First day of daycare HELP!

WeberCraig

I have tomorrow off but I'm taking DD to daycare for her first day and I go back to work on Tuesday. I am committed to taking her but every time I think of it I break down ... like sobbing uncontrollably ... to the point where I am useless. 

I knew it would be hard but I had no idea I would be this bad. I seriously have never felt this horrible ever in my life. I have no control over my emotions!

Am I losing my mind or is this normal? How can I deal with this? 

anonsouthernbell

:hugs: can a friend, relative or your dh come w you tomorrow?

WeberCraig

Thank you both! I appreciate the words of support and encouragement! I'll be all alone as DH has to work and all we have no family that is close.

I've just gone to the liquor store for some wine and having a glass now. I may have a bottle tomorrow as DH will pick DD up. It will be well diluted with tears anyway

WVUPetunia

Hi there.   I'm a FTM and still pregnant, but having worked in the infant room of a daycare for a couple of years, I want you to know that it is COMPLETELY normal.  I always felt TERRIBLE for the moms dropping off their first babies the first day (and I'm not looking forward to doing it myself).  I would just advise you to try to get to know the teacher, be friendly with her, make sure that your requests and DD's schedule are known, but do it all with the smile, be kind, etc.   Also, feel free to call and check in if the center says that's okay...  Maybe once in the morning and once in the afternoon.

stemms8810

I thought I would be a mess the first day but I ended up being fine.  And I was sure I was going to cry!  I would call a couple times a day to check in and keep yourself busy that first day because if you sit at home all day thinking about her you will break down even more.  Go do something nice for yourself!  It gets easier everyday!

annaruiz2

WeberCraig:

Thank you both! I appreciate the words of support and encouragement! I'll be all alone as DH has to work and all we have no family that is close.

I've just gone to the liquor store for some wine and having a glass now. I may have a bottle tomorrow as DH will pick DD up. It will be well diluted with tears anyway

Wow. Number one, you should be breastfeeding not drinking. Number two, if its so upsetting to leave your baby, cut costs and stay home with your child.

misthang_1

annaruiz2:

WeberCraig:

Thank you both! I appreciate the words of support and encouragement! I'll be all alone as DH has to work and all we have no family that is close.

I've just gone to the liquor store for some wine and having a glass now. I may have a bottle tomorrow as DH will pick DD up. It will be well diluted with tears anyway

Wow. Number one, you should be breastfeeding not drinking. Number two, if its so upsetting to leave your baby, cut costs and stay home with your child.

I'm sorry, but do you even know what you are talking about?  Drinking while breastfeeding is "allowed"...ever heard of pump and dump?  Not to mention having a drink or two while breastfeeding is not harmful to the baby (look it up on Kellymom.com).  As for leaving your child at daycare, it is heartbreaking leaving them for the first time.  But the answer isn't always to "cut costs and stay home with your child".  It just isn't an option for everyone.  Children in daycare thrive, but there is definitely a transition period...

OP - I cried for the the first 3 weeks when I left DS at daycare.  He was older (10 months) and the second day I left him, he crawled towards me crying saying "mama! mama!".  I was a mess.  Then when I arrived to pick him up, he burst in to tears and so did I.  However, after those first few weeks he would take off as soon as I set him down and was always in a good mood when I picked him up.  In the end, he was there until I went on maternity leave with #2 and by that point he would run away from me when he saw me because he didn't want to leave.  He LOVED daycare and will be going back when I go back to work.  I'm glad that I am starting DD in the daycare much earlier, because I think the transition for them is much easier.  Doesn't make the transition for mom easier, but at least it will be easier for her to adjust.

Good luck!

WeberCraig

annaruiz2:

WeberCraig:

Thank you both! I appreciate the words of support and encouragement! I'll be all alone as DH has to work and all we have no family that is close.

I've just gone to the liquor store for some wine and having a glass now. I may have a bottle tomorrow as DH will pick DD up. It will be well diluted with tears anyway

Wow. Number one, you should be breastfeeding not drinking. Number two, if its so upsetting to leave your baby, cut costs and stay home with your child.

 

Wow! Really? What is wrong with you? Number 1, I CAN'T breastfeed because I have a disorder that prevents my body from producing breast milk. Thank you, as if I don't feel guilty enough about that.

 Number 2, please don't judge my financial situation unless you know exactly what it is. My husband and I work very hard to provide a stable life financially for our family. Yes, I would love to stay home with DD and take care of her but we like to eat food so that is NOT an option.

It is because of rude, insensitive people like you that mothers have more guilt than necessary when making touch decisions for their children. God help your unborn baby!

WeberCraig

Thank you to everyone who posted positive messages and words of advice. They were very helpful and DD is as happy as she can be with her daycare provider.

I still have my moments but I am living for the moments that we spend together!!