I'm 42. Never in my personal life have I ever known anyone to throw themselves a party to "celebrate motherhood/ being PG", or what have you.
Yes, becoming a mom is a HUGE life changer. But I have to say - I find a party just to "celebrate being PG" to be a bit AWish. Wow - you have a big belly! So we all have to stand around and 'celebrate' that? Um, o.k.
While I've never known anyone to throw a "meet the baby" party either, at least w/ that I understand it. There is a new baby to meet! People are usually excited to do this. There is a point.
But just to celebrate someone getting PG? I just feel like it's a cheap excuse for someone to throw themselves a party that (supposedly) isn't a shower when they don't think they are getting a shower. I call it a cheap excuse because I really try to imagine this - if I got an invitation to a "let's celebrate Mary being PG", even if the word "shower" wasn't mentioned, I'd probably absolutely think it was a shower. And I'd show up w/ a gift. Because, again, I've never known anyone to seriously throw themselves a "I'm PG!!!" party.
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I completely agree.
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That is one of my favorite episodes!!!! Nothing wrong with not being married and having awesome shoes!
Although none of my fabulous shoes fit my fat, swollen, pregnant feet.
Don't even try, I ruined my 2 favorite pairs of shoes stuffing my bloated feet into them. It was so depressing when I put them on after Li was born and they were all stretched out. DH was also very unhappy to have to pay for another pair of Balenciaga flats.
Pool party at my place in 3 weeks! I'm not pregnant... Woohoo!
Amen.
It's either a shower (pre-baby) or a gtg after the baby is born (whatever formality level and you want to call it).
I've never heard of a "wahoo, I'm pregnant!" party.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
When you said that, I totally pictured your DS's face that is in your siggy.
lol. Idk if I'd have that big of a smile right now.
Related note: According to the hospital I delivered at, he actually WAS pregnant because they charged him for a c/s too. That was fun to sort out (we didn't realize it until about a month after we got home).
At one point, in my exhausted, sore, sleep deprived and medicated state I actually said "I could even understand the confusion if he had a uterus, but ffs, that's not a third nipple down there. If they think he had a c/s, they obviously failed biology 101".
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
You could have had an "I'm pg" party for you and your DS! lol
I would love to go to a "I'm not pregnant" party. WAAAAAAAAAAY more fun. I might start having one every month when I get my period. Drinking heavily during my crazy periods sounds awesome.
I agree with you ECB...and I don't care how long or what kind of struggle it was for someone to get pregnant. That is a personal thing. The celebration is when there is a shower. If there isn't a shower, for whatever reason, then I think a "meet the baby party" is approrpriate.
We had a meet the baby party for #2 and #3 at the same time we had our annual BBQ. It just happened that they were 4-6 weeks old at the time. If they had been 4 or 5 months old we would have never had a "meet the baby party".
I had a friend who called off her wedding ~2 weeks before, moved back to our hometown, and left a lot of "their" stuff in the house with her ex-fianc?. We threw a small "You're not getting married" party for her on what would have been her wedding night - gifts were all fun stuff like new wine glasses, Cosmo mix for her SATC wannabe moments, etc. and we drank a fair amount. It was a pretty awesome party and she was grateful to not be home alone that night.
My point is that this idea is thrown out as a party the MTB can throw for herself when she doesn't think a shower is going to be thrown. And it's also used as an excuse by MTB's. "I just want to celebrate my pregnancy!!!!!".
Someone throwing their own " yay- I'm PG" party is AWish and a cheap excuse to supposedly get around the "oh, I'm not supposed to throw myself a shower" etiquette rule.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Provided no mention of gifts were mentioned, I would be more than happy to go to a meet the baby party with gift in hand because I'm happy for my friend and actually do want to see the baby. If you aren't that close to someone or aren't geniunely happy for their new arrival, its very easy to decline. Im all for etiquette but not every moment of our lives has to be stuffed in obscurity b/c it might upset one or two people.
This - exactly. I too used donor sperm and to be honest, I'm loving the whole experience of being pregnant and single.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Let me make sure I'm reading this correctly.... you had two showers for each of your first two kids and are having another two for this kid?
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
So, congratulations?
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Thank you
I love hosting parties as much as the next person--ok, probably a lot more--but IMO the point of throwing a party is about spending time with friends and providing a place, food, and drink for us to have a good time together. It's not about "Look at (fill in the blank life milestone or moment I want you to notice)!" If you want to throw a party to celebrate your pregnancy, you probably aren't really interested in the "throwing a party" part--you're interested in people paying attention to you and acknowledging your milestone (when--I will be a jerk and say it--no one cares about this as much as you do). I think the "celebrating my pregnancy" parties fall in the same camp as incessant Facebook "look at me" updates and people who can't stop talking about themselves.