sensitive and clingy?

acbfreire

LO seems to have been comfort nursing a lot lately and only wants to nap in my arm/ lap/ chest the past  3 days.

DH is gone for work and I have spent a lot of time alone with DD. MIL came for 10 days, I spent 2 wks alone and now my dad came to stay with us for a month and DH is visiting for 2 days.

It seems like every time we have friends coming over to visit, LO gets overstimulated and nurses forever, plus she seems to be in a growth spurt now.

I feed her for as long as she wants, but I know that part of it is for comfort. I don't know if we have been alone, quiet for too long. Then I get criticized for nursing her too long and people start suggesting supplementation. Then they say I need to expose her to more noise - we are very quiet even before LO.

I get really annoyed b/c they were the ones getting her too stimulated and not getting the clue to leave when I said "she needs to nap now" .

I can't avoid social contact and I do enjoy short visits, but s some ppl have no boundaries! Today we had friends stop by for 1:30, which I think is too much for visiting a newborn.

 

rosiemomma

Ignore the naysayers, Nursing your 6 week old on cue and keeping her from being overstimulated is absolutely perfect... every baby is different, a friend may claim her baby is fine in those situations because she did something special... forcing babies into uncomfortable and unhappy situations isn't teaching them anything good. It sounds like you are doing great... if you want to have a visit have daddy or you keep baby in the bedroom or somewhere quiet and only have her visit for a few minutes, you two could switch off so you can both visit, it may not be ideal but this stage will pass.

drbethc

Ignore all the criticisms. My MIL will tell DH that I shouldn't always be holding LO or that I should let him CIO otherwise I will spoil him. My DH relays the message to me and I feel like biting his head off..,People are going to criticize. You are doing what you need for your baby. I agree, although I love visitors, my sister and her kids will visit and stay for 3-4 hours and I feel drained entertaining her kids and trying to distract them from touching the baby and his things, I had to tell her directly, " Baby needs to nap, thanks for coming, see you next time." In order for her to get it. And hang in there, with the nursing. I felt like when LO was nursing all the time last week, it was to get my breast to start producing more milk? He seems to be eating more at each session but feeding less.