Sleep deprivation

NiniJ55

I hardly post here - I'm more of a lurker but I need to vent. I'm sitting at my desk at work with tears in my eyes. I just can't take it anymore. Last night she was up at 11:30, 1:15, 4:30, 5:40 and 6:30 for the day. When MIL came in around 7am I got a 15 minute nap before having to get up and get ready for the day.

I'm not a fan of CIO - it's okay for others just not for me and my family. I can't function today. I feel emotionally drained, overwhelmed and I have a headache and feel nauseous. DD has allergies that are only now starting to get under control. Her eczema is not as bad and she is not waking up itchy as much. I'm hoping that will help her STTN more - but only time will tell. I'm reading No Cry Sleep Solution (again) because it did help a little with DS who, by the way, now co-sleeps with me ever since DD was born. I know, I know - who starts co-sleeping at 2yrs old?... LOL. But before that he was waking once a night still and I could not handle him and DD being awake at the same time.

I don't know if I'm asking for advice or just looking to vent. I'm just so over this stage   Somebody please tell me I'm not alone.  She is so much worse than DS was.

Is she hungry, is she cold, is she hot, is she itchy, is she spoiled?  Just go the F*** to sleep already!  Sigh.

Thanks for listening.

tokenhoser

((hugs))

You need sleep. I've been through it. Usually, just before I snapped, he'd throw me an easy night and I could get through a bit longer. I also had to swallow my pride and ask for help sometimes. Someone would watch him and I would go sleep for a couple hours. Are you working or at home?

DS was (and is) a rotten sleeper and it's one of the hardest things I've ever had to deal with. 

NiniJ55

tokenhoser:

((hugs))

You need sleep. I've been through it. Usually, just before I snapped, he'd throw me an easy night and I could get through a bit longer. I also had to swallow my pride and ask for help sometimes. Someone would watch him and I would go sleep for a couple hours. Are you working or at home?

DS was (and is) a rotten sleeper and it's one of the hardest things I've ever had to deal with. 

I work full time.  And on the weekend our schedules are always so full there is no time to rest or recoup.  Thanks for the hug.  You are right -- I need to swallow my pride and ask for help because clearly I can't do it all.

tokenhoser

You NEED to make sleep a priority on the weekend, for your health and your sanity. DH needs to get up and take one or both of them for a few hours (ideally, take them out of the house) on Saturday morning. Whatever else you're doing will still need doing later.

boilerup227

No advice, just sympathy here.  DS went down at 8 last night.  He was up at 9, 10, 11, 130, 330, 430, 600 and up for the day at 700.  I'm exhausted too.  I have tried everything short of CIO.  I let him fuss for a bit and it just completely escalates.  He is in a cosleeper by the bed.  We've tried moving him to his crib and he scream bloody murder.  Hates it.  So sorry momma, but know, you are not alone.

tarahnpaul

I feel for you, it is so rough having a terrible sleeper.  Right now, you have to prioritize sleep.  Let the house get dirty or hire someone to come clean for a little while, do the dishes later, just get yourself to bed in the evening as early as possible.  Weekend activities need to get scaled back so that you have time to sleep and nap.

I went to bed at 7:30 for the first 8 months.  I didn't feel guilty, I told people who made fun of me to shut it unless they knew what it was like to be up 10 times a night.  DH got up in the morning with her for a few hours on the really rough nights so I could sleep in.

nosoup4u

Aw, that sucks! The book "Good Night, Sleep Tight" by Kim West might be worth checking out - she has some non-CIO sleep training methods.

Are they both co-sleeping? Can you see if your DS will sleep near you, but in his own space? Can your partner help out during the night? 

Usually when things get really bad, sleep-wise, my DH and I change up some part of the routine. Either who puts them to bed, who tends to them overnight, where they sleep etc. I think the general advice is to give it three days or so to see if a new situation works.

DS1 was our crappy sleeper. I think having a bad sleeper after a good one is much harder to deal with. Hang in there!!

NiniJ55

Thanks ladies.  I plan to discuss with DH tonight.  He needs to either take all feeding before 2am or all feedings after 4am.  So at least I get a block of sleep (either 10-2 or 4-7).  I think he will take the first one so he can work out in the morning (what a luxury, right? - Can you sense my snark?)