More sucky news for my family...

amykins1283

So, some of you may remember me posting about my mom's best friend passing away suddenly from a cancer complication (infection that spread too rapidly due to compromised immune system from high dose chemo) and that my mom's step-mom (of almost 40 years) fell at home and had two bad brain bleeds that they are currently monitoring to see if she'll need brain surgery. 

WELL...my mom just called me crying.  Apparently she just found out that her OTHER best friend passed away suddenly.  She was going through a lot and was a functioning alcoholic and apparently fell and hit her head in her apartment and died of blunt force trauma.  I am just shocked and devastated for my mom.

Earlier today I called my OB to ask about if they were going to to an U/S at my appointment because I am going to have to bring Liam with me.  The nurse said probably not unless they want to check on things for whatever reason.  I was cool with that until this latest bit of bad news.  Do you think if I tell them that my mom has had the most horrible month of her life and that I need for give her absolute confirmation that there is a heartbeat and that everything is okay they will do an ultrasound?  I just really, really want to be able to tell my mom that everything is definitely okay with this pregnancy because she is having a really hard time dealing with all of this stress.  

shortms6

That is horrible.  Your mom is probably dealing with a whole lot right now.  You could certainly ask your OB.   Even if he/she says no, you have at least asked.

persephonerose

I think it depends on your doctor's office. My OB knows I am prone to panic attacks and so they have it on file that if I call at any time wanting an U/s to schedule me right away. No reason necessary. I think if you have an understanding office staff they should not have an issue with it. Granted, I have to pay for the extra U/s but if it makes me feel better then I don't mind.

Kitiara5512

shortms6:

That is horrible.  Your mom is probably dealing with a whole lot right now.  You could certainly ask your OB.   Even if he/she says no, you have at least asked.

This. Good luck and I am so sorry for all your mom is having to deal with.

judahsmommy1

It's not going to hurt to ask for confirmation of viability. I would recommend calling first and asking them however. That way they can plan more time for your appointment. I'm so sorry for everything your family is going through!

amykins1283

Thanks for the support. I talked to the nurse (and cried...talking about everything is so hard) and she said that she couldn't guarantee an ultrasound but that the doctor is very understanding and would be open to doing one if I explained everything. I've seen this doc before and he is very nice so I am feeling good about it.

ThePolishHammer

I am so sorry your mom is going through all of this. What a tough month for her.

It never hurts to ask!