Time Out controversy

DreadLoc

I make her stand on the street corner with a sandwich board stating what she did and how stupid that action was.

 

 

Public humiliation.

 

Works for us. 

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Loppy19:

KC_13:

Because I think there's a difference between sitting with my kid in my lap while I talk to him/cuddle him vs making him sit in a corner for 2 minutes because he misbehaved?

You are unbelievable. With every insult your insecurity and lack of intelligence shine through. Congratulations.

Time out =/= standing in a corner. Maybe in some families it does, but it's not a universal rule. You are putting your kid in time out whether or not you are willing to come down off that high horse you put yourself on long enough to admit it. 

What the author was referencing in the original article that we're discussing is the use of punitive time-outs--read the first paragraph of the article to get her definition. If time out involves cuddling and talking to your child and NOT ignoring them for some set period of time before talking to them about what they did, it's not a time-out in the way that the article we're discussing states. Sitting with your child and hugging and talking to them is what the article is PROMOTING when your child hits/bites. No one would advocate that if your child is out of control to not remove them from what they're doing to help them regain control of their emotions. What positive discipline advocates like the author have a problem with is using time-outs as your go-to form of punishment for misbehavior.

For more information on positive time out--

https://www.positivediscipline.com/articles_teacher/PositiveTimeOut.html

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GhostMonkey:

KC_13:

Because I think there's a difference between sitting with my kid in my lap while I talk to him/cuddle him vs making him sit in a corner for 2 minutes because he misbehaved?

You are unbelievable. With every insult your insecurity and lack of intelligence shine through. Congratulations.

No, because you are so unbelievably dense.

And didn't you just insult me, also making you insecure and dumb? Oh. Didn't realize it works both ways?

No, I didn't. I pointed out the simple fact for you that when someone has to resort to personal attacks in a debate they show they lack intelligence and security in their convictions.

I'm not going to engage you anymore because clearly you have no interest in actually having an intelligent conversation and just want to attack due to your own insecurities.

kimbo1216

@NewFamily09, I totally agree with what you said.

I really can't take any more of this PC parenting.  And frankly, I think that is part of what's wrong with the way we our raising our children.  Life is not always puppies and rainbows, and it's our job to prepare are children for that and teach them how to be happy, thriving individuals in spite of that big, bad nasty world out there.

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Loppy19:

KC_13:

Loppy19:

KC_13:

Because I think there's a difference between sitting with my kid in my lap while I talk to him/cuddle him vs making him sit in a corner for 2 minutes because he misbehaved?

You are unbelievable. With every insult your insecurity and lack of intelligence shine through. Congratulations.

Time out =/= standing in a corner. Maybe in some families it does, but it's not a universal rule. You are putting your kid in time out whether or not you are willing to come down off that high horse you put yourself on long enough to admit it. 

What the author was referencing in the original article that we're discussing is the use of punitive time-outs--read the first paragraph of the article to get her definition. If time out involves cuddling and talking to your child and NOT ignoring them for some set period of time before talking to them about what they did, it's not a time-out in the way that the article we're discussing states. Sitting with your child and hugging and talking to them is what the article is PROMOTING when your child hits/bites. No one would advocate that if your child is out of control to not remove them from what they're doing to help them regain control of their emotions. What positive discipline advocates like the author have a problem with is using time-outs as your go-to form of punishment for misbehavior.

For more information on positive time out--

https://www.positivediscipline.com/articles_teacher/PositiveTimeOut.html

I didn't read the article.

You still put your kid in time out, in the larger sense of the word. Just own it.

ETA: See #2

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/time-out

Did you actually read what you linked in #2?? See time out defined for English-language learners, which states:

a short period of time when a child must sit quietly as punishment for behaving badly