF' was over before we started going and really spending time with other kids, she was mobile, happy, and very ok sitting still. Mom1 commented that her daughter won't do anything that resembles holding still or being good for a diaper change. Now that they tell me they are stuck to eachother like glue, I assumed it was something she picked up. I know that she's growing and changing, but I really feel like I drop off a nice baby and pick up a little monster some/most days. She hits out of anger, and it biting when shes frustrated. 

KarlieeAnne

I was just saying that I know other kids there do act the way she has started. She went to her Aunts before DC and we had none of the issues we have now, just comparing then and now, it's just frustrating coming home from working all day, and then having that to deal with when she was a blast before I dropped her off. I do see the tired babies side, although she doesn't act like this over the weekend. Only on days when I have her after spending a day at DC and nights after. Not trying to blame, just trying to find the cause and then a solution.

kitkat145

These are totally normal behaviors for an almost 1 year old. I would not blame daycare or another very young child for "teaching" your LO these things, they just happen at this age. It'll pass!

KarlieeAnne

Thanks! I hope so!

Jessica Swanlake

My daughter did the same thing when she was that age. She was "angel baby" in the morning and would be a horror when I would go to pick her up. It had nothing to do with her DC provider- she was just tired from a day of stimulation (more stimulation than I could provide, btw, since I did not have other kids or animals to at home) and mad that she was the first of her little friends to go home.

It is a tough age, but it all seems like normal behavior. I would not worry about it.

Bella427

Sounds like they need to do a better job of cleaning her up, but the behavior sounds exactly like both of my kids at that age. 

chardonnay24

KarlieeAnne:

I went right to day care for one reason, the mom of 'BFF' was over before we started going and really spending time with other kids, she was mobile, happy, and very ok sitting still. Mom1 commented that her daughter won't do anything that resembles holding still or being good for a diaper change. Now that they tell me they are stuck to eachother like glue, I assumed it was something she picked up. I know that she's growing and changing, but I really feel like I drop off a nice baby and pick up a little monster some/most days. She hits out of anger, and it biting when shes frustrated. 

My kid starting biting at 10 months, hitting at 13 months, and fighting diaper changes around 9 months, when he started walking. And he didn't start DC until 16 months. These are normal "toddler" behaviors, and it has nothing to do with DC.

It isn't normal for your daughter to be filthy when you pick her up. A goes outside, plays at the water/sand table, does art projects, and eats some messy foods, but he always comes back reasonably clean. He might have a smudge or dirt on his leg or cracker crumbs on his shirt, but that's it.

chardonnay24

Double post

mben1119

I agree with PPs, your daughter's behavior sound completely normal. I have to ask-what is your definition of "rarely clean?"  Are we talking dirt, food mess, what?

amatistajoy

I agree with PP regarding the behavior to be normal, but the dirt not so much. Check if she is hungry and get her a snack and drink right away. Also, it is normal for children to pick up behavior by observing other children. So we have our work cut out for us

Angela814

SoldiersGreenBean:

You know she's almost 1, right?  Temper tantrums and not holding still for diaper changes are par for the course.

Why do you jump to day care being the reason, as opposed to child development?

Agreed. Plus toddlers are often overtired and crabby after a long day at daycare.