Thought I would introduce myself

PrincessFiona9

I read and sometimes comment on posts over here, so I thought I would intoduce myself. I have an almost 3 year old DD. Her father and I split up when she was 5 months old, and I have been with FI since she was 16 months old. She knows who her dad is and loves him a lot, but he's not a big picture in her life. He was in rehab and a halfway house for a long time and he started getting visitation right after she turned 2. Now he's been in jail since April, and is supposed to be out September 1. It has been hard telling DD he's "on vacation" everytime she asks to see him, and listening to her say "but I miss him so much." For someone she's only been around EOW for 6ish months, she has a strong attachment to him. So yeah, that's my story!

twister22

Welcome!

What a tough situation you're in. Kuddos to you for not telling DD BD is a "bad guy" or the like. However, I wouldn't be saying BD's on vacation, I would say he's getting help to be a better daddy. Not sure if others on here would agree with that, so I'm interested to hear their take.

I hope for DD's sake that BD cleans up his act, especially since DD has a strong attachment to him. It's great that you're encouraging their relationship . 

NewMoM2Be10

my dad was in prison when my little brother was 2.. but my parents are married and happily together.. my mom explained to my lil brother he was in "school" and couldnt come home until he finished.. and eventually my little brother wouldnt ask so much. but if hes only in for a short amount of time and they have an ok relationship she shouldnt be affected later. you can never break a bond between dad n daughter even if he isnt around much hes gonna be her hero.. until she truly understand the situation,

Best of Luck