BF second LO

games2010

I posted this on the breastfeeding board too.

 

My DS is 3 weeks old and my DD is 2 3/4 years old.  I BF DD for 22 months and was very happy about it, but I find I feel trapped BFing my DS because I keep having to tell DD that I have to go feed the baby and I can't get out and do mommy-daughter things with her because I keep having to get home to feed the baby.  I'm not going to stop BFing but I was just wondering if anyone else didn't like it as much the second time for similar reasons.  It'd be nice to hear I'm not alone.

dosafyre

you don't nurse in public? I can ususally find a time with DD while out and about to throw a blanket over and nurse...in more desperate situations I nurse in the ergo walking around

I'm finding BFing bothers me less this time because I'm not chained to the couch like last time.

LER091811

Why would formula be any easier though? Kid still has to eat and at least with nursing you have a hand free. Maybe just try to make sure you are pumping regularly so you can bring bottles with you for those times you would otherwise be going home to nurse.

JulesFo

I totally understand. I wish I were more comfortable nursing in public, but I simply am not. And the last thing you need is to feel at all stressed while BF and trying to watch a toddler. Some ladies can do it, and I admire that!

I remind myself it is temporary. Also, I schedule outings after feedings and I will sometimes pump a bottle and bring it with me for playgroups, etc.

HTH! 

joyfullyfound

Huh. Ive never thought about that, but I can totally see why youd feel that way! Running after a kiddo with a breast feeding baby in tow is tough work... Good for you for keeping it up and being willing to make the sacrifice!! It wont be too much longer until your little guy can go longer between feedings, and then will be on solids too. Its a temporary inconvenience... keep reminding yourself of that.  

Have you considered getting a carrier that you can discreetly BF in? I know you still wouldnt be as available to your daughter as you were pre-baby, but it would be better than nothing...

Good luck!  

snicksnack

I totally understand where you are coming from I bf DD for 18 months but I feel bad for DS because when I am alone and DD is around it is hard for him to have a peaceful feed without having to stop etc.. I take DD to story time once a week and my mom watches DS.  I leave pumped milk but most days he eats right before we go. 

livinreality

JulesFo:

I totally understand. I wish I were more comfortable nursing in public, but I simply am not. And the last thing you need is to feel at all stressed while BF and trying to watch a toddler. Some ladies can do it, and I admire that!

I remind myself it is temporary. Also, I schedule outings after feedings and I will sometimes pump a bottle and bring it with me for playgroups, etc.

HTH! 

When out and about I normally nurse in the car with DS1 in his car seat, I have a special toy bag for DS1 just for nursing times (it has a magna doodle, some cars and a book or two at the moment) and we listen to his favorite cd... it works really well know that DS2 only nurses 10-15 minutes, it was a little harder when DS2 was younger but I told DS1 it was our job to take care of DS2 which included feeding him.  

games2010

It's not the nursing in public that I mind, it's that I can't have any alone time with DD.  DH takes her on special trips to the waterpark or berry picking etc. so they have special time together, but I can't do that because I have to have DS with me too.  I know she needs to get used to sharing me but I feel bad that we can't have that alone time together.

JulesFo

er9645a:

It's not the nursing in public that I mind, it's that I can't have any alone time with DD.  DH takes her on special trips to the waterpark or berry picking etc. so they have special time together, but I can't do that because I have to have DS with me too.  I know she needs to get used to sharing me but I feel bad that we can't have that alone time together.

I get this too. She asked me yesterday not to hold the baby. I asked why and she said," because I miss you when you hold her." (aww!)