Just Curious...

shipsshoessealingwax

At what point in your pregnancy did people offer to host a shower for you (if you had one)?

I am still early in my pregnancy (12wks) & absolutely do not mind either way - never had a bridal shower & it was a bit of a bummer but nbd, I figure not having a baby shower wouldn't be either. I would never, EVER throw my own shower, btw, so no worries there! I really am just curious b/c at some point if I haven't heard anything I will probably begin buying items that would otherwise be waiting patiently on my registry. And yes, I am a FTM. Thanks, ladies!

phq2011

The general rule is 20ish weeks. You can always buy stuff and keep the receipt too.

jlh2716

My cousin offered me a shower somewhere around 25 weeks, and my church didn't offer me one til a week ago at 33 weeks. So there's plenty of time for someone to offer! But it's perfectly fine to go ahead and start purchasing things--you can always keep receipts and return them if you wind up with duplicates.

ChristyML

I had my first one at 27 weeks, and my second one will be this Saturday, and I'll be 29 weeks. A few people have asked me why they are so early, but I don't think it's too early. I'd rather have them earlier than later.

misscarter87

When i first told everyone i was just about 14wks along.

sycheh

My bff said "I'm throwing you a shower" as soon as I told her I was pregnant (I was about 8 weeks along at that point). But I think that about 20 weeks is when people will bring it up / offer it.

rhubarb123

Well, since my DH and I didn't tell anyone I was pg until I was 5 months along I'm sure nothing was mentioned to me until I was well into my 7th month.  I ended up having 3 showers!

As a hostess I usually will approach the MTB when she is around 6-7 months.  I like to wait to see if a close family member is going to offer to host a shower.

Nita14701

For me it was 21 weeks. Both mentioned something on the same day. One talked to DH (relative of his), one talked to me (friend of mine)- so they will be co-hosting.

PunkyBooster

Around 20 weeks.

mollybloom

My mother and my MIL toldme they were going to host mine when I was around12 weeks pregnant.

But, we had to have a lot of prenatal testing, as we were informed that our baby (we were Team Green) had 5 soft markers and likely wouldn't survive to birth, so the shower wasn't mentioned again or even planned for until after the testing was done. So, it wasn't until 22 weeks, that they actually started planning it.

dufferoo

My best friend told me she wanted to host a shower about a week after I told her I was pregnant (so about 13 weeks). My MIL didn't say anything until maybe the middle of my second trimester, because she was worried we were buying too much stuff already. I would go ahead and buy your must-haves and not count on a shower for too much, just save your receipts in case you get doubles.

tiffmatt

My sister offered when I was at 22 weeks.  She had known I was expecting for about three months.

LorMor

I'm 28 weeks and nobody has offered/mentioned anything, but that doesn't mean anything, because it could be a surprise. 

bklynbmp

I think it really depends.

Have you ever thrown anyone else a shower?  Do family members generally throw the showers in your family? Are showers last minute casual things or more well planned parties in your circle? 

Having thrown several showers for my bf, I knew she would throw me a baby shower.  She had ideas for it before I even got pregnant. So it was never formally discussed.

But if I had never thrown a shower for anyone and no one had mentioned it by now, I would assume I wasn't getting one b/c they tend to be sit down restaurant parties here that require advance planning.

kruthaup11

my aunt and my mom (and me) decided on the shower at 30 weeks..i havent done a thing concerning the shower besides book my church for it, but i am a planner so i have to know details to make sure it will all be good! lol my aunt threw my bridal shower as well for me and she did an amazing job and i wouldnt expect anything less for a baby shower since everyone knows that this baby is a big deal, after trying for 2 years!

shipsshoessealingwax

bklynbmp:

 I think it really depends.

Have you ever thrown anyone else a shower?  Do family members generally throw the showers in your family? Are showers last minute casual things or more well planned parties in your circle? 

I have never thrown a shower for someone else, but I tend to be one of the "first" among my friends & family - first to get engaged, first to get married, first to have a baby, etc. I believe that family has baby showers, but there has only been 1 baby born within the past 15yrs, lol! I'm not sure who hosted that shower, but it was fairly planned (brunch at a tea room).

cedenton

If I remember correctly they offered around 16-18 wks.  Thrown at 29 and 32 weeks.

bklynbmp

LittleLuvBug:

bklynbmp:

 I think it really depends.

Have you ever thrown anyone else a shower?  Do family members generally throw the showers in your family? Are showers last minute casual things or more well planned parties in your circle? 

I have never thrown a shower for someone else, but I tend to be one of the "first" among my friends & family - first to get engaged, first to get married, first to have a baby, etc. I believe that family has baby showers, but there has only been 1 baby born within the past 15yrs, lol! I'm not sure who hosted that shower, but it was fairly planned (brunch at a tea room).

Do you have someone you think will likely throw you a shower like a sister or mother or best friend?  If so, she is probably just waiting a bit until you are fully out of your first trimester.  If no one mentions anything in the next 10 weeks or so, then its probably safe to buy what you want.  Although even if you dont have a shower you'll have friends and family buying you gifts so you might want to hold off on buying anything until you really need it.

 

 

ungraceful13

My aunt offered the day I announced I was pregnant at 10 weeks. But I think she just wanted to get the jump on anyone else in our small family offering. I figure someone on DH's side will offer to throw me one for their side but I'd say that will be a while before it is offered.