One phrase can ruin your day...

karebear57

On fb this am my stepsis has a pic of her adorable DD and the caption on the photo says "my sleeping angel". I know she means no harm but if you just change the last word,perhaps to beauty or something like that, it wouldn't be a stab to my heart. That totally brought on the tears. And I thought I had blocked her feeds for a while b/c her DD would have been a month older than mine and I didn't want to see pics and have to be reminded all the time. Just had to get that off my chest.

jbranden12

Wow, I'm sorry. That is heartbreaking. All I wanted when Patricia was born was for her to wake up and cry, even though I knew she never would.

fluttergirlmoonchild79

UHG.  I hate that!  I see it all the time.  I guess we're just more picky with our words these days.  My cousin and aunt were tagged in a photo on FB yesterday and it's a picture of my cousin with her baby, my aunt and my "grandma"  (she hasn't spoken to me in probably 2 years so I don't really consider her to be my grandma anymore).  I wasn't sad that my grandma was in that picture and not one with me but more because I'll never have the chance to have a 4 generation photo with my family.  After DH's grandma passed away we were at his mom's house and she asked us all to come outside and then proceeded to have a picture taken with her, her great-uncle, my DH, BIL and his kids.  No wives involved.  I had to stand there and look at this picture about to be taken and see that my son was missing.  I hated every second of it.  If you need to talk, vent, etc.  You know how to get a hold of me!    {{HUGS}}

knanz01

Sometimes people don't know when they haven't been to where we've been.  It's been one month today since our son Ryan passed away.  I'm feeling super emotional.  It seems like everyone else has moved on except for us and my mom and sister.  Us feeling it more than anyone. I'm so sorry any of us have to be here -- going through this. I've had 5 miscarriages and now this.  One day we will be reunited with our babies. xo

sebailey6

knanz01:

Sometimes people don't know when they haven't been to where we've been.  It's been one month today since our son Ryan passed away.  I'm feeling super emotional.  It seems like everyone else has moved on except for us and my mom and sister.  Us feeling it more than anyone. I'm so sorry any of us have to be here -- going through this. I've had 5 miscarriages and now this.  One day we will be reunited with our babies. xo

Everyone is so right...no one understands unless they've been where we are. Therefore, they don't think ahead about things they say...and how they could be hurtful in some way to us. I would be hurt and cry by that as well. I will be praying for you.

It's been two weeks since we lost our Kalani, so I understand what you are going through, knanz, as well:( Sounds like you are having a hard time too....I will be praying for you also

nuttycoconut

I absolutely hate when people call their babies angels. It really hurts because we are the ones with angel babies. ((hugs)) 

Bayberry12

Some people really don't understand how simple words can hurt us so much.  We are hyper-sensitive to everything now.  I'm sorry you had to see that post.    

karebear57

Thank you ladies! I went back to look and blocked her feeds. I guess I thought I did but didn't.

weddedwife

Ugh, that phrase would've rubbed me the wrong way too. Big hugs!