need advice on going out

Mkay&Billy2011

I know this is kind of dumb but I need to get some advice from you ladies since you can relate. My daughter is three weeks old today just so you know for reference.

Today through Wednesday is our county fair. Me and my fiance kind of wanted to go out tonight to the fair for a couple hours. Its right in town about five minutes from my house. We want to take our daughter out there either tomorrow or wednesday night rather than tonight becuase they have a derby and I think it might be kind of loud.

That being said, we kind of wanted to go out there tonight for a couple hours and my parents would watch her. It would only be about a couple hours as I am breastfeeding so I would have to come home to feed her. I havent been out much at all since I had her, so I have pretty much been in my house for three weeks.

Do you think its okay to go? Should we wait until tomorrow or Wednesday when we are planning on taking her? Would you go? I feel bad leaving her and almost feel like I should stay home with her or that we should go with her. But then again, Im starting school again soon and havent been out for a while so I thought it would be nice to get out and go spend some time with my fiance because I dont have a pump yet so we cant really go anywhere else without her. Im just looking for some advice on what you ladies would do. I almost feel like a bad mom if Im going out without her and leaving her here instead of spending time with her. I dont know if her only being three weeks has something to do with this or not. I mean I know eventually I am going to have to leave without her because of school starting again soon.

Thanks and sorry this got so long.

surprise3rd

I would go.  Make sure she has a full belly when you leave and stay out for about 2 hours.  Enjoy yourself.  I would go in a heartbeat.

elampl

if you are comfortable with your parents watching her, it seems like a good first time away from baby- you'll only be five minutes away.  i was very nervous leaving LO for the first time as well (around three weeks) but honestly she probably won't even know you are gone!  and it's good to get some "me" time (especially out of the house). 

claudiaudia

I personally would wait for the day we'd be planning on taking them anyway, because I know that I would either not enjoy myself and be checking my phone every five minutes in case someone had called, or that I'd have terrible sore breasts anyway.

When they're that little it's not really like you can't focus attention on your fiancee, as in they aren't trying to tell you stories, run away, look at things, play games etc. like they do when they're toddlers.

vintagejjane

I would totally go. We left DD for a couple hours at 3 weeks and went on the motorcycle with my mom watching her. We needed it and she slept mostly the whole time.

khill86

I went to an emergency board meeting when DS was 3 weeks. I fed DS right before I left and luckily, he went for a nap and slept the entire time I was gone (2 hours).

You could probably run out and buy a manual pump or manually express some milk during the day today. Your parents may not need it, but at least you could have some peace of mind if they became desperate.

When I had to go out without DS, DH was home with him and the hospital had given us formula to supplement until my milk came in (DS had low blood sugar at birth, it stabilized before we left the hospital, but they suggested supplementing until my milk came in) and we still have 3-4 bottles and DH asked if I would mind if he gave him a bottle if DS woke up starving and he couldn't soothe him. I agreed, but he didn't have to do anything. DS was totally fine. I did, however, go buy a manual pump the next day just to have a some milk in the freezer if I ever have to run out or go somewhere without DS and he becomes unexpectedly hungry. I only pump once/day, after DS goes to bed (because I know he won't wake up for another 5-6 hours). I'm not pumping all day or furiously or anything, but I've got enough milk frozen for about a full day of feedings. I don't know when we'll ever need it, but it gives DH some peace of mind just in case he ever ends up in a situation where I am not home and DS is starving. 

OUKatie

I would totally go but plan on a little less time (no more than 2 hours out of the house). Of course, DH and I went to dinner on Saturday night while my mom and sisters watched DD then I ran to Target all by myself (ahhh, heaven!) yesterday since DH was home.

 

snicksnack

We took our daughter out for some special toddler and parent time when DS was  a week old.  I just fed him before I left and when I got back.  I left some pumped milk just incase but he did not need it.  I would go and have fun

superherostocker

I would not go. Around 3 weeks my DS went through a growth spurt and started eating all the time. I left my DS with my DH to go around the corner to Target to get diapers and he woke up to eat. I was in the line to check out but by time I got home he was screaming already. Babies can be unpredictable, I'd hate to be away when he needs to eat.