My adorable toddler figured out how to safely escape his crib about two months ago. It was cute for all of about two nights and three naps before it slowly started to become a battle to get him to lay down and stay in his crib. Now it's a full on war of the wills, and I can spend up to two hours trying to get him to go to sleep any way I can. At this point, he treats it like a game. Some nights he goes down no problem, other nights I have to put him in his crib, walk out to the living room, touch the couch and jump back up to put him back in his crib. If that doesn't tire him out then I have to play night guard, and as a last resort I have to lay down with him. I hate laying with him because I don't want him to get dependent on using me like a teddy bear.
Our bed time routine is follows:
Dinner
Bath time
Bottle of soy milk and a snuggle on the couch to watch the good night show on sprout
Bed, usually between 6:30 and 8 pm, and average time of 7 pm
(soon subject to change, going to start reading to him before bed starting tonight)
The tricky part is that I can't figure out what causes him to go down without a fight, because it does happen. Skipping his nap makes him over tired, and makes putting him to bed that much harder. Full active days, such as a day at the beach or at the park, don't seem to change his stubborn need to fight sleep either. It just seems like it's just a roll of the dice when it comes to how difficult it is putting him to sleep.
Any suggestions?
Re: The Bedtime Wars, Please Help!
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Is it at all feasible to put him in a toddler bed and gate his room? You could then eliminate a lot of hassle on your part.
When DD was 24m she began climbing out of her crib and I switched her to a toddler bed. I spent over a month stressing myself out to the point of tears trying different techniques to get her to stay in her bed and go to sleep. Nothing worked. Though I think DD is a bit of an extreme example things got easier for everyone when I stopped trying to control the situation.
Once we had gone through our nighttime routine I would leave a few books in her bed and tell her she could "read" in bed for a while. She is now 4 & we still do this.
It wasn't a magic pill that made her stay in bed but it elimated that stress. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink totally applies here.
If he plays quietly in his room for 2 hours before falling asleep and doesn't seem tired the next day he may just need less sleep. GL, hope this perspective helps a little.
I agree. I bet that's 90% of your problem. He's overtired and the lack of a set schedule is making him go into tired-wired mode.
Yup, agreed. DS would be over stimulated when we'd watch TV before bed. Now we read a book and but him to bed at 8pm on the dot. He goes down with one cup of milk and sleeps until 8am.